Poll: People of the Escapist, Are we all loners?

[Jark212]

I have a couple of good friends, just not in Colorado...

 

[TimeLord]

I am not a "loner" by choice. More by cause and effect of ruining friendships and relationships by my own hand.

I think I should just move to a new city and start again!

...and my definition of boyfriend is basically two friends that have sex and tell other people that they are bf&gf.

That's a very pessimistic life view.
I'm enjoying your style.

 

[Socius]

I am a stable person in a healty and stable relationship.
I have fun with my girflriend. both while we get intimate and when we are social with others.
I often help people in this forum, or so I feel. And I like it, it just shows the bond we escapists share and the trust that exist among us.

 

[Mr. Google]

I WOULD LIKE THE OPTION TO SAY "YES".

pretty sure thats number 1 or 2 hahahaha i cant believe i didnt put in a simple yes

 

[Yureina]

I am a loner by nature, but that's because I am a fierce individualist who prefers to be alone. I don't like social settings or gatherings not because I am "inept" or don't know how to talk to people, but because I simply don't like them. In all honesty, if it was not for "society" thinking that people who are single and don't have a romantic partner are "losers", I would be perfectly content to live out my life single and in my own world. I guess its just my natural tendency to not care about any of the things I am "missing out on" in life because of my attitude. Living without sex and having a non-existent real world social life just does not bother me for the simple fact that I do not try to get laid or make outside friends. It just is not interesting to me.

In any case, I never have and never will post any of those "I need romantic advice" threads because that is one game I DO NOT play. "Friendship" and "Intimacy" should not be a strategic "game" to play where I need to find the right "plan" to try to get with someone. People ought to like me for who I am, and if it ends up going further than that, then I probably won't try to stop it if I find the person simiarly interesting and likable. It is not going to bother me if someone does not like me as a friend or more than that, because chances are if they don't I probably don't like them either, or I will make myself change my opinions quite rapidly.

So, am I a "loner"? Yes.

Does that make me sad? No.

There is a difference between "Loner" and "Lonely"

 

[Sexual Harassment Panda]

I CUT MYSELF TO FEEL ALIIIIIVE!!!

Hah hah hah, no.

I definitely fit into the loner category, but I'm not a depressed self-mutilating basket-case about it.

Well said...the poll didn't really cover this outlook.

There seems to be a complete lack of acceptance of the idea that people can be different to one another...must we forever believe there is only one good way to live?

I'm more than likely in the "loner" category. Simply put, the compulsion to socialise is seldom felt, and easily satiated when it does pop up. I'm surrounded by people who tell me this is wrong, despite my chipper disposition...

If I find constant socialising exhausting, and largely unrewarding...why lie to myself? Why force myself into situations I wouldn't choose, when I'm perfectly happy sitting at home playing the piano, and seeing a friend maybe once a week.

Frankly, it might not be such a weakness that I can spend time alone and not get needy.

 

[child of lileth]

I'm not really. I tend to seem that way alot, but I'd rather spend time with people I like every now and then.

 

[Ranooth]

I'm one of those social geeks. Had a girlfriend for just over a year now and i'm pretty popular at my university, however i'm a total loner when im back home.

 

[Zenn3k]

Until I can find a girl I can stand to be around for more than a month, will play video games (or at least not ***** that I am), and has a healthy sexual appetite (easiest of the 3)

I am a loner.

 

[Irony's Acolyte]

I have my friends (although most of them will be out of reach at college soon) and I'm not really shy or anything, but I can function pretty well without other people around. I don't know if I would say I'm a loner, more like socially-limited person.

 

[Clueless Hero]

Nope. Just went out with some friends yesterday to go check out an abandoned construction site up in the hills near our neighborhood, got lost for 2 hours, and popped back up on the other side of town.

 

[Mr. Google]

I CUT MYSELF TO FEEL ALIIIIIVE!!!

Hah hah hah, no.

I definitely fit into the loner category, but I'm not a depressed self-mutilating basket-case about it.

Well said...the poll didn't really cover this outlook.

There seems to be a complete lack of acceptance of the idea that people can be different to one another...must we forever believe there is only one good way to live?

I'm more than likely in the "loner" category. Simply put, the compulsion to socialise is seldom felt, and easily satiated when it does pop up. I'm surrounded by people who tell me this is wrong, despite my chipper disposition...

If I find constant socialising exhausting, and largely unrewarding...why lie to myself? Why force myself into situations I wouldn't choose, when I'm perfectly happy sitting at home playing the piano, and seeing a friend maybe once a week.

Frankly, it might not be such a weakness that I can spend time alone and not get needy.

I never said it was a bad thing i just asked the question if u thought u were a loner

 

[Sexual Harassment Panda]

I CUT MYSELF TO FEEL ALIIIIIVE!!!

Hah hah hah, no.

I definitely fit into the loner category, but I'm not a depressed self-mutilating basket-case about it.

Well said...the poll didn't really cover this outlook.

There seems to be a complete lack of acceptance of the idea that people can be different to one another...must we forever believe there is only one good way to live?

I'm more than likely in the "loner" category. Simply put, the compulsion to socialise is seldom felt, and easily satiated when it does pop up. I'm surrounded by people who tell me this is wrong, despite my chipper disposition...

