Poll: What gender is your best friend?

[krazykidd]

I want to talk about best friend. I am a 25 year old straight black male. My best friend is a 22 year old Straight asian girl.We have been friends for about 7 years.

People find this weird,firstly because of the different races thing ( to be fair i live in Québec, Canada , wish is a very racist province ), and secondly because I have a penis and she has a vagina I'm a guy and she's a girl. Our friendship is strivtly platonic, however few people actually believes this. People often think that we are a couple, or that at the very least we are sleeping together. Both of which are false, but it's like people can't believe a guy and a girl can be friends ( let alone best friends ) without some side action.To the point it has caused Relationship problems for the both of us ( her with her boyfriends, and me with my girlfriends).

I then noticed something. All the guys i know have male best friends, and all the women i know have female best friends. I was wondering how true that is . So i come to you on the escapists.

My question is : Is your best friend the same sex as you?

and as a bonus question

Do you find it weird when a persons best friend is of the opposite sex as them?

Remember: the key word here is best. As in really really really close.

 

[JoJo]

I have two 'best' friends and both are male, like myself. I have a very masculine personality and so I tend to get on better with males than females, so this isn't really a surprise. I don't think it's weird to have a best friend of the opposite sex though, not everyone is like me.

 

[Silvanus]

There are three or four people I could consider best friends, and they're all male.

Had a female best friend in the past, though. Still friends, but don't see each other too often.

 

[EeveeElectro]

My best friend is also my boyfriend, obviously male. [sub]I hope[/sub]
Obviously there's more than just friendship between us, but friendship and love is pretty cool.

As for a sole best friend, I don't have one. This is my own decision because I have insane jealousy issues and hate being pushed to one side so they can see other friends when we have made plans. If they had another best friend, I'd feel left out and sad too. I usually want people to myself and that's unfair of me to do that to people.

My old best friend was a transwoman. Personality wise, she was just like a guy and didn't change at all from when I knew her as a man. I'm usually the same so we got on well. Instead of gossiping and giggling, we played games and went to conventions. People assumed we were a couple maybe twice... If you can't wrap the head around the fact that platonic relationships exist then that's immature.

Saying that, I know a couple of guys who are so clearly gagging for it from their "best friends". There's no point making it blatantly obvious you want to fuck them then insist it's just platonic o_o

 

[Eamar]

I'm female, my best friend is male. We met in our first few days at university and just clicked instantly. For the first few years we had the same problem with pretty much everyone, from close friends to total strangers, assuming we were a couple. Even when we were both with other people. Even the rest of our close (and mixed gender!) friendship group straight up wouldn't believe we'd never slept together for a long while.

People seem to be mostly over it now though, thankfully.

I had a female best friend all the way through school (14 years), but we drifted apart afterwards and I haven't contacted her in a couple of years now.

 

[Colour Scientist]

My best friend is a girl too.

We've been close for over ten years now and I don't know what I'd do without her.
I've always had my core group of 3 or 4 girl friends and then a wider group of guys and girls.

I love my friends who are guys but I think sometimes there's nothing better than sitting down with a glass of wine and talking shite with a group of girls.

 

[Artina89]

I have two best friends and they are both female, as am I. I don't find it strange if I come across someone and their best friend is of the opposite gender to them, nor do I think that, if they are of the opposite gender and they are both straight that they should be dating. Sometimes being a best friend does not translate into a romantic relationship.

 

[Angelowl]

A bit complicated but almost makes sense on my end. Bisexual transgirl here with a male straight best friend since seven years back (high school practically). I have offered him benefits on virtue of being the first person that I really felt comfortable and relaxed with, but he is not interested.

Fun thing is that people have assumed that we were a couple on quite a few occasions. This was before I came out of the closet as trans, or figured out that I was bi. So people took me as a guy and I had no interest in guys back then. Still enough to make my family, my grandmother, my cousins and so on confident that he was my boyfriend.

Nowadays it is usually only a problem with the occasional girl that he dates, they get either scared or jealous fairly quickly at times. But in their defense, with their boyfriend having a eccentric, kinky, bisexual ladyboy best friend. That is quite frightening to compete with at times. I keep telling them that they do not have to, since I prefer women and plan on getting a girlfriend/wife in the future. But they will not listen.

I'm essentially the straight girls worst nightmare when it comes to their love interest's social life.

