Poll: The 'why' in Sexuality

[Tommeh Brownleh]

I'm heterosexual. I really have no evidence to believe you're either born a certain way or choose to be a certain way. I have never experienced attraction to another man. I wish to find a way to either decrease my libido to the point of asexuality, or become asexual by any other means, because sexuality only gets in the way of everything else.

 

[hecate-servant]

Bisexual and for me it's both a born this way and a choice. I was born with more testosterone than other females (most women have about 1/5th the amount of men and I was born with 2/5ths big difference) without like excess of anything except some natural aggression. I've always been more dominant and I've always chosen women and men both equally. I think it's this combination of my more aggressive behaviours but it's mainly my choice. I've always been attracted to other women as well as men and I've had casual and serious relationships with whomever I chose. I think the issue is the degree to which people find others attractive. For me, there is no set limitation or checklist. It occurs and I chose what I want from one relationship to the next.

 

[DANEgerous]

I am Bi and no i do not think there is a why involved. I favor females and thus (begrudgingly) to my father am heterosexual because to him "you are gay straight or dead" and yeah that is literally a direct quote from him. He hates gays to the extent i have to screen "Game of Thrones" for any gay romance at all so that he cab fast forward through it which me want to laugh and cry at the same time as it is is just so damned pathetic.

Anyway I identified as just heterosexual until one day i defended my gay friend who was exceptionally upset as he was just physically attacked by two guts with metal pipes. We wind up sitting down he put his head in my lap and tells me about how he has had a crush on me because apparently i am fucking adorable or something. So he tells me this and my reaction is sort of a shocked smile and he goes for a kiss and just wipers "just member to breathe" it was nice though i had never considered it before it felt good so i did not resist, I even slept with him it was fantastic.

I suppose all that just kind of negated a why for me, as well as the fact this sis not feel like some revelation it was just sort of "well that was fun".

 

[DANEgerous]

I am Bi and no i do not think there is a why involved. I favor females and thus (begrudgingly) to my father am heterosexual because to him "you are gay straight or dead" and yeah that is literally a direct quote from him. He hates gays to the extent i have to screen "Game of Thrones" for any gay romance at all so that he cab fast forward through it which me want to laugh and cry at the same time as it is is just so damned pathetic.

Anyway I identified as just heterosexual until one day i defended my gay friend who was exceptionally upset as he was just physically attacked by two guts with metal pipes. We wind up sitting down he put his head in my lap and tells me about how he has had a crush on me because apparently i am fucking adorable or something. So he tells me this and my reaction is sort of a shocked smile and he goes for a kiss and just wipers "just member to breathe" it was nice though i had never considered it before it felt good so i did not resist, I even slept with him it was fantastic.

I suppose all that just kind of negated a why for me, as well as the fact this sis not feel like some revelation it was just sort of "well that was fun".

 

[DANEgerous]

seriously escapist? WTF was up with this?
Why you tipple post?

 

[DANEgerous]

Gonna lose forum health for technical difficulties... yep... fuckn' hell.

 

[A.A.K]

Whats your sexuality?
Do you think there is a Why too your Sexuality?
Are we born this way? or does it just happen? or do are experiences Define our sexuality?
Have you ever been sexual Attracted to a member of the Same sex when you are not Homosexual?
Have you ever been Sexual Attracted to a member of the Opposite Sex when you are Homosexual?

Also my grammer and Puncuation is very bad im sorry about that.

I'm straight as far as I'm aware of.
I've only ever been with women, and have been with my current girlfriend for just over 2 years - and the sex life is pretty sweetass....i mean badass. Yea. Badass.

but as for the determination of my sexuality or the thoughts I've had of it over the years, I've always considered that I like the male figure, but the reason I like the male figure is because I always compare myself with the best. I don't have mighty pecs and rocky abs, so I look to those who do.
Male to male sex has always repulsed me. I'm not homophobic and I have quite a few gay friends, but if I see it in action, it makes me want to vomit. Just as a bodily reflex.

That was my indication to "You're straight" and it's been like this for as long as I can remember.

 

[Gmans uncle]

I thought I was Bi until I came to the conclusion that I was gay all along thanks to a bit of introspection, thinking back to early parts of my life, and simply admitting that I find most of the female anatomy rather unpleasant. I think I've got this thing figured out now, only problem, the only guys in town in my age range (I'm 17) either have no interest in me, I have no interest in them, are taken, or have had dibs put on them by one of my best gay friends (who I incidentally have a huge crush on)... sigh...

 

[Zeckt]

I'm pansexual to the extreme and probably was doomed to it at birth by the fact that neither parent taught me much of anything let alone how to be my so called sex which was not even clear at birth anyways. At least I don't have to worry about body hair and only shave once every 2, 3 weeks but its doubtful I will ever win an arm wrestle.

 

[Don Savik]

What is Demi-sexual? And how does Pan-sexuality differ from bisexuality?

Pan sexual is a trendy term by people who didn't like the term bisexual and wanted to seem new and different. It's also used by bysexuals who incorrectly believe there are more than two sexes/genders.

Demi sexual is another newly made up word introduced by an a-sexual group who believed that if you only cared about sex when in a relationship you weren't a-sexual but nor were you...well any other sexuality. It seems to me to be a silly view of sexuality by someone who doesn't understand "normal" sexuality where the brain is actually engaged as part of sexuality.

Please tell me this isnt real. This is the silliest thing I've ever heard. I'm expecting John Cleese to jump out behind me and tell me that things are getting rather silly.

You can't make every single viewpoint on sex its own sex. That's not how it works......

*holds head* ooohhhh......my brain.......

 

[Captain Pirate]

Whats your sexuality?
Straight. Had a bisexual phase, and I'm the total opposite of homophobic, I just wouldn't do anything very sexual with a guy.

Do you think there is a Why too your Sexuality?
No. You are what you are. 'Why's' be damned.

Are we born this way? or does it just happen? or do are experiences Define our sexuality?
I think they can have an influence, certainly, but I think there is a fairly large chunk of naturalness to it.

Have you ever been sexual Attracted to a member of the Same sex when you are not Homosexual?
Yes, I have. Had a proper bisexual phase, then went off it.

Have you ever been Sexual Attracted to a member of the Opposite Sex when you are Homosexual?
I've never been totally homosexual, so no.

 

[Zack Alklazaris]

I believe that most people are a little bit of both, just in different levels. The percentage of straight people "experimenting" is unusually higher than you'd think it would be for a group that has such a bold line with who they are.