Poll: My little problem.

[Leopard]

See I'm kinda hooking up with this girl, but she has already been out with one of my close friends. They went out for less than 2 months, a year ago, and it wasn't serious at all. Do I need to talk to him before I make it "offical"? If so how do you suggest I do it as I am hopeless when it comes to touchy feely emotional stuff... or any other kinda of mature conversation. Any help would be much appriciated. Thanks.

 

[eggy32]

Why would you need to speak to him?
He went out with her ages ago and now he isn't. He's no longer involved.

 

[Jjtricky]

Psychic Time:

1/3 of this thread will be "Not another relationship thread/Why ask the internet" responses
1/3 of this thread will be genuine advice e.g. "It is always good to make sure, Ask him anyway" responses

And how to do it? Hopefully the final 1/3 will point to this link:

http://www.escapistmagazine.com/forums/read/9.220396-Asking-a-girl-out-with-Pokemon-Red?page=1

Genuine advice? Ask him anyway, perhaps he can help you get her, if he is a good friend. But you SHOULD go with the pokemon

 

[Johnnyallstar]

Here's a general rule of thumb for you.

If he broke up with her, then she's fair game from minute 1. He decided to leave her so his opinion doesn't matter.

If she broke up with him, then there's a 3 month period before you're allowed to go for it without at least his knowledge, unless he gives allowance.

But it's been over a year, so you're in the clean regardless of how their relationship broke apart.

 

[Bruin]

See I'm kinda hooking up with this girl, but she has already been out with one of my close friends. They went out for less than 2 months, a year ago, and it wasn't serious at all. Do I need to talk to him before I make it "offical"? If so how do you suggest I do it as I am hopeless when it comes to touchy feely emotional stuff... or any other kinda of mature conversation. Any help would be much appriciated. Thanks.

If you're like most males and "hooking up" just means "have sex with and then later forget about", then no; the "bros before hos" rule applies there--drop her because she's not worth it.

If it's more than that and worth potentially losing a friend over, do it--date her, because she may be worth it.

But considering the age of the people on internet forums in general, I think it'd be the former instead of the latter.

 

[default]

Are you serious? Just get with her.

Just because your friend went out with her (for two months, and over a year ago...) doesn't give him any hold on her. Are you going to go and ask the ex-boyfriends of every girl you like if it's okay?

Screw your friend, if you like her do whatever you want. It obviously didn't work out between them anyway.

 

[nunqual]

He doesn't like her, prolly never did considering it was never serious, so just go for it. I mean, don't be like, "What's up man, I'm banging your ex!", be courteous.

 

[Mimssy]

Well, if he's your friend, you'd likely tell him about any girl before you make it official. You don't need to ask him permission, but you should at least tell him before he finds out through mutual friends and the internet (both are shitty ways to find out anything about someone you are close to).

 

[Hstgonzo]

Having been on the other side of this.....

I'd give him some warning. At least let him no your intentons. I figured it out very quickly-my ex dumped me, she'd met someone else' and I went and drained a bottle of Grouse. Went round to mates flat and he mentioned in passing he was meeting her for lunch (I'd yet to tell him about break up). Even in my wasted state 1+1=2. I told him what was going to happen and I've never seen anyone look so frightened of me. I told him it was fine, that as he hadn't gone behind m back he had m blessing.

Anyway to quit rambling, just let him know and, if he asks tell him that you've only just really started to show an interest.

 

[Paksenarrion]

Make sure to ask if you can hold her hand and stuff. Remember, the girl has no say in the matter. Bros before sentient thinking beings, dude.

 

[Dark2003]

i understand where its none of his damn business, but you should tell him anyway, cuz hes you friends hes gonna find out eventually, he might not even care

 

[Shilkanni]

This is far from my area of expertise, but I had heard these were the rules:
1. You have to ask.
2. He has to say it's okay.

 

[Bruin]

Make sure to ask if you can hold her hand and stuff. Remember, the girl has no say in the matter. Bros before sentient thinking beings, dude.

The OP said "hooking up with", which is generally a consensual thing.

 

[Paksenarrion]

Make sure to ask if you can hold her hand and stuff. Remember, the girl has no say in the matter. Bros before sentient thinking beings, dude.

The OP said "hooking up with", which is generally a consensual thing.

So the girl already said yes? Why ask the other guy then if it's been a year? Oh, you mean, give him a heads up?

 

[Bruin]

Make sure to ask if you can hold her hand and stuff. Remember, the girl has no say in the matter. Bros before sentient thinking beings, dude.

The OP said "hooking up with", which is generally a consensual thing.

So the girl already said yes? Why ask the other guy then if it's been a year? Oh, you mean, give him a heads up?

Yes.

 

[Leopard]

O by the way incase any of you were care enough to still be interested, I asked her out, she said yes, talked to him about it later and he's totally cool with it. Which is awesome.

 

[LogicNProportion]

I always say no to a girl if she's either in the group, or has dated one of my friends.

Just adds up to some bad mojo in the long-run, from what I've experienced and seen.

 

[TheRightToArmBears]

Don't bother. It was a 2 month relationship, it couldn't have been that serious. Unless she did something awful to him then he's just pathetic if he still cares after a year.

EDIT:

O by the way incase any of you were care enough to still be interested, I asked her out, she said yes, talked to him about it later and he's totally cool with it. Which is awesome.

Congratulations. There always people on here who make these threads, but they never have the nuts to do it. If I was more of a douche, you would get a bro-fist.