Poll: No tolerance zone for bitching

[Zantos]

I reckon it was pretty justified. I lived with a girl like that all last year.

Seriously, my TV was crappy, I didn't have enough games she liked, my kitchen stuff was cheap and shitty, I didn't wash up properly, I didn't get my clothes out of the washing machine or off the line in time. All this while she contributed nothing to the communal areas of the house, never did her washing up and always just left clothes in the washer or on the line until someone else did it.

Seriously, some people just need to learn to shut up and be appreciative. I think you probably taught her a good lesson in that today, good on you.

 

[Canadamus Prime]

You know, this kind reminds me of this one time back in High School when I was at a gathering with my friends. Now at the time I was the only one in my group of friends who had their driver's license so naturally I ended up giving quite a few of them rides. On this particular occasion it also happened to be the dead of winter and I had to adjust my driving accordingly. So when it came time to take people home, after a few intersections, I got a few snide remarks about how I'd pump the brakes to avoid sliding on icy roads. This irritated the hell out of me, none of them had even a learners permit, and here they were backseat driving. I don't think I said anything at the time, but it's like "ok, who all here has their driver's license? Oh just me. Ok then SHUT UP!"

 

[thirion1850]

...Ya know what, no. You didn't overreact. You're doing her a favor - you don't have to. You don't owe her shit. Hence it's up to you to unlock the door and tell her to drag her own ass to work and she can cry about it on said account all she pleases. Tolerance for stupid bullshit isn't acceptable, because stupid bullshit doesn't have to exist as an influence of anything worth defending.

 

[Leadfinger]

I think she needed a lesson on manners. A little walking never hurt anyone.

 

[Doc Theta Sigma]

I recently passed my test and have been using my mothers car since I really don't have they money for my own right now. I'm insured to drive it and everything before you start freaking out. Anyway. Last week I got a phone call from my best friend and his... Well I'm not sure what she is. He insists they're not dating but it seems otherwise. He asks if I want to go to the cinema, I say sure and offer to drive since he no longer has his car and hers was undergoing repairs.

My mothers car is a Hyundai i10. I arrive at his place and they both get into the backseat. Everything seems fine. I start the car up and off we go. Now. I always set the radio station to BBC Radio 4 simply because it's something I can listen to in the background but doesn't distract me. We get about halfway there when his "friend" leans forward from the back seat, complains that the radio station is "boring shit" and starts attempting to change the station. I immediately pull over and tell her to leave it alone since I don't appreciate her leaning over my shoulder to start pissing about with the radio. She glares at me and sits down, my best friend smiles sheepishly and off we go again. We get into the town where the cinema we're going to is. Traffic was pretty hectic so we're barely moving. And the whole time she's pointing out every tiny gap between the car we're in and the one in front, bitching about how we're gonna be late because I'm not closing an eight foot gap and how I generally can't drive. So after five minutes of this I pulled over at the next layby, turned the engine off and told her to get out.

She thought I was joking. I just said: "Get out. I'm not moving another inch in this car until you do. If you're that concerned you're going to be late then get there yourself."

She called me a prick, got out and my best friend went scrabbling after her. Moral of the story?

Don't criticise my driving and fiddle with the god damn radio from the back seat if you want me to take you somewhere.

 

[pspman45]

I think that OP deserves a few Internets for his story

 

[shitoutonme]

Tolerance for stupid bullshit isn't acceptable, because stupid bullshit doesn't have to exist as an influence of anything worth defending.

Quoted for truth, sir. Quoted for fucking truth.

 

[McMullen]

If that's how it went, I see nothing wrong with what you did. If you perform a kindness to someone, you should be able to expect gratitude rather than a stream of comments about the tools with which you do it. I have never made a negative comment about some deficiency in someone's car except the ones that the owner brought up first and that we had a little laugh about. Similarly, I suck at driving (in the sense of finding my way around, making the correct turns, etc., not in the sense of avoiding collisions) and am aware of it, and so are the people I've driven, but with one or two exceptions they've had the decency to not make an issue of it until I brought it up, because by driving them around I was doing them a favor.

If someone is rude to you while you're doing a favor there's absolutely nothing wrong with cancelling the favor. I don't know how she didn't see it coming, and I don't know why so many people here think you were unduly harsh. It was entirely within her power to not get dropped off on some street corner while running late for work. All she had to do was not be rude. If she didn't like you or your car, all she had to do was wait it out and then decline future offers for help and seek other means of transportation.

 

[McMullen]

Yeah, that's pretty extreme. So you have a shit car, and she observed as much. My brother always makes jokes about how shit his car is and he likes to laugh about it. This girl probably thought she was being playful. However, if I am to give you the benefit of the doubt and say that she was deliberately being snide and offensive, you could at least have given some indication that you are an overly sensitive child first, so she could have a chance to modify her behaviour.

