Poll: What gives them the right?

[BonsaiK]

Do school year advisers have the right to intervene in student relationships and stop you from talking to people you want to, say a girl you like, all because their friends complained?

Yes this has happened to me. And yes the girl had no problems with me talking to her.

This has been answered in the Relationship Problem thread, which is at the following link: ----> http://www.escapistmagazine.com/forums/read/18.117161-Relationship-problem-thread?page=29#5477191

 

[Arcane Azmadi]

Fuck no. Even if they do have the legal right, ignore them. Accept any punishment. TAKE A STAND. As long as you're in the right (MORAL right, not legal right) you should continue to act as you want.

As long as you're in the right. REMEMBER that part.

 

[Darth Caelum]

I am a Partial Objectivist so No, they don't have the Right to do so. So i say find out what the cause of all this is, see if it can be Mediated Peacefully, and if not, break it's Back and burn the Body.

 

[erto101]

what did you do to piss her friends off?? Whatever you did that's normally not a smart move if you wanna hit it off with a girl
OT It sounds like they've crossed a line here. I mean if the girl doesn't see it as a problem no one should be in their right to stop you from talking to her.

 

[Trivun]

This actually happens?

No, no they do not. They might legally, depending on the country or state, but I oppose it. I mean, they have the right to stop you having sex on school grounds, sure, but stopping you talking to a girl you like is just paranoid.

I'd find a way to talk to her outside of school instead.

Furb, I have a lot of respect for you on this forum. And it's posts like this that are the reason.

Basically, I agree completely wITH Furburt's point. Sex on premises is one thing. Talking to someone is completely different. Student advisors are there to advise, it's in the title and job description. They aren't there to impose rules. And if it's because her friends complained, then that's even worse. Screw the friends.

In my student union at university, there's something called nightline. It's a free phoneline for any student to call and you can talk about your problems to student volunteers who may offer advice or something. They might not say anything, they're there so you can just talk to someone about your problems and have a friendly ear listen to you. If any of the volunteers decided one day to tell you what to do, or try and intefere in your problems, even if it's just to help, then just as you'd expect, that person would be fired straight away. the whole point is to give advice, not to intefere. It seems to me that the guy you describe is intefereing, and that shouldn't be allowed. My advice? Try complaining to someone higher up. or, just carry on talking to this girl. If the guy complains, tell him where he can shove his advice. Be as graphic as you want, and hopefully that will shut him up .

 

[Valksy]

Now are you SURE it is her friends and not her and she doesn't want to let you down easy?

Are you SURE that it is her friends and not her parents?

Unless you know her very very well I don't know you can be sure enough. Have you asked her why her mates have a beef with you?

 

[axle 19]

They can offer advice but as for directly intervening, no they can't. What makes them think they have ability to interfere in someone's personal anyway.

 

[Raptorace18]

I should point out that I am in Australia so our American pals don't get confused.

 

[Caligulove]

Wow... though I would think that it would be good to have talks the individual about concerns of friends that are brought to them, if they are that severe...

I think actually intervening is just something they should not be involved in, not to mention could be breaching their confidentiality agreement between students/patients (technically)

 

[BlindMessiah94]

I can see them interfering if someone is being a bit too zealous in their pursuits of their crush and turns into Alicia Silverstone in that crush movie, or that other chick in Swimfan, as that is a step away from restraining order territory.

But seeing as how you said the girl has no problem with you talking to her, I think they have no right whatsoever.

 

[tomservo4prezident]

That's called fucking fascism.

 

[MelziGurl]

It's not the teachers business. If your friends have a problem with it, they need to sort it out not the teacher.

 

[SnipErlite]

Err no not at all it's none of their fecking business?

 

[ottenni]

I have no idea what you mean by 'school year advisor' but i can imagine that the school may have concerns about these sorts of things (say if its causing your marks to drop or if you are breaking school rules) and may attempt to intervene but they really should talk to you about it and reach a solution, not just forcibly split you.

Well basicly its one guy who looks after the well being of every one in a specific year group i.e year 7, 9 11 yada yada. I'm not sure if it is a national thing or unique to my school.

No we have them too, they are just called coordinators. The ones at my school where pretty good.

 

[Vet2501]

No, they have no right, provided you're not a drugged up abusive bastard. It a girl wants to be with you thats her choice, no one should be allowed to make that for her.