If I find constant socialising exhausting, and largely unrewarding...why lie to myself? Why force myself into situations I wouldn't choose, when I'm perfectly happy sitting at home playing the piano, and seeing a friend maybe once a week.

Frankly, it might not be such a weakness that I can spend time alone and not get needy.

I never said it was a bad thing i just asked the question if u thought u were a loner

I wasn't really addressing you, as much as just sharing my thoughts on the theme of the thread.

People assume that being a loner means being a tragic character, shunned by society. It's perfectly possible for people to spend time by themselves because they like to do so. Like myself, I have friends...but I don't want to see them everyday.

I take no offense, and mean none either. I just feel it's an overlooked distinction.

 

[Mr. Google]

I CUT MYSELF TO FEEL ALIIIIIVE!!!

Hah hah hah, no.

I definitely fit into the loner category, but I'm not a depressed self-mutilating basket-case about it.

Well said...the poll didn't really cover this outlook.

There seems to be a complete lack of acceptance of the idea that people can be different to one another...must we forever believe there is only one good way to live?

I'm more than likely in the "loner" category. Simply put, the compulsion to socialise is seldom felt, and easily satiated when it does pop up. I'm surrounded by people who tell me this is wrong, despite my chipper disposition...

If I find constant socialising exhausting, and largely unrewarding...why lie to myself? Why force myself into situations I wouldn't choose, when I'm perfectly happy sitting at home playing the piano, and seeing a friend maybe once a week.

Frankly, it might not be such a weakness that I can spend time alone and not get needy.

I never said it was a bad thing i just asked the question if u thought u were a loner

I wasn't really addressing you, as much as just sharing my thoughts on the theme of the thread.

People assume that being a loner means being a tragic character, shunned by society. It's perfectly possible for people to spend time by themselves because they like to do so. Like myself, I have friends...but I don't want to see them everyday.

I take no offense, and mean none either. I just feel it's an overlooked distinction.

Oh okay!

 

[AcacianLeaves]

It seems as though people on here (no offense its just a trend i have noticed) are loners. I just dont understand it I mean i do understand that this is video game topic site but every time I see a thread about relationship help every other post is, I dont have a girlfriend/boyfriend because everyone i talk to hates me and i have slowly destroyed every single relationship that i have ever attempted to have. I will admit that I'm not the biggest ladies man but I remember a little birdie telling me that girls like confidence. Well either way i want to know if you're a loner so Poll time!
[Edit] Sorry i didnt mean to put that part about most people are loner
[Edit Edit] I would love to be proved wrong seriously if i am completely off on this id actually be happier
[unimportant but still a third edit] When i say relationship i mean that in 2 ways, sexually (boyfriend and girlfriend) and not sexually (just friends)sorry that was probably confusing
[Holy crap i really should have looked this over before i posted it Edit] When i put that it was a game forum sight i didnt mean that all gamers are losers I am a hardcore gamer and i dont think i am a loner at all, What i meant is that this isnt the forum for rich and sexy people

Spend more time socializing, less time on the internet. The more time you spend alone, the more socially inept you become. Some people are naturally socially skilled, but most of us have to practice at it. You need to get out there and make an ass out of yourself so you know how not to make an ass out of yourself. Most of us go through this horrible process in High School.

That's really just for you, since it sounds like you're having a rough day. I'd say gamers have as much chance being social as anyone else, there's nothing about us that makes us specifically 'loners'.

 

[StarStruckStrumpets]

I'm not a loner at all, I have plenty of friends, the majority of those being female, and I've had A relationship before, which, I'll grant you didn't last long at all, but for a 15 year old I'd consider myself quite fortunate.

That doesn't mean I don't dislike people in general. Basically the way I think about people is they only have one chance to prove they don't suck. Everyone sucks unless they can prove otherwise, and those who do that have been friends with me for years.

 

[swolf]

Well, I'm married, have a daughter, a few friends...nope, not a loner.

 

[Mr. Google]

It seems as though people on here (no offense its just a trend i have noticed) are loners. I just dont understand it I mean i do understand that this is video game topic site but every time I see a thread about relationship help every other post is, I dont have a girlfriend/boyfriend because everyone i talk to hates me and i have slowly destroyed every single relationship that i have ever attempted to have. I will admit that I'm not the biggest ladies man but I remember a little birdie telling me that girls like confidence. Well either way i want to know if you're a loner so Poll time!
[Edit] Sorry i didnt mean to put that part about most people are loner
[Edit Edit] I would love to be proved wrong seriously if i am completely off on this id actually be happier
[unimportant but still a third edit] When i say relationship i mean that in 2 ways, sexually (boyfriend and girlfriend) and not sexually (just friends)sorry that was probably confusing
[Holy crap i really should have looked this over before i posted it Edit] When i put that it was a game forum sight i didnt mean that all gamers are losers I am a hardcore gamer and i dont think i am a loner at all, What i meant is that this isnt the forum for rich and sexy people

Spend more time socializing, less time on the internet. The more time you spend alone, the more socially inept you become. Some people are naturally socially skilled, but most of us have to practice at it. You need to get out there and make an ass out of yourself so you know how not to make an ass out of yourself. Most of us go through this horrible process in High School.

That's really just for you, since it sounds like you're having a rough day. I'd say gamers have as much chance being social as anyone else, there's nothing about us that makes us specifically 'loners'.

Dude what are u talking about haha im having a great day and i never called my self a loner im a social butterfly haha