Poll: There is this girl......

[SilentVirus]

There is this girl I know. We been friends for a while know to the point where we are acting flirtatious and such. I clearly like her and she clearly likes me. However, I'm not sure if I should date her because we been very good friends for a long time and I am afraid if I date her, we can no longer be friends. And worse, if we break up we defiantly not look at each other the same way again. So escapist, I am looking to you to help me here.

Edit: Well I am certain she won't reject me because she at one time proposed the idea. We even almost made out before. The only thing that stop us was me saying no.

 

[A Concerned Spoon]

Hypothetically, pretend its a few years later, you both have grown apart and never asked her out. Looking back would feel regret for not asking her out?

 

[TheYellowCellPhone]

We have an advice forum for a reason.

OT: Take the shot, you're only young once. You don't know for sure if she'll hate you if she rejects you.

 

[Wolfenbarg]

Go to bash.org and find a poem to recite her. If she isn't scared away, she's the one.

 

[Odbarc]

The only failure you should be worried about is failure to try. You could lose her from your life from any number of reasons. If you worry only about the bad things that could happen, what if things work out perfectly and you marry her or something?

 

[Broady Brio]

Yeah.

What's the worst that can happen? Her saying "No."?

She won't hate you for it. She may even want you to.

 

[RoboGeek]

Hypothetically, pretend its a few years later, you both have grown apart and never asked her out. Looking back would feel regret for not asking her out?

this so much i was in the same situation as you a couple of years back, i liked this girl so much and i think i think she liked me back but i never acted on it and i really kinda regret it now

 

[Ohhi]

DO IT!!!! may be the best thing that ever happens to you.

 

[Haydyn]

You'll have a thousand friendships, but it is rare to find someone who you are happy with. If you are confident she likes you back, go for it. I keep jumping the gun before girls get that close to me.

 

[Pyromaniak3]

Do it... might as well. Don't want to look back and think, well shit I should have done it.

 

[BaconPunch]

yeah you will, everybody's like
"oh it wouldn't be the same"
or
"it would ruin our entire friendship"
LIES AND SLANDER
it takes a few weeks of not talking and then its all peaches and cream.

 

[JoJo]

I'd honestly go for it, friends are as easy as hell to make, whereas a woman who you'd genuinally be happy to be with is a much rarer find.

Also, ignore any crap about the "friend zone", it's just made up by a bunch of lonely guys who can't work out why people often aren't attracted to those who they might still happen to like as a friend.

 

[Dr. Crawver]

give it a go. Yes, you risk your friendship, but as you get older, you will drift apart anyway. If you don't go for it, you will always be left wondering, don't let this be a regret you'll hold for the rest of your life

 

[Ignatz_Zwakh]

Go for it. Better you do so than continue being friends with these feelings posing an obstacle between the two of you.

 

[MasterOfWorlds]

I'd say go for it. Go for it now before you fall into that "best friend" or "like a brother" category. Once you're there, it's either impossible, or just creepy to get out of. XD

 

[Sjakie]

Despite what general opinion might dictate about friendship and sex/dating: I have always found it to be a perfect combination. Your allready comfortable with each other which makes dating more fun and less pressured and on relationship level your allready a good match.

the only reason it might not work out well is because your a sexual deviant...so confess that to her and hit that s***

 

[F'Angus]

Hell I had the same situation... Went with the no option... regret it a bit now. Go for it man.

 

[AquaAscension]

When you say clearly, do you mean clearly as the normal person views the word or clearly as the person in love does? Have you outright said, "Hey, I like you" or are you assuming that this girl's standard operating procedures, when directed toward you, mean something other than what she wants them to (simply because it's you, and not someone else).

Relationships are complex and messy. Most of which end after a few weeks in High School (which is my assumption of your place). Do yo ulike her because you're comfortable with her, she seems like an easy person to be with (i.e. no one else would like you as she does) or do you like her because you really, really like her? If it's the former, save yourself the trouble and try having her assist you in finding "the right one." If it's the latter, go for it because "love is a wish too scary to whisper for fear of jinxing it. Relationships take work because they're worth it. Dive into affection with kamikaze feverence. Be not afraid."

 

[Dr Snakeman]

Instead of my own advice, please heed these words of wisdom from one of the greatest men who ever lived, Theodore Roosevelt.

"In any moment of decision, the best thing you can do is the right thing, the next best thing you can do is the wrong thing, and the worst thing you can do is nothing."

Basically, go for it, because no matter what, it can't go as badly as not doing anything.

 

[AngloDoom]

Friendship is the basis of a good relationship. If you're good friends and you both like each other, you're either going to fall for each other or fall out in the long-run.