Poll: What Personality Traits Do You Find Attractive?

[Mersadeon]

Apple is my favourite personality trait.

Ok, seriously. Honesty and a sense of humour are probably the most important traits. I also really dig it if my partner knows him/herself really well. I like people who are in control of themselves.
There has to be some intellectual connection - we have to have one common hobby, interest or just topic we can connect on. I need serious discussion to bond.

EDIT: Also, being able to laugh about oneself. That's really required.

 

[TheKangaroos]

Independence and integrity are a turn on for sure. I really value loyalty as well but that's not a 'turn on' as such.

Turn offs? Irrationality.

 

[Ariseishirou]

Turn-ons: a sense of fun and adventure.

Turn-offs: narcissism, unwillingness to try new things.

 

[ShipofFools]

What really attracts me is positivism, confidence and optimistic women.

I also like it when my girls have initiatives, the willing to do stuff. As much as I like to relax with girls, I love it when a girl ask me ''hey, wanna do X, it's going to be great fun!''.

What I dislike is obviously the opposite of what I said above: pessimistic, negative and shy people.

Not being outgoing is also a turn off for me. I like to go out, to party and to try new things. If a girl's answer are always that they rather stay home, I get annoyed quite fast, after a few tries and don't bother anymore.

Basically, I would never date 95% of the people on this forum.

All my dating life, a certain type of woman has had this irresistible pull on me.
It's craziness.

I love crazy women.
And I don't mean "fun crazy."

Full blown psychosis drives me wild.
Fuck me

Do you also like men ? Because if you do, boy you would be served with me !

As someone who does experience psychosis on a daily basis, can you tell me why do you think it's so attractive to you ?
The mystery maybe ?

Haha, your post made my morning.
Do you like men? Because I'm your dream girl. Always (trying to be) positive, always dragging people into random adventures, haha.

As for why I like crazy/even psychotic women, no idea. It's like a pattern that I have only recently become aware of.
Maybe it's not knowing what the other person is going to do next, maybe it's not knowing what the hell she is thinking... the mystery, the intensity, the uncertainty and the crazy sex.
It may also have something to do with me being kinda weird, and weird and crazy go well together.

I know it's not good for me, but I can't help myself

 

[Gunner 51]

Well, I'll admit that I have a real weakness for tsundere type girls. Ones who are a bit cold, snarky on the outside, but warm hearted and good natured on the inside. But the other trait that I find attractive in a girl is one who can bring out the best in me who knows when and how to spur me into action.

 

[Ikasury]

in general (likes): humor... can be a snarky bastard without being a hateful conceited dick, some aspect of cuddly adorable (i know, its like freakin' crack and i'm ashamed to like it so much) a passion for 'something', i don't care if that's carving butter into the last supper, but fuck, you gotta be 'interested' in 'something' and not just a fad-chaser, and also a decent level of intellect, nothing annoys me more then someone i can easily trample in five seconds of an argument (my family's primary communication is 'debate') and must love dogs, i will not skimp on this as i always have a dog... i'm fine with any other pets, but dogs are a MUST... also, nerdy is a bonus...

guys specifically: capable of empathy, bigger then me, and not afraid of being thrown on a bed (i are strong woman rawr)

girls specifically: capable of defending oneself, have bigger breasts then mine... what?

in general (turn offs): whiney, annoying, emo-bitches, complete self-centered assholes, people that spread hate, fad-chasers, no sense of individuality, idiots that think they're smart, weak willed, tiny, smokes/drinks/etc.-insert drug thing here-, irresponsible, sick all the time, dislikes dogs and having no interest what so ever...\

guys: being type A without having the faintest idea what that means and somehow doing it wrong -.-

girls: chicks... by the gods i hate chicks...

 

[mysecondlife]

Once again, T0ad you fail to answer your own question.
Tut-tut, bad thread making!

OP: Traits?

Well, he has to have lots of cash moneys...

Seriously though, I like guys who are confident but not arrogant.
Someone who can take a joke, especially at their own expense.
I don't know, all of my exes are actually really different, I can't pinpoint the things that made me attracted to them.


I do want a guy who will (or will try to) dance. Even if it's silly, drunk, flaily dancing.
My last boyfriend didnt dance at all!

Heh. I told this to my ex-girlfriend once.

"You have to be stronger than me to make me dance"

Maybe its why it ended

 

[SlaveNumber23]

Well apart from those traits that pretty much everyone wants (playful, easy going, fun loving, good sense of humor, intelligent etc) I really like women who are quirky/eccentric and maybe a little crazy, its never boring when you're around people like that. Also modesty goes a long way with me.

I don't care if you dance well, just that you try.
I only ever go dancing after I've had a few with friends, so it's a social, messing around thing.

Even if they dance like this?

 

[Davey Woo]

I like boobs, that personality trait does it every time for me.

But seriously a girl I know is quite intelligent, witty and a bit cynical (much like myself) and I fancy the pants off her, so I guess I like those traits.

I don't like overly outgoing or attention-seeking people that much, they tend to just piss me off.

 

[MetalMagpie]

Confident, intelligent, funny.

Which I believe is pretty much the standard answer.

 

[Something Amyss]

I love intellect. Preferably witty intellect. I love a good sense of humour, especially dry wit, but I'll go for sarcasm. I like people who can follow my insane mental roadmap, which means they are probably insane and have a similar roadmap. I like nerdy personalities, for they are my kin. I also like playful people.

This is going to be the tomato sauce test all overa gain. everyone is going to name traits they wish they found attractive, but on reality they are atrracted to other traits.

