Poll: Should people wait until they're married to have sex?
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i guess ill put this in simple terms. Wait until your like 17 or 18 so your body, and wallet can handle it if things go south. Otherwise have at it, remember what can happen and dont come crying to me when you have twins/triplets/quads/ect crying at you. All marriage is, is a piece of payper, a bank account, and a vow (based on trust) to each other, which magically makes it ok for sex.
And apparently you stand by the rule of "If I can, everyone can; regardless of gender, sexuality, availability, ability, or anything else."BOOM headshot65 said:
Please tell me Herr Herrenvolk, how is the master race proceeding? Us mere mortals across the world are still enjoying our sex without the imperial dogma.
And when are you going to bring your cultural enlightenment to those fearful savages that practice arranged marriages, or - horror of horrors - don't even believe in marriage at all? Chemical Castrations all around?
Heaven forbid that they're allowed the choice the Good Lord says is available to them.
I don't really think that's my decision to make. Although, I can't figure sex would have any meaning unless it was actually emotional in nature, so I do think that two people in a healthy relationship should at least wait until they're ready to that degree.
Not that I would know much about it, considering I'm a virgin to the point where I've never been involved with a girl in any way whatsoever, but that's my two cents, for what it counts as.
Not that I would know much about it, considering I'm a virgin to the point where I've never been involved with a girl in any way whatsoever, but that's my two cents, for what it counts as.
Personally no. I believe that the physical connection is important with a partner. You could argue that there's more to physical connections than just sex. But I'm sure as many people have said it's all preference. It's against my religion, but I'm far from orthodox.
On the other side I have a friend who didn't want to have sex until she got married, not for religious reasons, but for personal / ideals of hers, and in the last year found a man who shares the same values.
So wherever you are in choice you'll likely find a partner who shares your beliefs/ideals/etc.
On the other side I have a friend who didn't want to have sex until she got married, not for religious reasons, but for personal / ideals of hers, and in the last year found a man who shares the same values.
So wherever you are in choice you'll likely find a partner who shares your beliefs/ideals/etc.
it's totally personal choice, i personally think it's wrong NOT to have sex pre-marriage, reason being: sexual incompatability (crap spelling there) is a very real thing. but hey if you want to wait for marriage than fine, enjoy that.......
I really dont know how to respond to this, because, really, I dont.The_root_of_all_evil said:
And what dogma would that be. Also, NEVER COMPARE ME TO THAT MONSTER AGAIN!!The_root_of_all_evil said:
Did I say I want to install some kind of sex police to make sure people arent "doing it" before marriage, because I dont recall doing that. All I said was I disapprove and dont think people should just because their "hormones say so," or "because they have free will." Its your body, you should be able to control your hormones, and just because you CAN do something, doesnt mean you should.The_root_of_all_evil said:
I think, "Should people wait until they've had sex before making a supposedly lifelong commitment to only having sex with each other?" is a better question.
Unless you aren't aiming for monogamy, in which case I don't know why you'd care when the boinking started anyway.
Unless you aren't aiming for monogamy, in which case I don't know why you'd care when the boinking started anyway.
No, I believe that they should have sex whenever the fuck they feel like, granted that they then live with the consequences of contracting an STD at 14 and having to raise the little bugger (hahaha, I just called children Sexually Transmitted Diseases, I'm so clever 
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But no, I don't care.
Would I have sex before I'm married? No, because personally I respect myself enough to offer my own only to one person in my life whom I've yet to meet (although I can tell you for damn sure that it isn't bloody likely that she even exists) and nobody else. It's partially out of my own ethics (which is odd for a Nihilist, I know), partially as a challenge to myself, and partially because I'm kind of an asshole and very average-looking. Also, I'm not really all that interested... Also, most of the girls my age living in this area are insufferable whine-pot-and-std collection bins whom I can't stand to be around. They also aren't very good-looking. Hey, I'm not going to pretend that looks aren't important, fuck you... Also, I <3 Engi... Anime ruined my standards of women... Ah, Japanese animation; where every other female is beautiful, smart, strong, independent, kind, caring, and all I could want...
But I tell you something, when I fantasize about my favorite anime girl, I imagine marriage followed by gratuitous amounts of sex, because I respect that notion for some reason... The marriage, not the sex... Also the sex...
Sorry, I got a little ramble-y there.
).But no, I don't care.
Would I have sex before I'm married? No, because personally I respect myself enough to offer my own only to one person in my life whom I've yet to meet (although I can tell you for damn sure that it isn't bloody likely that she even exists) and nobody else. It's partially out of my own ethics (which is odd for a Nihilist, I know), partially as a challenge to myself, and partially because I'm kind of an asshole and very average-looking. Also, I'm not really all that interested... Also, most of the girls my age living in this area are insufferable whine-pot-and-std collection bins whom I can't stand to be around. They also aren't very good-looking. Hey, I'm not going to pretend that looks aren't important, fuck you... Also, I <3 Engi... Anime ruined my standards of women... Ah, Japanese animation; where every other female is beautiful, smart, strong, independent, kind, caring, and all I could want...
