Poll: What gives them the right?

[Raptorace18]

Do school year advisers have the right to intervene in student relationships and stop you from talking to people you want to, say a girl you like, all because their friends complained?

Yes this has happened to me. And yes the girl had no problems with me talking to her.

 

[bobknowsall]

Even if they do have the legal right to do it, it just strikes me as stupid. As long as you guys aren't actively breaking any school rules, they shouldn't be intervening. And especially not if it's because her friends complained.

 

[Danzaivar]

If it's having a noticeable effect on their grades (And if friends are bitching, then it might be) then they got every right to mention it imo.

 

[Urgh76]

No they most certainly do not. If it does happen, just sock him right in the teeth, he'll move

 

[ethaninja]

Hell no. A person should be entitled to like whoever the hell they feel like likeing.

 

[reg42]

No, it seems very over-protective.

 

[TheSquirrelisKing]

This actually happens?

No, no they do not. They might legally, depending on the country or state, but I oppose it. I mean, they have the right to stop you having sex on school grounds, sure, but stopping you talking to a girl you like is just paranoid.

I'd find a way to talk to her outside of school instead.

Um, I'm with this guy. I'd be super interested to see an article or something where this has actually occurred because apparently I'm the kind of person who goes looking for ways to lose his faith in humanity. I can understand if the relationship is abusive in some way but other than that...it just seems a tad bit Orwellian to me.

 

[A Raging Emo]

If it's having a noticeable effect on their grades (And if friends are bitching, then it might be) then they got every right to mention it imo.

Mention it, maybe, but completely stop it? No.

Think about it; completely stop the contact. That shouldn't be allowed.

 

[klakkat]

They can tell you not to if they want. However, you're also totally within your rights to completely ignore them. So long as the girl your talking to doesn't mind, it's all ok. Since it sounds like only her friends are complaining, there isn't any reason to stop, though they may likely try sabotage the relationship if they hate you that much.

 

[ottenni]

I have no idea what you mean by 'school year advisor' but i can imagine that the school may have concerns about these sorts of things (say if its causing your marks to drop or if you are breaking school rules) and may attempt to intervene but they really should talk to you about it and reach a solution, not just forcibly split you.

 

[JodaSFU]

I guess, in extreme cases, when a relationship is a bad influence (i.e. starting drug use, not going to school, not keeping up on coursework) they'd have a right to at least talk to the person about it. Other than that, no, they have no right to do so.

 

[muffincakes]

Do school year advisers have the right to intervene in student relationships and stop you from talking to people you want to, say a girl you like, all because their friends complained?

I'm pretty sure the answer is obvious if you just read the bold. If the girl didn't say no then there is no problem. Feel free to point out to the adviser that this girl's friends have no right to try and control her. However, it should be noted that certain people will not stand up for themselves, so this girl most likely sent her friends to do the dirty work for her. If that's the case, then yes, the adviser can interfere because they are acting as a mediator by request of this girl. Really, you should just go talk to the adviser and find out what's going on.

Also, to answer your question about right, as a minor, you have very few rights. The adults around you are charged with your care and they may do whatever is necessary to keep things civil. If the adviser was lead to believe that you were harassing this girl(friends are known to lie and exaggerate as well) then they have every right to step in and try to keep the peace. Who gives them the right? The laws and leaders of your country, that's who.

 

[Monkfish Acc.]

Really, it depends entirely on the situation.
Most people here are assuming that this girl has little to no clue what is happening, and that the friends and school year advisor are being knob ends for no discernable reason.
I don't think anyone considered the possibility that this girl was being made horribly uncomfortable, but was too meek to tell anyone herself. So her friends did it for her, causing the school year advisor to step in.
I don't think they'd do it for no reason. But I imagine you will say they are regardless.

Unless this really is hypothetical, and you are just fond of being strangely specific. In which case, I retract everything I just said.

 

[Raptorace18]

I have no idea what you mean by 'school year advisor' but i can imagine that the school may have concerns about these sorts of things (say if its causing your marks to drop or if you are breaking school rules) and may attempt to intervene but they really should talk to you about it and reach a solution, not just forcibly split you.

Well basicly its one guy who looks after the well being of every one in a specific year group i.e year 7, 9 11 yada yada. I'm not sure if it is a national thing or unique to my school.

 

[Pyro Paul]

there is no such thing as 'school year advisors' in the multipule schools i've attended across the United States... so if you're in the US, then it is unique to your school.

as to the question.
Taken out of context it is hard to provide an adiquite answer.

Is it with in the power of a Student counseler/school advisor to impeed or prevent relationships between two individuals here in the US? No. the school lacks that kind of power here in the US. at the most these counselers can provide information to the parents of the children and hope that they will take steps in managing their children... however with teen pregency so high it is obvious that ain't working out too well.

Is it right? well that all depends on the complaints of the individuals freinds.
If they are mearly complaining that Suzy Rottencrotch is lame and taking up all of John Blowhards time... then that is just stupid and the individual has no right to involve themselve in such a relationship.

If the individuals are complaining that Suzie is being degraded, mistreated, subjected to massive physical trama, or involved in illict and illegal behaviour... then yes, the advisor is with in his right to involve himself in that childs life.

 

[Julianking93]

Last time I was in school, they seperated the boys from girls so they could not associate one another.

This was a very christian oriented school, but if you asked me, thats pretty homoerotic.

I oppose anything remotely like that and anything restricting conversation with the opposite sex.

 

[Vanguard_Ex]

No they most certainly do not. If it does happen, just sock him right in the teeth, he'll move

Personal experience?

 

[Mozza444]

This happened all the time in my old school, with the over protective Pastoral care teacher..

She even tryed to get involved in the partys i went to on the weekends.

I seriously hated that woman.

 

[Tharwen]

How do they stop you from talking to her?