Poll: Question for the guys...

[2HF]

If you get set up on a blind date or just ask a girl out and then have a terrible date do you still pay for the whole thing?

Like I mean you both know that it is going poorly and you both know that there will not be a second date. Do you still feel obligated to pay?

 

[madwarper]

I voted Dutch, merely because there wasn't a "It depends" option.

Besides, if it was apparent that the date was going horribly, I'd ask for the check ASAP.
No sense hanging in till the end if I'm only prolonging the pain.

 

[Lilani]

I think you should establish from the beginning how you are going to pay and then stick to it regardless. I highly doubt the girl or guy is going to decide you're the rudest person on the face of the earth just because you want to know upfront who is paying. And if they do, you probably don't want a second date anyway.

 

[Berethond]

If it's a horrible date, that probably means they expect me to pay for them anyways.

 

[Dags90]

I never pay for the whole thing, that's just silly. I've had guys pay for me without asking, but it was just a snack so I didn't fuss about it.

 

[Uber Evil]

My sense of chivalry would make me feel obligated to pay.

 

[Lenvoran]

Whomever did the asking out pays. That's just kinda how it works for me. If they ask me out and want me to pay, then they clearly aren't in it to be with me. However. If I ask them out, I will pay even if the date goes badly.

 

[Illithidae]

My sense of chivalry would make me feel obligated to pay.

Chivalry died when women earned rights.

Though yeah, I'd probably have the same response. I'd feel guilty afterwards otherwise. Unless the date went really badly - and I mean really, REALLY badly. Which it probably wouldn't.

 

[SeeIn2D]

I put the first choice. But it depends on what you mean by badly. Generally I'd still want to be a gentleman even if my date and I didn't really connect and we didn't have plans in the future to connect again. However if my date was a ***** or something like that I'd have no problem with saying "I'll be right back. Using the little escapist's room" and then booking it to the exit.

 

[zehydra]

I wouldn't feel like I ought to pay, but I would, just because it would make things easier.

I don't expect to have to pay every time we go out, though I would if I asked her out. If SHE wanted to go out somewhere, and it was really HER asking ME out, then I would have no problem not paying.

 

[loc978]

I voted Dutch, because there's no option for "I don't really date, I just go out with friends and the payee system is a complicated round robin ordeal".

 

[PunkyMcGee]

first dates for me are usually somewhere cheap or even free. not as a cheapskate but I think going to the park for a walk or getting ice cream to be enjoyable activities.

 

[Lionsfan]

I tend to pay for all first dates no matter what. And if the date is going that horribly, a way to guarantee that it goes even worse is to ask the girl to foot the bill or part of the bill, right or wrong it's generally expected for the guys to pay for the first few dates.

 

[neonsword13-ops]

It's still polite to pay. If not, You're a douche. Hell, even Duke puts the toilet seat up. I think you guys can pay if even the king is polite sometimes.

 

[BlindMessiah94]

My sense of chivalry would make me feel obligated to pay.

I think you are confusing that with your sense of being taken advantage of.

No sense in paying for the whole thing, especially if it's not going well. Why would I pay for something that was essentially a terrible waste of time?

Then again, I did watch Spider-Man 3.


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Nevermind.

 

[Aaron Frederick]

I believe Albert said it best "Its all relative" if the dates bad, id probably still pay, but there should be some way to grade How bad vs Will you pay.

Id pay for any date below... lets say 6 on the ricter scale.

 

[BrailleOperatic]

If my date is going badly, I'd probably pay just so I wouldn't have to make it even worse by turning to whatever tart I called out and saying "This sucked. I'm going punch you in the wallet now." That is of course completely melodramatic, but it's the idea that counts.

 

[Ghengis John]

I find the idea of turning to your date at the end of the night and going "That was lousy, I want my money back." hilarious.

 

[2HF]

For the record, my rule is this.

If I ask a woman out I pay for the date. Regardless of how it goes. If the woman asked me out I will pay for my half and she can pay for hers. I don't let women pay for me. I'm all for equality but in this I am old fashioned.

 

[Avaholic03]

Depends on how badly the date is going. If it's just "I won't be dating her again" bad, then yeah I'd still pay. But if it's "car wreck in slow motion" bad, there's a chance I'd just get up and leave. Maybe come back later to make sure the check had been settled, but I certainly wouldn't give the ***** the satisfaction of me paying.