But I tell you something, when I fantasize about my favorite anime girl, I imagine marriage followed by gratuitous amounts of sex, because I respect that notion for some reason... The marriage, not the sex... Also the sex...
Sorry, I got a little ramble-y there.
People should wait until they're READY. Whenever that is. Me? I want my first time to be special. It needs to be when i'm wholeheartedly ready. There is no set time for when two people should have sex, it just happens.
You can't tell people not what they want to do.
My opinion is only sex someone you love dearly. Use contraception before you get married. I don't want to bring a child into the world whose parents aren't married.
I feel disgusted by people who whore themselves. I find they're shallow. But that's my opinion.
My opinion is only sex someone you love dearly. Use contraception before you get married. I don't want to bring a child into the world whose parents aren't married.
I feel disgusted by people who whore themselves. I find they're shallow. But that's my opinion.
That's how it came across. Putting "Actually" at the front of sentences often gives the impression "You are wrong and I am right."BOOM headshot65 said:
First of all, hormones are very powerful things. Given they can change all of our perceptions, I think it's very unfair to say we CAN control them all the time. Could/Should fine. Can is a bit harsh.
Secondly, marriage is only available to some people. These may not be the people who are in love. It's an institution humanity brought in to promote monogamy, when we're simply not monogamous creatures. Even Adam had three wives. And was never married.
Thirdly, no-one can control their bodies fully. You can't. Sneezing and keeping your eyes open is just one example.
You can TRY. No problem with that. But as a law, it's unenforceable, undetectable and, frankly, unethical.
Although it does give a whole new reflection on being married to cows and things.
TL;DR: Nice Ethic, Bad Rule.
With today's economy, few people can afford elegant weddings, so waiting until you can do that wouldn't do anyone any favors. That said, there is something respectable about waiting to have a mutually serious relationship before having sex. Just because someone's rich, hot, can say/do the right things, or you're too weak willed to resist and make them stop doesn't sound like a very good excuse to be spreading your legs. Then again, I'm a bit old fashioned.
But my point was that sex isn't at the top of anybody's true priority list. And you are right in saying "companies tap into those primal [desires]", which is dishonest on their part and has adversely affected culture on the whole.tobyornottoby said:
It's not like people have been so eager to paint/sculpt/commission naked women through the ages because of some higher meaning though. It's since time immemorial. Plastic surgery is nothing compared to those old fertility statue thingies =pKAPTAINmORGANnWo4life said:
The points seem to have muddled somewhat. My point was that sex is used by us for other purposes than procreation. And my other point was that our sex drives are nature, not nurture.
Now I'm wondering whether it actually is at the top of some kind of persons' lists. Whether it is or not, it is, and always has been, very important for the avarage human.
"Spreading your legs" seems old fashioned. With today's contraception, women have a lot of the freedom men have, but your judgement seems to be aimed at one sex only. Although you are right those are not very good excuses. "Because you like it" might be a better one.Sarah Frazier said:
Although there are a lot of anime out there that aren't treating their females very respectful .Switchblade 327 said:
What does offering your own to only one person has to do with respect btw? I can understand the difference in offering your own to the one you love or to anyone, but many people fall in love multiple times in their lives.
Yeah, I don't much care for ecchi. I may be a hot-blooded young-man and all, but so much fan service only kills the show...tobyornottoby said:
Anyway, I find it respectful that the one I love is special; that they are the only one. Not much of a prize, I know, but I might as well. I guess there's also a little respect for myself; like, I want to be strong enough to not give in to my urges (because I might as well fuck the natural way as I wait to die)... I want to take pride in how I've conquered these urges, and I want to keep myself... I don't want to use the word "pure," because that's awfully pretentious, but I don't really know a better word.
As for falling in love multiple times... I guess that you don't know me, so that's okay, but I'll be lucky to hug a girl that I'm not directly related to (that is, in a romantic sense) before I die... Yeah, I take this "v-card" thing pretty far. Again, I might as well.
There's no real reason for it, but it's probably at least a third because of the fact that I'm very average, and also kind of an asshole, and uncomfortable with women, and not really interested... My poor social skills are a problem, I mean... Have you ever seen The Big Bang Theory on TV? Yeah, I'm like Sheldon, except I have a better comprehension of irony and sarcasm and humor, and I try not to flaunt my intelligence too much... Although the way I phrased that kind of destroyed that little bit I had... Shit.
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Anyway, it's cool to have sex whenever you want, just don't tell me about it.