Poll: The 'why' in Sexuality

[Zeema]

now i was playing Burnout Paradise [its where idea's happen] and i was thinking about Sexuality.

anyway im Pansexual, so i started thinking, i read earlier on a different site that 'Your Experiences define your sexuality'. i wasn't 100% sold on this however, because i didn't have a great time with Male or Female people, at all. i looked into the subject even more and i got a different response

'your just born that way' [also i don't listen to most modern music so i was unaware of the Lady Gaga song'] i wasn't sold on this either, because if you have certain experiences with a gender you might end up hating that gender. As far as i know people aren't born with hate, so i was really against the wall trying to figure it out.

as i zoomed around another corner and off a jump, i had a realization, 'I have Absolutely no idea'.

i couldn't figure out why i was pansexual because it didn't really make sense too me, i was always treated badly by the Sexes and wouldn't that negatively impact on what i think of them sexually?

but i was Straight only 4 years ago, i found gay stuff and by that i mean like 'Erotica' kind of 'unappealing' if you get me. I did and still do believe in Gay rights and stuff i just didn't really wanna see Erotica in action.

maybe it was that scene in FF7 but i never found that stuff exciting in any case.

So im confused.

ANYWAAYYYYYYYY

Whats your sexuality?
Do you think there is a Why too your Sexuality?
Are we born this way? or does it just happen? or do are experiences Define our sexuality?
Have you ever been sexual Attracted to a member of the Same sex when you are not Homosexual?
Have you ever been Sexual Attracted to a member of the Opposite Sex when you are Homosexual?

Also my grammer and Puncuation is very bad im sorry about that.

 

[Ectoplasmicz]

I am straight.
I think I am straight because...I, um...yeah.
I apologise, I'm quite knackered and can't think straight enough to think about these things to deeply.

I have never been attracted to anyone of the same sex.

Spoiler: Well, with the exception of this hunk

 

[Catfood220]

I am straight because I like women. A very simple answer perhaps, but I never really gave it any thought. I just like women.

I am comfortable with my sexuality but I will admit that I can look at a man and find him attractive. For example, I saw a band called Kellermensch last year and the bassist was the most beautiful man I've ever seen. I also have a massive man crush on Brian Fallon from The Gaslight Anthem.

 

[The Night Angel]

I'm bi, I don't think there is really any reason behind it, I'm just attracted to both guys and girls, and have had happy relationships with both. I believe everyone on Earth could find at least one member of their own sex that they are attracted to. I doubt people are born with one sexuality or another, as it doesn't seem like a genetic thing to me, just a preference.

 

[Nimcha]

Because my genetic makeup coupled with early childhood experiences defined my sexuality as gay.

That's the best guess anyone can make I think.

 

[Esotera]

What exactly is pan/demi sexuality?

I don't think that sexuality is as simple as being definitely gay/straight, and it's more of a sliding scale. Having said that, I'd identify as straight, but haven't really felt any need to be in a relationship for several years. So possibly a bit asexual.

 

[Aurgelmir]

What is Demi-sexual? And how does Pan-sexuality differ from bisexuality?

 

[Tsukuyomi]

I'm straight, been so all my life as far as I can remember.

Never really found guys attractive, again as far as I can remember. Although I can see where for some people it might happen. Mostly I think you have to draw a slight line in the sand that divides physical attraction and emotional attraction. Compared to the guys that I know and around me, I tend to be more in-touch with my emotions, more willing to share them, and, as a bit of a proverbial late-bloomer, I'm experiencing some emotional situations as new where my friends and colleagues have dealt with them before or for years. In that capacity, I get little to no support from men I know aside from the same old platitudes and advice I could give myself when I'm thinking straight and not bogged down by stress or something. Women give me the empathy and understanding that I'm looking for. Combine that in with the fact that I'm already sexually attracted to women? Sorry but I'm not going anywhere else.

