Poll: Pity Dates
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Oh, yeah. It's going to be so much easier to "let someone down gently" after going on a date with them. As opposed to saying something like, "No thanks. I'm flattered but I'm not interested."
Don't string people along. That only makes things emotionally worse.
Don't string people along. That only makes things emotionally worse.
What was considered a "pity date" with a friend turned out to be much more. (I was still unattached after highschool, and was permanently insta-filed under "[X] Friend" by any and every female I ever encountered, not that I was bold enough to instigate such an encounter on my own.) She was engaged and, despite any attempts with others on my behalf, my being insta-filed by every other female had me rapidly approaching hermit-status.
We had a lovely time... Afterward we reminisced about highschool a bit and I admitted that I'd been a fool to stick to the sidelines back then.
We've been married now for ten years, have two beautiful children, and I thank the stars that I let her drag me out on that "pity date" all those years ago. (Which, technically, it still was, what with her fianced status at the time...)
OT: Pity dates are generally a waste of time, money, and emotion... IF the "pitier" is completely unwilling to look at the "pitied" in any other light.
Should both keep an open mind (the "pitier" doesn't have an uncontrollable revulsion to the "pitied", and the "pitied" doesn't try and push beyond the already-understood limits of the relationship), you never know what might result.
We had a lovely time... Afterward we reminisced about highschool a bit and I admitted that I'd been a fool to stick to the sidelines back then.
We've been married now for ten years, have two beautiful children, and I thank the stars that I let her drag me out on that "pity date" all those years ago. (Which, technically, it still was, what with her fianced status at the time...)
OT: Pity dates are generally a waste of time, money, and emotion... IF the "pitier" is completely unwilling to look at the "pitied" in any other light.
Should both keep an open mind (the "pitier" doesn't have an uncontrollable revulsion to the "pitied", and the "pitied" doesn't try and push beyond the already-understood limits of the relationship), you never know what might result.
I had one, kind of, There was this girl who was mega into me and some people had told her I was into her too, so I agreed to meet up with her and I planned to tell her i wasn't into her but she was okayfaspxina said:
only after a while she started cuddling me on some crossroads
for 30 full minutes
boy was I glad nobody I knew saw that..
But yeah I didn't dare to tell her I wasn't into her.. I hated it so much
And two days later she texted me and told me that she thought she loved me (oh really?) and then I wrote a message of 7 texts long explaining how I wasn't into her but that she was a cool girl and such, only to get a 'huh?' back..
Nevertheless I try to steer clear from not so bright girls in the future
dude... you went on a date with an engaged woman and got her to marry you instead of her fiancée(or however the hell you spell that)?SangRahl said:
high five man! seriously, kudos XD
EDIT: forgot to add my own. I never really went on a pity date. never actually went on much of a date at all. there was this one time when I had to go shopping somewhere and I took a girl on a semi-date. then I discovered she wasn't very smart. actually, she asked me while we were sitting at the bus stop: which side does the bus come from... now I'm not sure if it works the same everywhere, but over here, you sit on the side of the road where the bus goes the way you want to go, so if we wanted to go the other way, we would've been on the other side of the street >.< other than that she just wasn't as much fun as I thought she was.
So i guess it turned into a pity-date halfway through. or maybe just a date where the guy discovers he's just really not into the girl.
Other than that... I think I went on some dates with my ex (is going to the pool a date?) and with my other ex, but those weren't pity dates, she asked me first and I was happy to oblige
so, long story short: no, I haven't. not really.
Never been on a date period.
Not speaking out of experience, but I'd rather go on one than not go at all. Because then I know I'm not hideously repulsive. Plus I could practice, so I wouldn't fuck up if I ever go on a date with someone that likes me, unlikely as that is.
Not speaking out of experience, but I'd rather go on one than not go at all. Because then I know I'm not hideously repulsive. Plus I could practice, so I wouldn't fuck up if I ever go on a date with someone that likes me, unlikely as that is.
Been on a pity date for their sake, and for mine. Although, I do remember one of them ending up really well, because while on our date we realized some things about each other that were actually awesome, and therefore not pitiable. That was a good week, actually.
