Poll: Relationships...difficult but worthy of it, no?

[supermaster1337]

hey i want a relationship but they dont want me. XD

 

[Lift]

Another option: Relationships are simple, can someone tell me whats so complicated. Yes multiple relationships are viticulture. but other than that I don't see why everyone things its so damn hard.

Lol good point. Heres my answer:

The only hard part for me is the feeling i get when im not with her...i have ways to sort it but it is still there...also, i constantly get the feeling i am not doing enough which is silly cause she tells me i am. I get loads of little random feelings, but its all worth it for the happiness it brings me, and the happiness i bring her...

*Weeps a little*
LOL

Well first off, be sure not to do something that she rely likes all of the time. Once you find something she likes remember, and do it again, but not all of the time. This will make it easier on you, and make it so she wont expect it, make it more special if you will.

Another thing is find something simple you can do to have fun, something that you can do that's time more than money. Me and one of the girls I was dating, was we each made a WOW character and only played it when we where together. Lots of fun, quality time together.

Keep in mind that girls will like doing simple thing if you make an adventure out of it. Recently i just came home after a date, and my girl was looking kinda bored so I said "I need a few things at the store, your coming with me." Then I made that into an adventure. Make comments at odd things you see on the shelf's "What the well is cow juice? is milk cow juice?... Is clam juice clam milk." then when you pick up the milk refer to it as "Cow juice" It might sound stupid, but believe me, a girl will want to laugh and have fun, just as much as she wants to make out or get roses. and you cant get a girl roses as often as you can get her to laugh

The biggest thing man is take it easy, have fun, remember as long as she's having fun, she'll most likely stick around. Pm me if you have an questions.

 

[sky14kemea]

Where is the option for "I've never been in a real relationship because I am an angry, unlovable person"?

i dont know...
i was looking for it too XD

 

[LINKXIII]

totally worth it

 

[Tyshalle]

Worth it, for sure.

 

[Cowabungaa]

~sigh~ I miss being in a relationship, I think they're worth all the trouble in the world if you truly love the person you're with.

100% The same thing. So much love to give, yet no one to recieve it. Being loved would also be nice for a change *sigh*

 

[Drummerstixz]

I never found relationships to be difficult, just fun.

lol, I feel/Felt the same way, Ive always had a good time trying to get in one and when it finally happens its like entering a new level in a game...lol

 

[Ignignoct]

I have been with my girlfriend for 3 months now...and i am 15 and am in no doubt i love her-genuinely not "puppy love".

All this relationship melarky is bloody difficult though...it's taxing, but for me it's worth it to see her and be with her and i go out of my way to make her happy. I love it, and the stress it brings is just one of those annoying and occasional side effects.

What do people think? Relationships-worth the trouble, too much fuss, not for you, or couldn't live without her/him?

It always depends on chemistry between the two.

To cast your line out with the bait of "are relationships worth it?", you're about to catch a lot of conflicting fish, and you'll end up with no absolute truth. There is none. All we can hope for is to get lucky.

So, in short, everyone you know and love will be dead someday, and I hope it works out between you two.

 

[New Troll]

Was in what I thought was an ever-lasting serious relationship in high school, but her father didn't approve and came between us.

Was then in another ever-lasting serious relationship with a lesbian who swore she could stay straight for me, but found she couldn't.

Was then in another ever-lasting serious relationship with a girl I lived with for awhile, but she ended up having to go to the hospitol and her first instinct was to call her druggy ex, not me.

Was then in another ever-lasting serious relationship with my ex-wife, but after we got married she changed back into the person she really is, showing me that the woman I loved was all just a performance.

Was then in another ever-lasting serious relationship with the mother of my son but between her post-partum depression and her family's constant nagging, she just left one day unexpectedly to go back to her ex-husband.

Was then in another ever-lasting serious relationship with my last ex whom just stopped wanting to have anything to do with me until she found out she was pregnant and is blaming our break-up on hormones.

I am now in an ever-lasting serious relationship with someone who truly never wants to ever see me hurt again. I hope.

Are they worth it? Definitely.

 

[Matronadena]

one needs to consider their age before making a fixed stance, relationships in the teens are not remotely the same as they are in say ones mid 20's or into the 30's etc etc.

The way I look at it, it's always worth it, because you learn something about yourself with each one(or at least SHOULD be)

 

[ix_tab]

I've never been in a serious relationship or in love, mostly because people who tell me that they love me after three days get instantly dumped.

Also, in hindsight I am gay, so dating dudes was never going to work out.

ANYWAY. I think relationships are totally worth any sort of trouble. Trying for a bit of happiness and love is always worth something, and it's worth risking getting hurt for, because the reward is so much better. /is a sap.

 

[high_castle]

I'm such a cynic. I think a relationship CAN be worthy of some effort, but not all the time. And you need to be honest with yourself about how much you can commit to somebody. Personally, I'm focused on my career and education right now. I'm not willing to sacrifice either for somebody else. I try to date casually, but the last couple guys I've dated always end up wanting more than I can actually give them.

And to the original poster...you're 15! You have so much ahead of you. I would say you're whole life, but you still have high school! What seems like love at that age is often less in hindsight. Who knows, you might be different, but try to keep as clear a head as possible and don't go doing anything stupid for this girl. Alright, nagging over.

More on topic, I don't know if one day I'd want a relationship or not. I'm pretty happily single. Many people are, but there's a big societal push for everybody to pair up. That's fine if you want it, but I don't need relatives pestering me at Christmas time about when I'm going to find a boyfriend/husband.

 

[Flying-Emu]

You're fifteen. You have no idea.

Bashing on love in any format is just rude, you know.

*EDIT* Wait, I see. You meant he didn't know how hard it could really be. Gotcha.

Anyway, it all depends on the timing and person. If you're just in it for fun rather than looking for a lasting relationship (I cannot comprehend the former and absolutely fail at the latter), then it's probably not worth the trouble.

But you're fifteen. You should be focusing on studies.

 

[space_oddity]

I dont get it, how is being in a relationship difficult?

I guess it isn't as easy for some people?

 

[Flying-Emu]

Sometimes fun is all it is. Not every relationship has to be about bleeding hearts and making babies somewhere along the line. Sometimes it really is about a kindred spirit and very pointedly NOT making babies. Nothing wrong with having a girl for fun. But, point: A fifteen year old has no business with either one. The best a boy his age ought to do is have a cutesy little girlfriend. No marriage, no fucking, no sad forever when it inevitably breaks apart. Because, as I said, a fifteen year old doesn't know anything. Neither you or I knew a god-damned thing at 15 and neither does he.

Dude, I am 15. I just accept that it's probably not worth my time at this point.

But as for what I said before, I really have a problem with the idea of just dating someone "to have fun". I always feel like I'm using them.

Ah, well, I'm off the dating scene anyways until I iron out at least a college acceptance. So it's all a moot point.

I definitely agree on the no fucking part.

 

[NeutralDrow]

Definitely worth it. Often hard if or when they don't last, but worth it all the same.

 

[Labyrinth]

I consider worthwhile relationships exactly that. It takes effort to get into them and even more to maintain. However, they're so much fun that I'll do it anyway.

I'm very over the idea of "Wham-bam-thank you-insertpronounhere" style one-night-stands. They annoy me more than a little if not for the fact that they're rarely that satisfying, but for the fact that they do nothing in the grand scheme of things. As wonderful as it may be to get laid once in a while it's not all that fulfilling.