All this is brought up because I think sexuality is also in part defined by not just who you find physically attractive, but who you meet that fills emotional and mental sides of your life. When you feel like the world has shut you out and you run into someone who has compassion for you and genuinely cares, you are going to forge a connection regardless of gender. Those connections always seem to be pretty deep and they often linger into the area of love, so I can see where it might be your experiences that give you attraction. The physical attraction may be there not only because of physical attraction, but also because there's a chance for intimacy, for another higher, better layer of emotional contact. Combine that with the physical perks of sex and that's a tough offer to beat, even if you don't recognize all the aspects. But I'm not a psychologist, nor do I think anyone knows 100%. I could be completely wrong on this one but I feel like it's right. Anyone who's got any conflicting evidence feel free to correct me.

In short I think it simply falls to this: You can have lots of different types of love. You love your family, you love your girlfriend or boyfriend, you love your best friend like you love your family. If you can love different people in different ways for different things, I think you're more than capable of being attracted to people in different ways for different things.

 

[MammothBlade]

I'm bisexual because I can derive romantic and sexual stimulation from both sexes. Not much else to it.

 

[Dags90]

I think there are plenty of people who hate women and yet still consider themselves heterosexual. Most (but certainly not all) of the misogynists I've met have been heterosexual men.

I think it's probably a combination of genetic and other environmental factors, but the environmental factors are probably things like birth order and other physical things. I've certainly never seen any sort of pattern of psychosocial development in any of the gay men I've met. Honestly, I think it's a silly thing to fret over really.

Gay, by the way. Girls have cooties.

 

[Mayhaps]

Why do you want to put me in a box?

 

[burningdragoon]

So... what do Burnout Paradise and FF7 have to do with sexuality? Also, the way you have chosen to label the poll options is odd. Pan & Demi get a hyphen, Homo & Hetero get their common names, and A gets an -ity suffix. Make up your mind!

Okay, okay, to answer the questions:
I'm straight.
Yes there's a why, but anything more than it being how I'm wired I don't know. Plus lady-folk just look so nice.
Edit: Herp, missed that middle question. Um... *shrug*
No. I can admit there are some good looking dudes out there, but that's it.
N/A.

Your grammar is bad and you should feel bad! /zoidberg

 

[Lilani]

Whats your sexuality?

Straight, and female if that matters any.

Do you think there is a Why too your Sexuality?

This question is just a bit vague...but as far as some specific purpose for some people being attracted to other genders more, no I don't think there is any specific evolutionary reason that situation exists. I think it's just how some people think.

Are we born this way? or does it just happen? or do are experiences Define our sexuality?

Personally I think you are "born this way." I think if experiences did come to define someone's sexuality there wouldn't be so many gays to come from straight households. I have a Christian friend who was convinced that sexuality was a choice, until someone asked him a simple question. "Do you think, right now, you could make yourself be attracted to a man?" That was the moment he realized sexuality is deeper than that.

Have you ever been sexual Attracted to a member of the Same sex when you are not Homosexual?

I can appreciate the aesthetic beauty of the female figure, and having gone through three art history courses I have seen my fair share of art appreciating women and all their "glory." But being romantically attracted to one, like in love? No, I haven't. And I don't tend to consider the option as often as I consider the option when I meet a guy.

 

[Ilikemilkshake]

Why do you want to put me in a box?

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Reminded me of this at 22:00 onward :|

OT: If i had to put a label on it i'd probably say i'm Pansexual.
Gender/Looks aren't really important to me regarding a relationship.

 

[Combustion Kevin]

I always thought i was bisexual but never encountered a guy I felt attracted too.
then I thought: "hey, maybe thats exactly what straight means."

 

[krazykidd]

-Straight.
-Because women are awsome in every sense . I barely see why women like men at all.
-I personally think , and have no way to back this up , thhat everyone is born straight and deviates as they get older . Also i view being Asexual as a ailment , because humans are suppose to have the urge to reproduce .
-Nope
-Nope , but i can admit when a guy is good looking, but it rarely happens , because they guy has to be REALLY good looking for me to even notice . Hell i don't even find most women attractive , but i think that is due to my fat girl fetish, not to be confused with bloating/gaining/feeding fetish .