Poll: IS there something wrong with my friend?

[MiracleOfSound]

[ No singleplayer cannot compete against it and only feminists and french people disagree.

That's just silly.

It's just rewarding in a different way.

It's immersive escapism as opposed to competitive buzz.

I've gotten more good times out of Fallout 3 than any multiplayer game.

 

[Boba Frag]

No it's not wrong. He DOES sound like a bit of a douche, but that's his right.

Yeah... I'm kinda glad someone else said it first... He sounds like a toolbag.
Preferences is one thing, but playing just so you can feel superior to people you beat?
Granted, winning feels great, but it's not the reason I play- I play to have fun with friends.

There's lots of people like that, and in my experience... they don't make great company.

Perhaps you should talk to him about this if it bothers you so much.
Hope it works out for you, man.

 

[SextusMaximus]

It's in human nature to be competetive, I play for both - to get fun in singleplayer, and be competitive in multiplayer.

 

[albinoterrorist]

It's not wrong.

While it is a fairly bad attitude, it's not wrong.

Personally, I feel it's best to have a half-way house between you two.

I myself play multiplayer all the time, and DO take pleasure from outwitting opponents (particularly if I can play them off against each other, like in Defcon), however I feel completely ignoring the singleplayer aspect of a game is pretty bad. I mean, the developers put weeks, if not months, of effort into it.

Plus, some games are just such an experience in singleplayer that i'll end up spending more time in it than on the online modes (the MGS series probably being the best example).

 

[Ham_authority95]

Well, I can't say it's wrong, it's a choice, but it is quite egotistical of him, I'll say that much. Games should be played for enjoyment, that's the reason they're created, playing them so you can boost your ego isn't a particularly good thing to do.

The above pretty much sums up my opinion.

Games should be played for fun, not make you think that other people are below you.

But its his choice.

 

[coldshadow]

he limits himself and therefor it is his loss.

 

[acosn]

As much as I'd say that it's a huge problem, it's still his problem, and his loss.

If you can only enjoy something when you're rubbing it in someone else's face (IE: Winning.) you're effectively still a child who's just gotten older.

 

[Wrds]

Your friend isn't really wrong, he's just self destructive.

From what you describe, I can assume that your friend has the need to constantly be validated. He feels like he needs to prove himself and be praised or revered by others to be happy in life.

It's not uncommon, it's just that the day might come when he isn't being validated and people aren't recognizing him for his achievements...There's no telling what he might do on that day.

 

[Project_Omega]

yep, he is an asshole without a life.
and obviously a child, who just wants to win his little game.

 

[Galad]

Maybe it's not wrong, but he's certainly missing out.

Plus, few opinions are so firmly set in stone that no amount of discussion can change them..

 

[Sight Unseen]

Sounds a lot like my brother who will barely ever play a game that doesn't have online. If I tell him to try out a really awesome game (AC2 as an example) and it doesn't have online, then he won't even touch it.

 

[NEVRINx54]

to each his own...

 

[Entropyutd]

Simple answer, your friend is a douchebag.

longer answer: That's just life, the problem for you will be when his competetive assholery spills over into real life, maybe over girls, maybe other stuff.
It could just be tiny weeny syndrome, but it could be an issue later in your friendship.

 

[brettskibols]

If your friend wants to play games for multiplayer only thats their choice, it doesn't make it bad it just means they see things differently to you.

 

[kurupt87]

No, it's not bad, your friend just likes to compete and prove himself.

My brother is the same really, he only plays multiplayer games, things like: FIFA Ultimate League (I think it's called?); CoD:MW; Street Fighter; Tekken and WoW (both a damn good PvP'er and end game raider). He likes to beat people, nothing wrong with that at all, and it's definately healthier with a game than doing it any other way.

I enjoy all those things greatly too, but generally prefer a good story and immersive experience to a MP proving ground.

 

[ATLAS -.-]

the urge to compete and win is part of humanity i believe, it's just that some people find this (way) more important then others

as for myself: i don't give a crap if i win or lose, i just want to have a good time when i play multiplayer games.

Seconded

 

[Dr. Awesome Face]

Okay so I'll try and keep this brief. I have this friend who I am constantly arguing with, most arguments are a waste of time because they are about personal preferences which won't be changed despite the amount of evidence given. One of the biggest arguments we have is about how I play single player games and how he only plays multiplayer games. We ended up arguing about this again today and when I said that I play games to have fun, I discovered that he plays games only so that he can say he is better than someone else.

Here's my question: Is this wrong? It seems completely wrong to me that a person would only play games to beat other people and only finds that aspect fun. Is this bad or do other people play for this reason as well?

EDIT: I don't think that he is wrong for thinking this way, I just couldn't really think of a good way to word it. I am basically asking if this is a healthy way of approaching games

its a healthy way to approach any competitive scene, tell him to get starcraft 2 if he hasnt already signed up for beta and gotten it. This man could enjoy any kind of sport really, its just that his preference lies in games it all follows the same feelings and emotions.

He will excell and be good at something, compete in whateer he chooses to compete in with others and engage in a global community.

You will play single player, alone in the dark not even getting laid.

Id say your singleminded view is a product of feminisation of our society and you should really reconsider what you spend your time doing. Your not the special singleplayer kid, in fact your friend is of the more capable sort. He will learn that effort = success in life.

You will learn nothing of the sort, and your circle of friends will dwindle to a handfull unable to find common ground with them they will eventually become images on your facebook account while you flip burgers on mcdonalds to faceless people so you can fuel your single player fun.

Just face it. Single player is like masturbation, in the end your still doing it alone.

Incredible. You sound exactly like the guy I am talking about. He too has made the "single player is masturbation" argument and I told him to fuck off. What "single-minded view" are you talking about exactly? the question I was asking was whether this was a normal thing and whether or not that is a good way to approach gaming as well as life (which he does). Also this is the guy that puts zero effort into EVERYTHING and still manages to be successful. Clearly the two of you are of the same "exclusively multiplayer breed". unfortunately this proves that there is indeed more of you, which is exactly what I was trying to find out. So get stuffed you forum trolling berk.

 

[Irony's Acolyte]

I do think something is wrong with that. Its one thing to try to be the best you can be, or just be the plain best, by competing amongst others. Its a whole nother thing to try to beat people just so that you can go: *Cue Cartman voice* "Hahahahahaha, I'm better than yoooouuu!" That's pratically schadenfreude, which isn't a very good reason to be doing something. By the sounds of it your friend seems to be playing games just he can spite others by beating them and making sure they know he beat them. In that case he's just a regular douche.

 

[Sjakie]

Yes, i think your friend has a bit of a self-esteem problem if he only plays so he can feel superior over others.