 

[ClockworkPenguin]

My best friends are also my oldest friends, and I didn't really hang around with many girls when I was 11, this being back when my sibling rivalry with my sisters was blazing merrily away, which rather put me off girls at the time. So my best friends are all male.

 

[saoirse13]

I have a 2 best friends one is female like myself the other is male, though it was a tad complicated. My best male friend and I are extremely close now and it is purely platonic. However, we started off as kind of seeing each other or to cut straight to the point we were more like friends with benefits. Lasted maybe all of 3 months but there was no real feelings there for each other. We both decided it was a bit stupid what we were doing and we stopped.
But it was from that that our friendship really started and now we are best friends. And have been for years and I can honestly say we would never go their again, .
It can be extremely difficult for others to understand that we are just friends with the history, and sometimes our significant others don't necessarily understand it. But we were young free and single and were spending every weekend out drinking so when it came to the end of the night we went home together. It's hard maybe to explain but with maturity came he realisation that there was no way we were ever going to develop real relationship. And really we were wasting our time making more problems and complicating things. We both met other people were in other relationships and now are both extremely close friends but have amazing partners in our lives, who really have no issue with our past.

 

[Chemical Alia]

I've known my best friend since I was a baby and we grew up together, she's a girl. I actually didn't have a single male friend at all until after I graduated high school and got into the army (though I hardly had any friends, period).

Nowadays my two next closest friends are both male, I think this is the result of going to school and working with more than 95% men and transplanting myself to a new state.

 

[SlaveNumber23]

I'm a male and my best friend is a male, but I also have a really good female friend with whom I often go out for dinner or lunch etc with. Our relationship is strictly platonic but a frustratingly large number of people can't believe that.

 

[Johnny Novgorod]

Male with a best male friend and I don't find it weird at all being friends with the opposite sex. One of my best friends is female.

 

[sky14kemea]

Female with a male best friend.

I get so angry when people say that opposite genders can't be friends. All my life I've had friends from both genders, and they've always leaned more to the male side anyway. I guess it helps that I'm a tomboy, but I find it completely normal when people have best friends of the opposite gender.

Why can't we all be friends?! >:V

 

[Euryalus]

I've had 3 best friends in my Life. Two were the same gender as me, and the other's a girl I've known since I was little. Because I moved around so much when I was younger, I grew more distant from two of them. It sucks, but nothing you can do about some things.

Facebook posts don't carry the same weight as carrying your drunk ass out of a bar so you don't hurt yourself XD

There's the first question, as for the second, no, but I do tend to assume something's going on between them if I don't know them both pretty well... because I'm sexist, I don't know XD

 

[Goofguy]

( to be fair i live in Québec, Canada , wish is a very racist province )

Yeah but you live in Montreal right? Your friendship is not surprising as the city is a melting pot. Your statement is definitely more applicable to most of the province outside Montreal.

OT: I'm a man whose best friend is also a dude. Most of my friends are men because that's the gender which tends to share the most interests with me. That being said, I do hate it when people think a man and a woman can't be friends. I've been teased by some co-workers who think that there has to be something going on between myself and any of the women I chat with at work. It doesn't bother me, it's just weird that it's like that.

 

[AnarchistFish]

Most my life all my close friends have been girls (I'm a guy). That changed when I moved away a few months ago. Definitely two very different kinds of friendship. For me anyway.

 

[Guffe]

I wouldn't say I have a single best friend per se.
I have a handful of (very) good friends, and then not a HUGE friend circle.
But any of the people I consider among my very good friends are male, and so am I.

 

[Beffudled Sheep_v1legacy]

Most of my close friends have been male but the closest of my close friends have been mostly female.
These days my closest friends are male and all of my female friends just kind of disappeared.

Nothin wrong with being best friends with someone of the opposite gender. People are just jackasses.

Oh, I'm male btw. Almost forgot that.

 

[Tuesday Night Fever]

I'm male, and my closest friend is also male.

Most of my life I was the kind of person who had a ton of friends, but no one that I could really point at as a best friend. That changed back in 2005 or so when I was going through a bit of a rough patch that ended up lasting like three years. One friend in particular was always there for me, through thick and thin. These days, I'd trust him with my life - and honestly, I'd sacrifice mine if it meant saving his.

Frankly, he's gone beyond friend. As far as I'm concerned, he's family.