Poll: Moral Dilemma: To make contact or not to make contact?

[Mr Smith]

Without going into too much detail...

Today a girl came into my work. She was very attractive and seemed nice enough. While I didn't speak with her at too great a length, when I did she gave me strange "come hither" looks, which may have meant she was subtly flirting with me or maybe she just looks at everyone like that. I later found out that she's a model and by the powers of research (i.e. Google) I have discovered that she has a Facebook account. I do not have Facebook and have been rather resistant to getting one up to this point.

So now I'm debating whether I should open a Facebook account just so that I can send her a message to say hello (probably not a Friend Request yet). Something along the lines of "Hello. How are you? I was that guy". Nothing ventured, nothing gained is what I'm thinking. On the other hand, I'm worried if sending such a message unsolicited would be creepy and stalker-ish. She also lives a couple of thousand kilometres away, but that doen't factor in so much as that other concern.

Any advice what I might do?

 

[Monkey Dust]

Ask yourself 'is she out of my league?', if the answer is yes, don't bother. It is possible to bag yourself a girl who is out of your league, but it takes more than a quick conversation.

 

[Subzerowings]

Facebook?
Damn it man, talk to her directly!
Ask yourself: "What have I got to lose?"
If it's not much, go ahead and ask her out/ talk to her.
If it is a lot, go ahead and ask her out/ talk to her.

 

[Mintycabbage]

Facebook is for maintaining friends, not making friends. If you really liked her, you should have asked for her number (she won't have minded, if she really was flirting). You have missed your chance. For God sake don't talk to her on facebook because strangers talking to people on their facebook freaks them out.

 

[Outright Villainy]

Facebook is for maintaining friends, not making friends. If you really liked her, you should have asked for her number (she won't have minded, if she really was flirting). You have missed your chance. Don't let her obese your mind and for God sake don't talk to her on facebook because strangers talking to people on their facebook, freaks them out.

Sounds about right. Facebook is not the place to pick up women. You should chat to people face to face if you're interested. Show a little initiative!

 

[HT_Black]

Say hi to her in person. Then just wing it from there.

 

[Jamash]

The fact that you think this is a moral dilemma (and are unwilling to go into too much detail) implies that you have something nefarious in mind.

It's not immoral to talk to girls... so whatever you've got planned I suggest you don't do it, it's probably illegal in most countries and frowned upon in others.

 

[Mr Smith]

Ask yourself 'is she out of my league?', if the answer is yes, don't bother. It is possible to bag yourself a girl who is out of your league, but it takes more than a quick conversation.

Likely she is very, very out of my league.

Facebook?
Damn it man, talk to her directly!
Ask yourself: "What have I got to lose?"
If it's not much, go ahead and ask her out/ talk to her.
If it is a lot, go ahead and ask her out/ talk to her.

If it were possible, I would have prefered to speak to her directly. Unfortunately the situation makes it difficult at this point.

Facebook is for maintaining friends, not making friends. If you really liked her, you should have asked for her number (she won't have minded, if she really was flirting). You have missed your chance. For God sake don't talk to her on facebook because strangers talking to people on their facebook freaks them out.

I couldn't ask for her number at work. Professionalism and all that. The freeking out is the thing that worries me.

Facebook is for maintaining friends, not making friends. If you really liked her, you should have asked for her number (she won't have minded, if she really was flirting). You have missed your chance. Don't let her obese your mind and for God sake don't talk to her on facebook because strangers talking to people on their facebook, freaks them out.

Sounds about right. Facebook is not the place to pick up women. You should chat to people face to face if you're interested. Show a little initiative!

I would prefer to say something face-to-face if the opportunity came up again, but as it is it probably won't.

Say hi to her in person. Then just wing it from there.

I'd love to, but I can't really right now.

The fact that you think this is a moral dilemma (and are unwilling to go into too much detail) implies that you have something nefarious in mind.

It's not immoral to talk to girls... so whatever you've got planned I suggest you don't do it, it's probably illegal in most countries and frowned upon in others.

The moral dilemma is more to do whether setting up an account of Facebook so I can say hello is too stalker-ish or not. I have nothing untoward in mind. I just really don't like Facebook.

 

[Fridge]

Carpe Diem, just go for it. The worst that can happen is she shoots you down, just be careful on how you approach it.

 

[Risingblade]

Talk to her directly first or you'll come off as a stalker

 

[Hashime]

Talk to her in person, it is both cooler, and will give you a better (93% better) read on her intentions and personality.

 

[Sneaky-Pie]

It's way more creepy to initiate contact through the web in my opinion.

If you happen to see her again, just talk to her. Don't ask for any contact information. Simply talk and if she's interesting, go from there.

 

[Naheal]

Walk up and talk to her. The idea of her being "out of your league" is an idiotic one at best. Try it. All you're doing is putting your ego on the table and if it takes a hit, use that situation as an opportunity to find out where you went wrong (don't ask her, piece this together yourself).

 

[Marowit]

If she comes back in, regularly, and chats you up then you shouldn't need to stalk her to get in contact with her.

I'd be money that she'd feel pretty weirded-out if you made a facebook account to contact her especially if she never gave you her name.

 

[Stein Inge]

Just go for it man! What´s the worst that can happen?

 

[Jasper Jeffs]

That's pretty weird really. Like, I was speaking to a girl at University recently when we were waiting for a teacher, and we basically both got taken to different places. I know her name, and I could add her on Facebook, but I won't for that reason; it's stalker-ish. Plus, if you do add her, she'll know that you've just signed up, and you'll have like 1 friend, which could either be a positive or a negative.

Also, this will sound very prejudice I imagine, but maybe she just likes being flirty because she's a model? I'm friends with a model, and she's like that, although maybe she's like that for a reason and I'm reading my entire situation the wrong way, but that's irrelevant.

On the other hand, you could completely disregard what I've just said and make an FB account. If you don't have one, what's the worst that could happen? You are the only one here that knows what she was acting like, if you think she was genuinely interested in you, then go for it.

 

[Irony's Acolyte]

If we look past the fact that this is not a moral dilemma, I'd say just talk to her. If she seems interested in you just walk up and say "Hey" or something. But I wouldn't make a Facebook account just to send a message to her. It would be so much easier to just talk to her. Plus it would seem a bit weird that you looked her up on Google and found her Facebook account.

 

[GeorgW]

I'd say that you have practically no chance, but try any way! Just weigh the pros and cons, in my book it's worth the humiliation.

 

[Keela]

I'd talk to her. I have confidence issues sometimes, but as of late I can say this with more assuredness than ever: The more you talk to her, the more comfortable you will be. Go for it, but don't come off as too flirty or too interested yet. I know you know this already, since you have enough intelligence to use a keyboard, but it's all about confidence. I know this from experience, since I'm finally coming out of my shell after four and a half years of living where I am now.