Before I start describing the situation, I'll say that my family is very fucked up, as this will show. It's a very chaotic family, if you can call it that anymore. I don't need any comments consisting of only that, but I guess you can make them anyway. If you don't want to hear the backstory, skip 3 paragraphs.
My mother is a *****. I'm not even being the average teen who wants to get away from his mum, I mean she is crazy. She and my dad are separated (like most Russian couples) and have been for about 10 years now. As a result, my dad had to start paying for two apartments at once, which can get expensive in NYC. He had to live in mediocrity for a very long while, and only recently has gotten the financial push he's been looking for. I stayed with my mum, until around 2 years ago, when we start disagreeing with each other profusely, and she starts complaining about all sorts of things. She runs me out of the god damned house. I live with my dad for a few months until hell month kicked in (don't ask me about hell month, it was pretty much the worst month of my life, and I don't want to reiterate the details), and I got shipped back to her. She makes up with me, we live in relative peace for a while (although I rarely interacted with her, very little real conversation).
Fast forward to about 2 months ago, when my sis is ready to move onto college. Despite getting a perfect SAT score and having a 94 average in a pretty good NYC school, she gets rejected by all the colleges on her list. Soon, my mum and sis are talking about moving to LA. I bolted for my dad's place before she kicks me out. My dad works down in Baltimore, so he doesn't exactly have a problem with what I do in his apartment, and my mentality changed a lot after hell month for the better. My sis and mum go to LA, I stay in NYC to finish off my last year of HS, it's all a good plan.
Except they forgot to actually plan for once they were in LA, because my sis didn't technically get into any college there. Since she can't claim California residency, and since the schools there are overcrowded, she would have to wait for the spring term to enter a crummy community college, or wait a whole year to apply to Cal. She feels her only acceptable option is to go back to NYC and go to CUNY. So she calls this week and says she's coming back to NYC for a long, long while, and she's probably getting here Friday or Saturday.
Now, the problem. My dad and I agree that my mum cannot live in our apartment. For one, we don't have enough room. For two, we both can't tolerate her. She has not worked since 1990, has not gotten a job in NYC (and her resume is very largely and very crudely falsified), and she has a nasty habit of dragging people down with her. She's the woman that goes from middle class income to living off food stamps just to piss off the government. Her family gets in the way of that. However, knowing her, she's going to be touching down in NYC as well, back from a vacation in LA, and show up at my apartment door, and she's going to be expecting me to provide her a home. My dad and I do not want to accept her. When I tell my sister on the phone that my mum is not welcome, she says that my mum may "not necessarily" come to my door. I interpret this as total bullshit and fully expect my mother to appear at my apartment door charming her way into another free life.
Should I take her in because she is my mother anyway, or do I have a right to refuse her hospitality because of every other reason?
Meh, busted poll, I figured this will happen. I will read to responses.
My mother is a *****. I'm not even being the average teen who wants to get away from his mum, I mean she is crazy. She and my dad are separated (like most Russian couples) and have been for about 10 years now. As a result, my dad had to start paying for two apartments at once, which can get expensive in NYC. He had to live in mediocrity for a very long while, and only recently has gotten the financial push he's been looking for. I stayed with my mum, until around 2 years ago, when we start disagreeing with each other profusely, and she starts complaining about all sorts of things. She runs me out of the god damned house. I live with my dad for a few months until hell month kicked in (don't ask me about hell month, it was pretty much the worst month of my life, and I don't want to reiterate the details), and I got shipped back to her. She makes up with me, we live in relative peace for a while (although I rarely interacted with her, very little real conversation).
Fast forward to about 2 months ago, when my sis is ready to move onto college. Despite getting a perfect SAT score and having a 94 average in a pretty good NYC school, she gets rejected by all the colleges on her list. Soon, my mum and sis are talking about moving to LA. I bolted for my dad's place before she kicks me out. My dad works down in Baltimore, so he doesn't exactly have a problem with what I do in his apartment, and my mentality changed a lot after hell month for the better. My sis and mum go to LA, I stay in NYC to finish off my last year of HS, it's all a good plan.
Except they forgot to actually plan for once they were in LA, because my sis didn't technically get into any college there. Since she can't claim California residency, and since the schools there are overcrowded, she would have to wait for the spring term to enter a crummy community college, or wait a whole year to apply to Cal. She feels her only acceptable option is to go back to NYC and go to CUNY. So she calls this week and says she's coming back to NYC for a long, long while, and she's probably getting here Friday or Saturday.
Now, the problem. My dad and I agree that my mum cannot live in our apartment. For one, we don't have enough room. For two, we both can't tolerate her. She has not worked since 1990, has not gotten a job in NYC (and her resume is very largely and very crudely falsified), and she has a nasty habit of dragging people down with her. She's the woman that goes from middle class income to living off food stamps just to piss off the government. Her family gets in the way of that. However, knowing her, she's going to be touching down in NYC as well, back from a vacation in LA, and show up at my apartment door, and she's going to be expecting me to provide her a home. My dad and I do not want to accept her. When I tell my sister on the phone that my mum is not welcome, she says that my mum may "not necessarily" come to my door. I interpret this as total bullshit and fully expect my mother to appear at my apartment door charming her way into another free life.
Should I take her in because she is my mother anyway, or do I have a right to refuse her hospitality because of every other reason?
Meh, busted poll, I figured this will happen. I will read to responses.