I can't speak for everyone, but the traits above tend to be recurring themes in the people I've dated. I mean, judging by the pattern, you can also throw in insane, but that doesn't really negate any of the above. It just makes them more dangerous. Intelligent, playful and insane means the breakup letters I receive tend to be straight out of SAW movies.

I met my girlfriend on the internet and fell in love with her sight unseen based on pretty much all of the above. The jury's still out on the "insane" bit, but there's plenty of time for her to start plotting to kill me.

As for the tomato sauce example, that may still apply. The catch there is that I'd be in the "unknown" category. There may be a set of traits I'm interested in as well, but ones that aren't being marketed.

On the other hand, I'm not the type to put on airs about the sophistication of my palate. I'd rather watch pro wrestling than a ballet and I don't really care who knows it. Then again, I am the product of an anti-intellectual society, so perhaps downplaying my intellect is the same phenomenon.

Anyway, I get bored with things that don't challenge me, and people too. I do very much find intellect and wit sexy. Of course, I also appreciate a nice ass, so it's not like I'm some sort of completely out of left field weirdo. I'm your garden variety weirdo.

 

[Bertylicious]

Confident, intelligent, funny.

Which I believe is pretty much the standard answer.

Yeah. Kind of makes me feel bad for all the shy, dumb girls who like Everybody Loves Raymond as nobody seems to want them.

You'd think more people would just want someone they can feel superior to.

 

[Raikas]

I'd say ambitious and curious.

I mean, funny and clever are great, but I've met a lot of people who think they can coast through life because they're smart enough or because they think their sense of humour can get them out of anything, but there's usually a limit on those things.

Whereas curious people are usually always willing to try new things and learn more - same with the ambitious if they can see a reward for doing it. And I'd always pick the person who wants to act and learn over the person who's satisfied with where they are.

 

[Grach]

I'd say I like a girl who is playful and cheeky without being a total *****, I guess. Having the ability to talk for hours about anything and not get tired is awesome too.

 

[Ragsnstitches]

I like bubbly and upbeat personalities as long as they are offset by maturity and an abundance of empathy (as to not completely forsake rationality or lack consideration towards others). I'm a somewhat droll individual myself, so I feel like I need someone more appreciative of life and who knows how to live it so as to give me some perspective which I often lack.

I also seem to become completely enamoured with intellectual thinkers and creatively minded folks, so smarts is also good. This can be anything from science, to philosophy, art, social commentary, world news or anything that can forge a riveting dialectic. This sorts of limits my ability to appreciate religious folk. If they are open to discussion that's fine, but if I'm been met with anger and frustration as a result of my Atheist perspective then I won't stick around, for the sake of both of us.

As a plus, the more passionate they are about something the better. I like to hear people talking about their interests with gusto.

A little more specific this time, they have to be accepting of games at least as much as the average joe is accepting of TV or radio. This is an inextricable quality of mine. I love the medium of Gaming and I have a lot of faith in the medium as it grows. They can't be just tolerant of it, as that makes it an uneasy tightrope ordeal until they decide enough is enough. It would be better if they were actively interested too as it allows me to share my interest with them (and vice versa), but at the very least they have to view it in such a way that it is a harmless medium as much as reading a book or watching television.

I'm pretty open minded really. That is if I am to assume, as a standard, they are a generally decent person who aims to live life upsetting as few people as they can possibly manage without stunting their own livelihood. I generally don't like assholes so I have that down as a given.

 

[MetalMagpie]

Confident, intelligent, funny.

Which I believe is pretty much the standard answer.

Yeah. Kind of makes me feel bad for all the shy, dumb girls who like Everybody Loves Raymond as nobody seems to want them.

You'd think more people would just want someone they can feel superior to.

I think the theory is that most people actually want someone who is superior to them in at least some respects, because then it feels like you got a "good catch". It's the whole best-possible-genes-for-the-offspring idea, combined with the theory that a more "capable" individual is likely to offer better parenting. So being confident and intelligent are both attractive because they both correlate well with being successful, and a good sense of humour demonstrates strong social skills, which also correlates with success. Successful parents are more likely to have successful children.

But at the end of the day, most of us will just end up with someone that we fall in love with, whether or not they match our stated preferences.

 

[Frankster]

I often have trouble communicating or putting my thoughts coherently...As a result im very attracted to those with silver spoon in their mouths or are just able to succintly explain complex ideas or notions. So eloquence is definitly something id seek as it sure as hell ain't gonna be coming from me.

A sense of humor or at least not taking things too seriously would be my 2nd ideal criteria.

 

[Strazdas]

I love intellect. Preferably witty intellect. I love a good sense of humour, especially dry wit, but I'll go for sarcasm. I like people who can follow my insane mental roadmap, which means they are probably insane and have a similar roadmap. I like nerdy personalities, for they are my kin. I also like playful people.

This is going to be the tomato sauce test all overa gain. everyone is going to name traits they wish they found attractive, but on reality they are atrracted to other traits.

I can't speak for everyone, but the traits above tend to be recurring themes in the people I've dated. I mean, judging by the pattern, you can also throw in insane, but that doesn't really negate any of the above. It just makes them more dangerous. Intelligent, playful and insane means the breakup letters I receive tend to be straight out of SAW movies.

I met my girlfriend on the internet and fell in love with her sight unseen based on pretty much all of the above. The jury's still out on the "insane" bit, but there's plenty of time for her to start plotting to kill me.

As for the tomato sauce example, that may still apply. The catch there is that I'd be in the "unknown" category. There may be a set of traits I'm interested in as well, but ones that aren't being marketed.

Well, then i guess you are either extremely lucky or extremely unique, and i would say both!
So yes you are in the unknown, ones that category is so low its not economically feasible.