Poll: There's something wrong with her.

[DoubleU12]

I haven't had a girlfriend in almost 9 years, and even back then it was less than a month and we only kissed twice. Had no other relationships before or since and I doubt there was any point where she was committed to that relationship anyway so I'm sure that barely counted as is.

I've had interest in a few girls since then but none of them shared the same feeling. But oh well, no big deal. Not like it really mattered much to me anyway, too busy to keep a steady consistent relationship anyway.

But then the other day a girl suddenly showed a little interest in me. Now I'm sure it wasn't anything serious but it took me a bit off guard and it made me realize that I can't imagine myself being interested in this girl anyway, she's most likely a weirdo.

Because honestly. I'm sure I'm just not an attractive guy, experience has shown that girls don't care about me. So at this point I think if there was a girl who showed interested, I'd feel there's something wrong with her more than me.

 

[Eleuthera]

Neither.

People can't help who they're attracted to. And (some) people can't help being surprised by the fact there are interested parties out there... I know I'm usually taken by surprise that there might be people out there who are even remotely interested in me...

 

[madwarper]

I think the best course of action is to be blunt.

Ask her what her intentions are. And, if she does want to be in a relationship, be honest and upfront with your lack of experience in such matters.
Also, get to know her first before just writing her off as a 'wierdo'.

 

[Strazdas]

Neither. Different people like different people. Just because some girls dont like you does not mean none will. I surely havent given up hope.
Get to know her and only then judge. Maybe this will be the girl of your life and you will refuse her just because she was the first to show interest?

 

[DoubleU12]

I think the best course of action is to be blunt.

Ask her what her intentions are. And, if she does want to be in a relationship, be honest and upfront with your lack of experience in such matters.
Also, get to know her first before just writing her off as a 'wierdo'.

I suppose the best way to clarify confusion is to ask her.

I know ' wierdo ' is a bit harsh, I have no doubt she's an otherwise decent person. But I think if I was a person that normal girls would be attracted to I'd assume I'd have some hints long before now.

Yes this world is filled with all kinds but I know that practically all girls just don't show interest in me outside of friendly chatting, thats just the way it is, like one of those instances similar to acting vulgar or rude to 10 people. Chances are all 10 will be offended.

 

[Eleuthera]

Yes this world is filled with all kinds but I know that practically all girls just don't show interest in me outside of friendly chatting, thats just the way it is, like one of those instances similar to acting vulgar or rude to 10 people. Chances are all 10 will be offended.

This century two [2] women have shown any kind of "interest outside of friendly chatting" in me, does that mean they don't exist? Or just that I don't run into them? Or maybe they are there but I just don't notice. I still expect/hope that I'll find someone eventually. Will she be weird? well yes, probably, but not for liking me.

 

[krazykidd]

You're weird for thinking that only a person who showed intrest is weird . That being said you could ask her what her intentions are but i find being that blunt makes situations awkward , but that's just me. You could just , you know , talk to her and stop thinking so hard . I find overanalyzing situations like this unhealthy and pointless . And if she is interested well count yourself lucky and take the compliment . It does wonders for the self esteem.

 

[omega 616]

she's most likely a weirdo

WTF dude?

Firstly, what makes you sprint to that conclusion?

Secondly, why would that be a bad thing? I am of the opinion that normal is boring, weird is just something that is abnormal, which means weird is good.

Although if she is collecting cats or carries a stuffed rabbit to school, then maybe it would be best to distance yourself.

 

[romxxii]

Spoiler: snip

I haven't had a girlfriend in almost 9 years, and even back then it was less than a month and we only kissed twice. Had no other relationships before or since and I doubt there was any point where she was committed to that relationship anyway so I'm sure that barely counted as is.

I've had interest in a few girls since then but none of them shared the same feeling. But oh well, no big deal. Not like it really mattered much to me anyway, too busy to keep a steady consistent relationship anyway.

But then the other day a girl suddenly showed a little interest in me. Now I'm sure it wasn't anything serious but it took me a bit off guard and it made me realize that I can't imagine myself being interested in this girl anyway, she's most likely a weirdo.

Because honestly. I'm sure I'm just not an attractive guy, experience has shown that girls don't care about me. So at this point I think if there was a girl who showed interested, I'd feel there's something wrong with her more than me.

