Poll: Online Dating and YOU - Share your experiences and thoughts!

[Light 086]

So basically you just wrote a ton of stuff that's probably not true, and then provided your evidence in the form of 'I've never actually done it'.

Exactly!!!

No my friend did it, that's where my evidence comes from. When she met him he wasn't 6 feet tall as he claimed, he was bald and had a beer belly. She showed me a picture of him on his profile and then one of him in person. It was two completely different people. Probably a pic of someone else he found on the internet.

For their interests: Some men put that they love long walks on the beach, my friend did it and he's at the opposite end of romantic. This actually works, he got several hits for it.

As for my third point, I heard stories of this happening. I don't know anyone who it happened to, so it could be bull.

So I myself have no personal experience, but my friend lies on his profile and my other friend met on who really bullshits. I probably should have put this on my first post so I don't sound like I'm trolling the forum.

 

[Kortney]

And you're 100% right - it's much easier for girls and if I was a guy I'd probably be having trouble with it all. This is one thing we girls have easier than you!

not necessarily a good thing though. i have female friends who tried online dating sites. they will get messages from hundreds of guys and only a small handful of those messages will be about something other than sex.

Yeah that's a really good point. You'd be surprised the amount of creeps that girls can draw in.

-snip-

Yeah I get hit on a lot when I go out into town and I've never had to make the first move. I don't think I'd be capable of making the first move, honestly.

And you're 100% right - it's much easier for girls and if I was a guy I'd probably be having trouble with it all. This is one thing we girls have easier than you!

Yes, I do find it difficult. I find simply "hitting on girls" isn't the right approach. You do have it easier in that regard, but then again, you are the ones that go through childbirth so I think we all have our problems

I don't want it to sound like I'm complaining, I'm really not. I just wish there was a simpler way (at least in this part of the world) where one didn't have to play a lot of games and could still find some interest. I am just trying to piece together what works for some people and seeing if anything is worth trying differently. What worked when your current boyfriend asked you out? How did he go about it if you don't mind me prying

Well he's not my boyfriend anymore, I broke up with him, but he and I knew each other for a while. He was an immigrant to England around the same time I was so we just got to know each other and I ended up trusting him a lot. I think he just asked me out to a movie one day and it went on from there. With me, I think it was vital he actually was friends with me and knew me first - because I'm way too shy to talk to anyone I'm not already friends with!

 

[BlindMessiah94]

My observations on dating sites have been that pay sites such as e-harmony earn their money mostly from men.

Men pay and women pick and choose I guess seems rather pointless so I never purchased any 'tokens' or whatever they want to call them.

Thanks, that information is actually rather helpful. I'm worried most pay sites are a big scam (at least for men), and free sites I've found are like sifting through an ocean of trolls and fake profiles and crazies. It is becoming apparent that both have slim chances in being successful, which is a bit depressing.

 

[^=ash=^]

I haven't, but tempted to consider it. I'm quite shy IRL but find it much easier to express myself through writing, I guess it could be the way forward for me.

xxx

 

[Zaik]

I tried match.com for 3 months.

Shockingly(I know, right?), all the women were crazy, and most of them were unattractive. One of them moved into my house while I was at work.

That was the end of that shit.

 

[gl1koz3]

I've been in the process of realizing why the wrong type of girls are attracted to me...

If only I'd like any of the other girls who were interested in me so far, but I skipped all of them, as it simply wouldn't work.

I've found out that one of the problems that you may get shut down at is being too slow in responding to her signals and lacking confidence in showing your own (fast enough; making it clear that you are interested).

If people couldn't do that in general (and with women), then we'd be still in stone age.

 

[the-kitchen-slayer]

I've dated online through MSN sadly. However, what I think is the saddest bit is, well, my best relationships were with people I've never met offline.

Half my relationships have been through the internet. My first girlfriend, a girl in BC, her and me dated for 7, 8 months. I don't remember exactly how it fell apart, but I believe me being a 17 year old and wanting something offline is what caused it to happen. Still regret that decision to be entirely honest.

Next online relationship didn't really happen due to technical difficulties. However, the girl I dated after, well, we still talk, still find we care for each other as friends at least, and managed to date a year before things fell apart. She's the ex I'm proud to say was the best girlfriend I've ever had, and I only got to see her via pictures and a webcam.

