Poll: should i ask her out?

[HotFezz8]

Hi all,

stuck in a probably fairly nuerotic loop, decided to turn to the internet for advice...

I've met with a proffesional about renting a new place, I'm 23, she's a few years older (27/28) but the age gap looks fairly negligable.

We talk easily, about all sorts. but I can't decide whether I should ask her out of not, I completely bottled it when I met her today and I won't see her again soon. I'm debating ringing her at work (I don't have her cell #) and asking her out for a drink. Is ringing her a little pathetic? Was my chance when I was there?

some things to think about

- we talk really easily, she's alot of fun and I got her laughing alot
- we connected over most things
- the age gap is not a concern

- she didn't give me her cell number, although I never asked
- she didn't make a move herself
- she rushed me out at the end (it was the end of her shift, I can't decide whether she wanted me gone or whether she wanted to go home)
- I would be calling her at work during (hopefully) her lunch break.

What do you think?

 

[krazykidd]

Go for it ! You have nothing to lose . Worst case she says no . Best case well you have a new ladyfriend . The pros outweight the cons . Like the commercial says , JUST DO IT .

 

[SpAc3man]

Go for it. Worst that could happen is she is already seeing someone but she is flattered anyway and still thinks you are a nice guy.

 

[PsychicTaco115]

Do it. DO IT NOW

Better to try and fail, than to have never tried at all

Of course, we'll want to know though!

 

[Phasmal]

Hmm, I dunno.
It's always weird meeting someone like that, because while they could be laughing and connecting with you for real, they could also be doing that because it is their job to be polite and make customers feel good.
So really you'll have to go with your instinct then, but try not to take it personally if she says no.

 

[Johnny Novgorod]

All the pros and cons are irrelevant. The best thing to do is always try asking them out. In the end, it's the difference between regretting not asking her out and building confidence because you did.

 

[Lilani]

Hi all,

stuck in a probably fairly nuerotic loop, decided to turn to the internet for advice...

I've met with a proffesional about renting a new place, I'm 23, she's a few years older (27/28) but the age gap looks fairly negligable.

We talk easily, about all sorts. but I can't decide whether I should ask her out of not, I completely bottled it when I met her today and I won't see her again soon. I'm debating ringing her at work (I don't have her cell #) and asking her out for a drink. Is ringing her a little pathetic? Was my chance when I was there?

some things to think about

- we talk really easily, she's alot of fun and I got her laughing alot
- we connected over most things
- the age gap is not a concern

- she didn't give me her cell number, although I never asked
- she didn't make a move herself
- she rushed me out at the end (it was the end of her shift, I can't decide whether she wanted me gone or whether she wanted to go home)
- I would be calling her at work during (hopefully) her lunch break.

What do you think?

I think you should ask her out, but don't call her at work. Just ask her the next time you see her.

 

[Scarim Coral]

You may aswell asked her out. I mean what the worse can happen, for her to say no or stop seeing you?

 

[lechat]

don't ring her at work. it's a little stalkerish and desperate
next time you see her just play it calm like "since i'm talking to ya why don't we grab a drink"

 

[BloatedGuppy]

Chances of a date if asking her out: 5%
Chances of a date if no ask her out: 0%

5% > 0%

Ask her out. Worst case scenario she says no. Or says yes, and traps and kills you. I guess that would actually be the worst case scenario, now that I think about it.

 

[hazabaza1]

Hi all,

stuck in a probably fairly nuerotic loop, decided to turn to the internet for advice...

I've met with a proffesional about renting a new place, I'm 23, she's a few years older (27/28) but the age gap looks fairly negligable.

We talk easily, about all sorts. but I can't decide whether I should ask her out of not, I completely bottled it when I met her today and I won't see her again soon. I'm debating ringing her at work (I don't have her cell #) and asking her out for a drink. Is ringing her a little pathetic? Was my chance when I was there?

some things to think about

- we talk really easily, she's alot of fun and I got her laughing alot
- we connected over most things
- the age gap is not a concern

- she didn't give me her cell number, although I never asked
- she didn't make a move herself
- she rushed me out at the end (it was the end of her shift, I can't decide whether she wanted me gone or whether she wanted to go home)
- I would be calling her at work during (hopefully) her lunch break.

What do you think?

I think you should ask her out, but don't call her at work. Just ask her the next time you see her.

This.
I know if I got called while I'm at work I'd probably get arsey like "I'm busy what the hell are you doing?" but like people have been saying, the worst that can happen is she says no.

 

[DugMachine]

Go for it. Don't mean to sound like a broken record but like everyone else said, the worst she can say is no.

 

[Mr Cwtchy]

Go for it seems like sound advice, but I also have to disagree with those saying that the worst that could happen is that she'd say no. Mainly because that's a gross understatement of the actual rejection, that at its worst can utterly crush your self-esteem for a long period of time, leaving you much less inclined to try again in the future.

That's probably doesn't help, sorry.

 

[Smashingpass]

To quote Fraiser, "in the end, what we regret most are the chances we never took". Go for it!

 

[geK0]

I had the same sort of thing with a waitress once

asked her out

she politely told me she was uninterested

life went on

so there's nothing lost really, unless you're emotionally fragile and are traumatized by rejection : \ which I'm sure you're not (are you?). I mean, there's obviously the chance that her kindness isn't genuine and that you're just another customer, but you never know unless you ask.