Hard to judge if it's weird or not with that vague a description. How has she shown interest? Maybe you could describe the moment when she started paying attention to you? For all you know, she's just the "affectionate" type, who act very sweet to even those they just consider friends.

By any chance, were you trying to be funny? Or did something happen, a shared moment? Those two things can circumvent a girl's preference for men like nobody's business.

 

[Eleuthera]

Although if she is collecting cats or carries a stuffed rabbit to school, then maybe it would be best to distance yourself.

I dunno, how many cats are we talking about here?

 

[kailus13]

Although if she is collecting cats or carries a stuffed rabbit to school, then maybe it would be best to distance yourself.

I dunno, how many cats are we talking about here?

Apparently 7 is the number that defines a crazy cat lady.

 

[omega 616]

Although if she is collecting cats or carries a stuffed rabbit to school, then maybe it would be best to distance yourself.

I dunno, how many cats are we talking about here?

I think anything over 5 is pushing it, might start getting a bit of "crazy cat lady" tag after 5. At first you start out with one or two, then slowly you're like ... this....

 

[pillywiggins]

Don't be silly, there's something wrong with everyone. There is no such thing as "normal people", everybody's screwed up in some way and that's perfectly fine.
That said, if the only thing that makes you think she's a "weirdo" is that she's interested in you, it sounds like you're just making excuses for yourself to not step outside of your comfort zone and give it a shot.

 

[TheRightToArmBears]

Eh, don't be so hard on yourself. Or do, it doesn't really matter, but it doesn't mean she's crazy. People just have weird taste in these things.

 

[Dragoon]

I think you need to boost your self esteem a bit, thinking that a girl who shows interest in you is weird isn't right. Sometimes it just takes a little while to find someone, but I really think you should give this girl a chance, ask her out on a date or just get to know her a bit before you dismiss her.

 

[DRTJR]

Be blunt, and just imagin your self a sexy beast and act with confedance then you'll do fine.

 

[The Last Nomad]

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder you fool. For everyone in the world, there is a member of the opposite sex who thinks your the sexual cat's pajamas.

Also stop feeling so sorry for yourself, if you like her then go for it, if not, why are you even asking us this question?
What I hear is a guy too scared to have a relationship and is trying to find a reason not to pursue one.

 

[gorfias]

You.

Your reasons for rejecting her (possibly) are wrong. You need to see the movie http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0815236/

Girls are looking for all sorts of things. Looks matter. Be on your best. But most aren't looking for male super models (the race would be extinct. Most of us males, including me, are as ugly as sin. To quote Elaine from Seinfeld, women are like works of art. Men are like Jeeps. Utilitarian.)

Decide if this girl is someone you can have a relationship with. Maybe you misread her signals? Even if you did, why?

Figure out what you want. I have friends who seem happy without a mate. But if you want one, don't let your own self image keep you down. It's not like she is going to tell your mom that she is shocked at you for asking her to go out sometime. Have fun. Roll with the punches if they are coming, but if this sounds like fun, go for it.

I have my fingers crossed for you. I think you can have some fun. I'd go for it.

 

[Vidiot421]

Don't be silly, there's something wrong with everyone. There is no such thing as "normal people", everybody's screwed up in some way and that's perfectly fine.
That said, if the only thing that makes you think she's a "weirdo" is that she's interested in you, it sounds like you're just making excuses for yourself to not step outside of your comfort zone and give it a shot.

I don't think you could have said it better, Unless you went straight from the movie Angus.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4OwVEQ3GmvQ



And to the OP, never be afraid to step outside your comfort zone. I'm not the best looking either, at 5'5 and 250 lbs, with long hair and a lack of shaving for the last 6 months. I'm comfortable being by myself alot of the time, but the times I have stepped out of my box have been some of the most memorable times in my life.

A few regrets, but many more triumphs.

 

[MortisLegio]

Snip

I didn't know the voices in my head had an account too. Huh, go figure.

OT: In all seriousness though, I agree with the "be blunt and ask her what she thinks" idea. I mean, you never know, the two of you might just hit it off.

Spoiler: Either way, your doing alot better than me on the relationship front; with actually having had a girlfriend at some point in time.