While it depends a bit on how far you were from your destination, your actions were just rude and uncalled for. I mean, she "disrespected" your car? Really? You need to get the fuck over yourself.

Seriously?

It's not rude for your brother to talk about how shit his own car is. Nor would it be rude for his passenger to join in if it's being played for laughs. However, if the passenger were to talk about how shit the car was first as an actual complaint, before your brother had brought it up, and while your brother is doing them a favor, then yes, it's rude.

I'm not sure why you didn't see the difference, but oh well.

This was not an overly sensitive reaction, it was a perfectly reasonable response to a lack of gratitude. If I engaged in this behavior and didn't get asked to leave I would think the driver had self-esteem issues. If I'd been the driver, I would have given a warning first, also commenting on how bizarre and self-defeating her behavior was in the first place. I would also let her know that I would not be doing this for her again. Still, just telling her to GTFO is within the range of understandable reactions, though it is pretty close to the harsh end of that range.

 

[manic_depressive13]

Seriously?

It's not rude for your brother to talk about how shit his own car is. Nor would it be rude for his passenger to join in if it's being played for laughs. However, if the passenger were to talk about how shit the car was first as an actual complaint, before your brother had brought it up, and while your brother is doing them a favor, then yes, it's rude.

I'm not sure why you didn't see the difference, but oh well.

The passengers are often the first to comment, and my brothers response is always along the lines of: "Ha! You think that's bad? You should hear the noise it makes when I drive uphill.", and then everyone has a good chuckle while inwardly fearing for their safety. What he doesn't say is: "How dare you comment on the quality of a piece of machinery I own, get the fuck out of my sight. We're not friends anymore."

I already said I was tired of this argument. I think that what the OP did was very aggressive, and that's it. No amount of disagreement is going to make me feel that it's acceptable to have a rage fit and jeapardise a person's job over something so trivial. The end.

 

[spartan231490]

You know what pissed me off today? Getting dogged out by a girl I was trying to help. She needed a ride to work, and I offered to give her a ride, since she was on the way to Walmart, which was where I was heading. As soon as she saw my ride, she commented on how shitty it looked. Sure, she used kinder words, but the message was basically "Damn, you need to trade this in for an upgrade." I didn't mind that too much, since just about everyone says that, but hell, it's working well enough for me. Funny how people are quick to tell you to get new stuff and don't even have the money to afford it themselves.

Anyway, she ticked me off when she started bitching about how I didn't have a decent stereo and bass in the car, and her snide remark about the car's air conditioner being messed up was the last straw. I was a little pissed, but I kept my cool and didn't say shit. As soon as we came to the next stop light, I reached across her lap, unlocked the passenger door, pushed it open, and told her to get the fuck out.

Too cruel? Well, I've been meaning to do that for a while, to be honest. She was the 8th girl to disrespect me and my car when I'm trying to help her out. Never again. This is a no tolerance zone for whiny bitches who want to be seen riding around in a luxury car sitting on 22's. Fuck that shit. Bitches can walk to work.

And I suggest my fellow guys around the world to take up the same stance.

EDIT: Dang. Messed the poll up. Oh well.

EDIT2:
Ok. Admittedly, kicking her out the car was a dick move on my part, but I'm more so talking about the circumstances rather than just the action itself. She was on her way to work. For all I know, she might have been in at risk of losing her job for being tardy thanks to me making her walk, and I don't really wish that upon anybody, even if a girl is being a class A *****.

Another thing was that she upset me at a bad time. I had a heated argument with my English teacher that morning about how her grading methods are unfair and stupid (as far as I'm concerned, they're retarded), and since I felt wronged, I was more or less discontent and irritable the entire day. It's possible that I might not have reacted in such a manner to that girl's quips if I was in a better mood that day, but like I said, I've been meaning to kick someone out of my car for complaining.

On the other hand, her losing her job would be quite the lesson in appreciation and gratitude. Just sayin'.

And for all those wondering if my car really is just that crappy, it really isn't. I mean, it works just fine, besides the fact that it needs an alignment. The interior isn't obscenely dirty or torn up. The exterior does have a few dents and scratches, including the trunk nearly being mashed in to some extent, but nothing too serious. It's an old Honda Civic that has and is still serving me well.

All I'm saying is that if you don't want to be seen or ride in my car, your ass can walk.

it wasn't a dick move to kick her out of the car. She had been planning to walk, so she can walk, and aught to be thankful for as much of the ride she got, especially as she was being such a *****. Had you agreed to give her a ride ahead of time, then maybe that would be a bit of a dick move, but she shouldn't dis the car that's getting her to work. plain and simple. Arrogant prissy bitches can walk.

 

[Nuuu]

I would say it was justified if she was really complaining and whining about your car. Now if she was just saying "Your radio could be better" over "Your radio is a peice of crap that belongs in the trash" then it might not have been justified.

