Poll: Waiting to propose

[Biosophilogical]

IMHO, getting married shouldn't really be about 'making it official' as your love life is personal, but it should be a great celebration about the fact that you are both ready to say 'I want to spend the rest of my life with this person'. As to how long you should wait before getting married, it changes really. I would mark it with events rather than time. Firstly, you have to be friends first, then you have to go out and fall in love, then you have to live together to make sure you are able to be around eachother 24/7 without getting at eachother's throats, then you should wait a while to see if you still have that 'spark' and finally, through all that you should have 2 or more big fights just to see if you can work things out. If all of these are met, then propose, whether this takes 3 months or 3 years, all of these should be met.

Oh, and if it isn't against your religious beliefs, then you should probably throw sexual relations in there too (otherwise the honeymoon could be aw-kward).

 

[lazy_bum]

IMHO, getting married shouldn't really be about 'making it official' as your love life is personal, but it should be a great celebration about the fact that you are both ready to say 'I want to spend the rest of my life with this person'. As to how long you should wait before getting married, it changes really. I would mark it with events rather than time. Firstly, you have to be friends first, then you have to go out and fall in love, then you have to live together to make sure you are able to be around eachother 24/7 without getting at eachother's throats, then you should wait a while to see if you still have that 'spark' and finally, through all that you should have 2 or more big fights just to see if you can work things out. If all of these are met, then propose, whether this takes 3 months or 3 years, all of these should be met.

Oh, and if it isn't against your religious beliefs, then you should probably throw sexual relations in there too (otherwise the honeymoon could be aw-kward.

you have to be friends first: tick
then you have to go out and fall in love: tick
then you have to live together to make sure you are able to be around eachother 24/7 without getting at eachother's throats: tick
wait a while to see if you still have that 'spark': depends on how long a while is but still tick
you should have 2 or more big fights just to see if you can work things out: tick
then you should probably throw sexual relations in there too: TICK lol

 

[imp_spittle]

I'm glad that you love her very much and congratulations, but it's not how long you've been dating; it's how long you've lived together. The moment one moves in with the other is typically when all hell breaks loose. You need something like 9 months of cohabitation before you know whether or not the magic is wearing off or strengthening.

Personally (and completely hypothetically), I'd wait until about one to three years before proposing. Make sure we can 1. date and 2. live together without killing each other before taking the lifelong commitment. I've seen too many of my friends jump immediately into cohabitation only to watch their relationships fall apart.

 

[skyfire_freckles]

I answered 'as soon as you meet them', because I believe in true love at first sight.

If two people can love each other now, they can love each other fifty years from now.

It's all about how much effort you're willing to put into the relationship, and I don't just mean you, I mean you two. If both people make this effort, that's when things stand the test of time.

True love is made. It's made of attraction, pride, friendship, anger, lust, tears, forgiveness and persistence and time. People who are still married and in love after fifty years never gave up.

You've probably made the right choice, because it feels right. Good luck to you.

 

[lazy_bum]

I answered 'as soon as you meet them', because I believe in true love at first sight.

If two people can love each other now, they can love each other fifty years from now.

It's all about how much effort you're willing to put into the relationship, and I don't just mean you, I mean you two. If both people make this effort, that's when things stand the test of time.

True love is made. It's made of attraction, pride, friendship, anger, lust, tears, forgiveness and persistence and time. People who are still married and in love after fifty years never gave up.

You've probably made the right choice, because it feels right. Good luck to you.

Had never really thought about it like that. food for thought.

and thank you