Poll: what do you think of helicopter parents?

[Xyphon]

At a certain age, it's ok. Like, say, when you're still in the low levels of grade school. However, when you reach a certain point, it's a bad idea.

 

[sms_117b]

It's fine in moderation, pushing them to succeed is good, gets the child used to succeeding and the child may continue succeeding as they grow up, but like you said, to much they do become dependent on the parents support, but, on the other hand to little support and the child has no drive and will always under achieve.

Like everything in this world, a parent like this needs to keep an eye on how much they're pushing their child.

 

[iTeamKill]

I'm the child of a complete polar opposite of a helicopter parent. Life would be a lot easier now if they cared enough to motivate me (even if it is stressful) through school or a hobby.

normal childhood conversation paraphrased:
you should play football
Help me practice?
Can't. going away for 5 days. good luck at try-outs.
I didn't make the team dad.
Why the hell not? I made varsity my sophomore year. You should be good enough for peewee.

Mom, I don't understand this English assignment.
Why would you ask me about it, isn't that what you have teachers for?
but I didn't understand when they explained it to me either...
Then ask your father when he gets home from the bar.
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So after I dropped out of college the first time, I moved as far away as I could afford with a job in retail and 4 years later ended up going back to college and doing better now that I know what field I want to study.

 

[SimuLord]

I'm the child of a complete polar opposite of a helicopter parent. Life would be a lot easier now if they cared enough to motivate me (even if it is stressful) through school or a hobby.

normal childhood conversation paraphrased:
you should play football
Help me practice?
Can't. going away for 5 days. good luck at try-outs.
I didn't make the team dad.
Why the hell not? I made varsity my sophomore year. You should be good enough for peewee.

Mom, I don't understand this English assignment.
Why would you ask me about it, isn't that what you have teachers for?
but I didn't understand when they explained it to me either...
Then ask your father when he gets home from the bar.
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So after I dropped out of college the first time, I moved as far away as I could afford with a job in retail and 4 years later ended up going back to college and doing better now that I know what field I want to study.

In the words of Pearl Jam: "Daddy didn't give attention to the fact that mommy didn't care." Your name wouldn't happen to be Jeremy, would it?

 

[SsilverR]

it guarantees the child will have difficulties in the long run

 

[Low Key]

That type of situation is never good, but it's not quite as bad when the parent actually teaches the kid right from wrong at the same time. If the child doesn't at least learn that, they will be doomed from their 18th birthday.

 

[TriggerUnhappy]

Hate em, nothing pisses me off more than seeing a little girl in a pound of make-up and expensive dress, forced to enter some "pageant" as her mom sits in the back yelling "Come on baby, make mommy beautiful!!".

[small]p.s. If you're dense enough to not get that last part, I mean she's trying to live through her daughter.[/small]

 

[Aunel]

my parents are cool, they don't judge me on anything, so that is awesome, they are not the kind of parents that would say "you are not allowed to wear this or that" although they will say if they like it or not, and I really want this coat ( http://gothstore.piratemerch.com/mens-gothic-long-coat-p-114.html ), even though I don't like gothic clothes (love the architecture though) I really want it, and I think most parents don't like their kids buying from goth stores.

but I am not a truly spoiled brat that gets whatever I ask from my dad, I have to work for my cash (5 months until I have enough to buy a gaming pc)

 

[Prowers]

Screw them, the can't decide what their kids will grow up.

 

[thiosk]

You have no right to tell other people how to raise their children-- as long as the carpets are unsoaked by urine, mommy and daddy don't rub baby in extra-special places, and the beatings are kept to a minimum, it really isn't anyones business.

It is also your right to judge them, and consider them to be bad people, but it sounds like you are well aware of that right.

 

[Davidmcawesome]

All I know is that if my parent constantly hovered over me, I would punch her in the throat.
There is nothing worse than having someone watch what you're doing - it's so incredibly uncomfortable.
Of course, that's not exactly what you were asking, but whatever.

I'm also against "protecting" your kids from the real world.
Personally, I don't see the point in having parents - if you can't raise yourself, you're obviously doing something wrong.

I could say the same

 

[vamp rocks]

i dont think that we should be allowed to tell other people how to live their lives... but personally i think that over controlling parents are stupid, because once that child goes out to college and discovers that they have some freedom.. and they can smoke and drink.. the children go crazy..

i say keep a fairly tight leash but dont be in their face 24 sevs...

 

[I Stomp on Kittens]

When I came here I expected you to be talking about parents that were actually helicopters I feel like a dumbass