 

[CrazyGirl17]

I don't blame you, if someone was bitching while I was trying to help them I'd be mad too...

 

[JemothSkarii]

I think it's fair no matter the reason - she shouldn't have gotten in when you offered her a ride if she was just gonna criticize it. I would have just dealt with it, having a sense of chivalry and all, but if somebody does you a favour, you THANK them, not point out the faults of their methods.

 

[DefinitelyPsychotic]

You know what pissed me off today? Getting dogged out by a girl I was trying to help. She needed a ride to work, and I offered to give her a ride, since she was on the way to Walmart, which was where I was heading. As soon as she saw my ride, she commented on how shitty it looked. Sure, she used kinder words, but the message was basically "Damn, you need to trade this in for an upgrade." I didn't mind that too much, since just about everyone says that, but hell, it's working well enough for me. Funny how people are quick to tell you to get new stuff and don't even have the money to afford it themselves.

Anyway, she ticked me off when she started bitching about how I didn't have a decent stereo and bass in the car, and her snide remark about the car's air conditioner being messed up was the last straw. I was a little pissed, but I kept my cool and didn't say shit. As soon as we came to the next stop light, I reached across her lap, unlocked the passenger door, pushed it open, and told her to get the fuck out.

Too cruel? Well, I've been meaning to do that for a while, to be honest. She was the 8th girl to disrespect me and my car when I'm trying to help her out. Never again. This is a no tolerance zone for whiny bitches who want to be seen riding around in a luxury car sitting on 22's. Fuck that shit. Bitches can walk to work.

And I suggest my fellow guys around the world to take up the same stance.

EDIT: Dang. Messed the poll up. Oh well.

EDIT2:
Ok. Admittedly, kicking her out the car was a dick move on my part, but I'm more so talking about the circumstances rather than just the action itself. She was on her way to work. For all I know, she might have been in at risk of losing her job for being tardy thanks to me making her walk, and I don't really wish that upon anybody, even if a girl is being a class A *****.

Another thing was that she upset me at a bad time. I had a heated argument with my English teacher that morning about how her grading methods are unfair and stupid (as far as I'm concerned, they're retarded), and since I felt wronged, I was more or less discontent and irritable the entire day. It's possible that I might not have reacted in such a manner to that girl's quips if I was in a better mood that day, but like I said, I've been meaning to kick someone out of my car for complaining.

On the other hand, her losing her job would be quite the lesson in appreciation and gratitude. Just sayin'.

And for all those wondering if my car really is just that crappy, it really isn't. I mean, it works just fine, besides the fact that it needs an alignment. The interior isn't obscenely dirty or torn up. The exterior does have a few dents and scratches, including the trunk nearly being mashed in to some extent, but nothing too serious. It's an old Honda Civic that has and is still serving me well.

All I'm saying is that if you don't want to be seen or ride in my car, your ass can walk.

I agree with you. She's got some big ovaries insulting the person whose helping her out. Also, if she was seriously the eighth person who insulted your vehicle, then I'd feel the same exact way. Hell, I'd probably be just as sick of it after the third person!

 

[sanomaton]

OP is quite awesome. I'm a female (just felt like I needed to bring this up for some reason) and it bothers me when some girls take these kinds of things for granted. I have some friends who keep telling me how shitty something of mine is, "you should get a better shower(WTF?)/computer/speakers"... However, I'm too polite a person to be able to say, "If you don't like it, leave" so I have a lot of respect for OP. I wish I could do something like that.

Really, if the female was as bitchy as you made her sound at least she understood she went a little too far with commenting your car/radio etc.

 

[Amethyst Wind]

Well it's probably been said but the 'gift horse + mouth = no" analogy really is relevant here. Now you work at Walmart, so even working full-time it's not gonna give you that much disposable income and changing cars is an expensive prospect so really, it's not on you at all, except maybe to have told her this (in kind terms) once and THEN kicked her out if she carried on complaining.

Really though, if you've provided an accurate account of what happened then she's the one with the problem, not you.

 

[Rin Little]

I would've done the same thing in your position, except I probably wouldn't have remained so collected about it, so I definitely give you props on that count.

 

[pppppppppppppppppp]

I'd like it if this forum was a no tolerance zone for bitching. Just saying.

OT: Dude, get over yourself. If your "kind" enough to give the girl a lift, you can probably stand having someone make fun of your precious car long enough to not leave them stranded. If I had guests over at my house overnight, and one of them complains about the decorations, it's not "keeping my cool" to make them stay outside till someone picks them up.

Everyone complains, just deal with it.

 

[Merkavar]

i would have asked her what her car looks like. if she saiys she doesnt have a car maybe say that your car is much better than no car and give her the option to get out of th car and start walking