Poll: Is sex sacred to you?

[FamoFunk]

Sex is just something to give me pleasure. Oh, and give me my child.

I was active from age 14 and it doesn't bother me that I have a high number etc. it has no special meaning for me.

I do have total respect to those who think it special and should be saved for the right person or marriage, as long as they're cool with me just enjoying sex for who whole getting laid and have a good time thing.

 

[Sexual Harassment Panda]

To me, sex is like ferrero rocher.

If it's offered, I'll have some...but I'd never go out and buy some, nor do I believe the hype surrounding either.

I get annoyed when I have the ambassador over and I have no ferrero rocher, you just know he's going to expect something similiar instead.

 

[AndyFromMonday]

It's just sex. Who gives a shit who you have it with? This whole "sex is sacred" thing seems quite childish to me.

 

[Mallefunction]

Well still being a virgin, my first time is sacred to me. Not because of any religious reason, I just know that I want to remember my first time as a happy event (just like my first real date and kiss were). My mother often talks about her first time with this happy look on her face despite the fact that she no longer lovers and hasn't been with that man for well over 30 years. I want that kind of memory for myself.

After that, I'd probably still be choosey over who I'd take to my bed, but I would be a lot more liberal about it than I am now.

 

[poleboy]

Not really, but in my experience it's a lot harder to have good sex with someone you barely know... sex doesn't get really good until you know the other person and their habits well. The reason that one-night stands can feel great is probably more because you just released several months or years of sexual tension than because it was something special. That's my theory anyway.

Nothing is sacred to me...

Also this. Whenever someone tells me something is sacred, my first thought is often "Okay, how can I defile it?"

The biggest divergence from the metaphor is that while I can ration and remain vigilantly in control of my drug usage, sex can cloud my judgment in ways that would make a heroin addict shake his head in disgust. I've never truly gotten lost in a drug, but god damn, have I gotten lost in some women.

Quoted for very uncomfortable truth. I know exactly what you mean. And if you get involved with both at the same time... oh man.

 

[Britisheagle]

Depends on whether you are just having sex or are trying for a baby.

My first time was special, waited til I found the right girl and all that, but since then its been great, but not exactly sacred. Yes I'd miss it if I couldn't have it but thats because its a good experience.

Where as if I wanted to but couldn't have kids it would mean the world tome. If that makes any sense at all..

 

[Seventh Actuality]

Nope, sex and morality are completely unconnected. Share as much or as little of yourself with others as you feel comfortable with and don't judge anybody else for having different ideas.

 

[Hugga_Bear]

Neither? It's definitely not sacred, I'm an atheist for one thing. However it's not mundane either. I don't think it's anything other than a great and wondrous experience, it can be shitty and it can be meaningless but in general sex is a bonding moment and a fantastically fun one at that. So...neither. It's more than mundane and sacred means nothing to me.

 

[Avalanche91]

Let me put it like this

First it was, when I was a virgin
Then it wasn't, when I wasnt a virgin anymore

Now I do have my own set of rules about how to go on about it, but I doubt they are very exclusive. Respect, intimicy, etc etc

 

[ZippyDSMlee]

I don't get casual sex, perhaps its part of being a well balanced mature being I do not get. I see sex as something special not to be taken lighty but not insanely serious.

 

[teisjm]

It can be completely meanligless fun, even with someone I don't care a lot about, and it can be somehting really intimate with someone I care deeply for.
As for sacred, i never had any spiritual/relegious/higher meaning with sex, and doubt i ever will.
It's a perfectly natural thing between two people (or more if you get really lucky ) but i never considered it more than that.

 

[LordFisheh]

There's no set value because there's nothing to make it so, just a bunch of opinions. Personal stances towards sex are fine; stances that pretend to be some kind of ultimate truth just because, less so. Hence why I get pretty annoyed when people complain about 'sluts' or whatever.

 

[SckizoBoy]

For an example just off the top of my head, the priestesses in mesopotamia used to be prostitutes. Priestitutes as it were.

That just got me thinking about a weird comedy skit about 'platonic prostitutes'...

tl;dr Sex is an issue of RESPECT

Which would be more important in your opinion: respect of self; or respect of the partner?

Personally, I consider 'trust' to be a better indicator...

I think it's sacred in that it shouldn't be squandered on random people you don't care about or even know, but I don't believe in any of that "Sex before marriage is wrong and dooms you to hell" bullshit.

... yep, that'll do me, thank you.

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' ... two questions: where's your local temple? and may I come along?! =P

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And that pretty much sums up word for word what I wanted to say...

OT: Since I've been beaten to the punch, I'll expand:

Fucking - nope, that's just mutually assisted masturbation, purely functional.
Shagging - not really, it's uncommitted, won't go anywhere but it's fun.
Lovemaking - again, not really...

And I'll qualify, the act itself is just biology, hormones and an aspect of natural behaviour. However, the emotional connection between the partners is [insert synonym of 'sacred'].

 

[ajemas]

Whenever I encounter someone who says that sex is completely meaningless to them, and that it is just meat slapping against meat and therefore nothing to get worked up about, I like to present them with the following scenario:
Let's say that you have a girl/boyfriend who you have been with for a long time and have strong feelings for. Now let's say that your girl/boyfriend has sex with an entire football/cheerleading team. Assuming that they all used protection, would you feel the same way about your lover? Once you put it in that setting, it ceases to become a physical process and something that has to be shared between you two.

That's an amazing way to put it into perspective, mind if I borrow that for future use?

Certainly! To be fair though, I actually borrowed it from a David Wong article on Cracked, so don't think that I am quite that clever!

 

[Bara_no_Hime]

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' ... two questions: where's your local temple? and may I come along?! =P

My local temple is my bedroom. My offerings are candles and incense. My prayers, orgasms.

... I also sometimes hang out at the Unitarian Universalist church, but I don't get naked there. I mostly just sing non-denominational hymns.

 

[Radelaide]

Virginity isn't that special. Speaking from someone who lost it to a scalpel, virginity isn't special but the person who have sex with is.

You lost your virginity...to a scalpel...

Do you want that to be the statement that goes on record? Or do you want to reword that?

Imperforate Hymen: look it up.

Alright...so your hymen was broken in a non-sexual before your first time. That's rather different than losing your virginity.

It's a joke I make. The point is, I tried losing my virginity the traditional way but it was too painful. That doesn't seem sacred to me at all, it seems like a hurdle.

 

[Zorak the Mantis]

For the most part I think it is, although some time a lay is just a lay.