After that, well, it's all kinda been a mess. My last online relationship was a nightmare, more from the girl I was dating and also finding out I have Borderline Personality Disorder. That girl I did meet offline, and well... I look back and realize it wasn't worth it. Ah well, live and learn I suppose.

But... Comparing those to my offline relationships? I'd rather go with the online ones. 4 months of on again, off again with my first offline girlfriend (who put me through 2 cheating AND pregnancy scares...), second offline girlfriend only lasted a week due to her parents, and the last girlfriend (also offline), after a couple of weeks of dating, we sit down, I find out she's a drug addict, we agree to work on communication... Then she drops off the face of the planet for three weeks.

So... I'm either destined to be the guy on the net, or I just have real bad luck with women. Maybe both XD

 

[spartandude]

i personally dont think these online dating sites would be any good

 

[Amberella]

I met my boyfriend through a gaming forum. It was Gamespot.com
And we've been together for over 2 years now.

I think it was better than trying those dating sites. xD Considering how compatible we are.

 

[Siyano_v1legacy]

If you've tried online dating, my questions to you are :
- What site(s) did you try, and was it successful?
- If you paid, was it worth the cost?
- Whether you paid or tried free sites or tried both, what are the pros and cons of each in your opinion?

If you haven't tried online dating, my questions to you are:
- Why haven't you tried?
- Are you curious?
- If you've been successful in RL and never needed online dating, what do you think the reason(s) are?

What site I tried: Paid: Lavalife and maybe another I don't remember the name, was it sucessfull? No
Paid: 25$/Month, Not worth the cost at all
Free: Plenty of Fish, OkCupid, No succesfull Yet
Free vs Paid: I think paying for a dating site is kinda like a scam, What do I pay for?
I don't think they so many cons against Free site beside advertisement.
I would not mind paying a small amount but 25-30$?! No thank (anymore) I would rather go to a club or billiard place for like 5-10$ even tho I'm shy
Let not talk about Matrimonial agency, I wanted information for one in my city, its costed 1 400!!! OMG WTF?! Really, has they say it to pay to do Scientific/Psychology test and such, test that just can find online for FREE for F sake

 

[Tron-tonian]

I met my wife (5 years in June) via online dating.

For me, it was a way to meet new people in a (relatively) new city after splitting with the GF. Had a great summer, ending with the meeting of the wife.

If you're going to do it, here's my tips:
1. BE HONEST! Seriously. Why BS about things that they will find out anyways?

2. Use the shotgun approach. Just because someone is outside your "preferred" range (i.e. "over 6' only!" or "blondes only!") doesn't mean you can't fall in love with them. You'd be surprised how many good people populate dating sites - give more a chance. If you're overly picky, then you'll be waiting a LONG time for Mr. / Mrs. Right to come along.

3. Have fun! even the worst of dates gave me some amusing stories to tell...

 

[funguy2121]

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OP, I've never gone further than dabbling/flirting online. I've tried to go a little farther on free sites only to find that the women weren't being honest or upfront about their age/looks or intentions (no, I don't want to smoke you out and then do you bareback in front of people). OK, I made up the "in front of people" part.

I do have a couple of friends who've tried online dating. For one, it ended in a horrendous marriage/subsequent divorce to a man who gave her herpes. Since then she's met a bunch of losers, then one guy that she really thought was "the one," who later ended it without giving much reason. She's currently seeing a guy who lied about his age in his profile but it's going well other than that. Another friend found a guy on plenty of fish and, though they're still friends, it would appear he just wants to fuck her in lieu of having a real relationship, which is not how he represented himself at first.

Also, my mother went on a date with my high school principal (after I graduated, thank god), having met him (I believe) on eHarmony.

If you want to meet a bunch of pedophiles and scat-eaters and emotionally clusterfucked people, you can always call those numbers from the commercials that appear on late night cable and try out the free trial.

If you're confident in yourself and plenty sociable, I'd say try a change of scenery. If you're into music, go see some local shows. If you love movies, take a film class at the local college. You'll meet women organically. Just being known and being friendly goes a long way.