Poll: My best friend cheated on my other best friend.

[Coolness]

(Oh yeah, it's one of *those* threads. Sorry.)

It's pretty much in the title. My best female friend went on vacation with her all female friends, wound up intoxicated, and wound up cheating on my best guy friend, who was mostly sitting around playing WoW. She was presumably forced either directly or indirectly by the others, but either way, for relationship/drama, the most logical source to consult is the intarwebz.

So, what should I do?

 

[Berserker119]

Unless it becomes a bigger problem, just leave it.

 

[FactualSquirrel]

Pretty one sided poll thar matey.

But yeah, just try and help.

I don't know enough to give specific information, but suggest her telling him, 'cos otherwise that will never work.

 

[wooty]

I've been in this position myself, personally I stayed the hell out of their problems. Other people got involved and ended up being drawn into the whole argument and being accused of this and that.

 

[Angry Caterpillar]

I would officially remove myself from the situation and continue to hang out with them separately until a solution has been reached, and hopefully after that you can hang out together again. If not, continue separately.

 

[VanityGirl]

Just don't get in between their problems. Stay away

 

[Chogg Van Helsing]

OTHER:

purge the weakness of humanity and kill shit!

works for me every time, my problems just disappear, especiall if ppl are the source of my problem!

 

[wolf92]

you should plead the fifth if asked, and stay out it if you never asjed

 

[p3t3r]

i don't really know perhaps make a thread about it on a gaming website. just kidding i don't know. get another different friend and the girl then go for a long walk and talk about it. thats what would probably happen to me if i were involved except i would just be the one getting dragged along

 

[Gigaguy64]

Nothing.
Stay out of it unless asked, and even then be careful about what you say.
This is something that needs to stay between them.

 

[Yureina]

These stories always make me sick...

I'm not sure what i'd do, to be honest. Chances are i'd try to stay out, but inevitably my feelings of extreme contempt for whose who cheat in relationships would rear its head. I'd probably end up siding with your friends that got cheated on and try to make him feel better, and to hell with the rest.

THat's what I would do, but I'm not sure that's what you should do.

 

[Trivun]

Stay the hell out. You aren't part of the relationship, and you have nothing to do with whatever happened. So just stay out of the conflict, and maintain both friendships as normal. If in the event that your two best fiends split up, then comfort whoever you feel deserves comforting, by all means, but while there's a conflict, just stay away. It's a no-brainer, really...

 

[Nickolai77]

The problem with staying out of the situation is that both of them, being your close friends, will expect your support. Your female friend will want your sympathy and believe your side of the story, whilst your male friend will want you to believe their side of the story and expect you to believe them.

I've been in a similar situation, and i recommend just acting very tactfully. I know that is not very direct or perhaps useful advise, but its the best i can offer. Politely be there to support both your friends seperatly, give the impression that you sympathise with them but never say anything which may offend the other party. Don't hide the fact that your commicating with both parties, and make sure they know, via subtle means, that you presumably plan to remain friends with both of them. So yeah, be tactful, and be carful what you say, and be supportive to both parties.

Unless that is you feel it would be unjustified to support one of them for whatever reason, in which case prepare to lose a friend in exchange for preserving your sense of honour.

 

[Pimppeter2]

When in doubt, quote Futurama

"I just wish I knew why? Why Should I care?"

Preferably in a Zap-like voice.

 

[child of lileth]

No one forced her to cheat. She decided to get drunk, and used that as an excuse to make it okay. Either way, just stay out of it. I'm going to assume they are teenagers anyway, so this is pretty much insignificant in the long run of both of their lives. I hate to put it that way, but realistically, that's how it is.

 

[Stryc9]

Stay the hell out of it, you'll end up pissing one or the other of them off if you try to offer any advice on the subject.

 

[Insanum]

Does it involve you?

Just sit back and watch the fireworks. All you'll do is antagonise the situation even with the best of intentions.

 

[Hawgh]

Do not get involved. If they insist on dragging you in, beat them back with a stick if necessary.

 

[sunburst]

Whatever you do, don't invite the both of them over to your place without letting either no the other one is coming too then put on the Kill Bill fight music and watch sparks fly while eating popcorn. Even if it seems like a good idea at the time, you will regret doing so. It cannot not end well.

But seriously, stay out of it. Intentionally interjecting yourself into a fight between your two best friends is a horrible idea no matter how noble your intentions are or tactfully you approach the subject. If they directly ask for your opinion, be extremely cautious. Vague sympathy works.