Poll: Who knows who you truly are?
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Well...nobody can truly know who anybody else is.
We're not in one another's heads and, despite our claims to the contrary, there will always be some filter of some description preventing a 'pure' expression of what we could, charitably, call 'ourselves.'
A less pedantic/obtuse response: Friends mostly. Going all Otaku or Gamerish around strangers or people I don't know very well tends to end in weird looks and, unfortunately, distressing feelings of quiet shame.
So. Yeah.
We're not in one another's heads and, despite our claims to the contrary, there will always be some filter of some description preventing a 'pure' expression of what we could, charitably, call 'ourselves.'
A less pedantic/obtuse response: Friends mostly. Going all Otaku or Gamerish around strangers or people I don't know very well tends to end in weird looks and, unfortunately, distressing feelings of quiet shame.
So. Yeah.
I put friends but I would say no-one as any persons perspective, thoughts and identity are in constant flux even you don't always understand what is trurly you.
I put friends though because I am completely open with my closer friends and want them to understand who I am to the best of my abilities.
I put friends though because I am completely open with my closer friends and want them to understand who I am to the best of my abilities.
I voted neither, there are things you don't want to tell your friends/family in order to protect them or to ensure that the respect they have for you isn't lost, and there are things you don't tell strangers because it's none of their damned business. 
I'm just more extreme in those regards, I suppose, nowadays there's no one I would say knows "who I truly am", but I don't think that's a bad thing.
I'm just more extreme in those regards, I suppose, nowadays there's no one I would say knows "who I truly am", but I don't think that's a bad thing.
No...or perhaps yes. I don't understand the poll, I'm afraid. I'm pretty open and honest with people, which doesn't often go down well. I think it's because I often answer too thoroughly and people consider that TMI, or I give abstract answers sometimes. I do that to help me weed out the abrasive, impatient, duplicitous and otherwise and unpleasant people from the ones who are worth spending time talking to. Besides, a yes/no answer just doesn't cut the mustard a lot of the time. Maybe some of that doesn't come across as I hope in text. Oh well, what can you do?
Removing the facade of the past has meant that there is no longer any need for hiding or shame and everything can be said without the merest hint of embarrassment. I have total freedom of speech for the first time, which is very liberating.
Nobody here should know what my face looks like or remember having met me way back in the past, but I try to be genuine and not in the way that a lot of people seem to mean, i.e. as a license to be as toxic and mean-spirited as they want while feeling they don't have to answer to anybody. Like it or not, nobody lives forever and being cruel for cruelty's sake is not something that sits lightly on the conscience.
EDIT: Oh, I suppose I have a secondary face that's sort of disheveled and spaced-out because I can't take much alcohol before staring blankly at the ceiling with my tongue hanging out like a length of Fruit Roll-Up.
EDIT #2: OK, so I went with option number 1. I think that's right. I hope so. Hopefully it'll work out!
Removing the facade of the past has meant that there is no longer any need for hiding or shame and everything can be said without the merest hint of embarrassment. I have total freedom of speech for the first time, which is very liberating.
Nobody here should know what my face looks like or remember having met me way back in the past, but I try to be genuine and not in the way that a lot of people seem to mean, i.e. as a license to be as toxic and mean-spirited as they want while feeling they don't have to answer to anybody. Like it or not, nobody lives forever and being cruel for cruelty's sake is not something that sits lightly on the conscience.
EDIT: Oh, I suppose I have a secondary face that's sort of disheveled and spaced-out because I can't take much alcohol before staring blankly at the ceiling with my tongue hanging out like a length of Fruit Roll-Up.
EDIT #2: OK, so I went with option number 1. I think that's right. I hope so. Hopefully it'll work out!
My immediate family.
I don't have any friends, so that only leaves casual acquaintances, who I'm obviously not going to discuss my stance on regarding touchy subjects. With my family I can rant and rage unhindered about whatever without them looking upon me any different. Ofcourse I'm not going to divulge into any sexual aspects to my life, but then who does unless it's something life changing/threatening.
I don't have any friends, so that only leaves casual acquaintances, who I'm obviously not going to discuss my stance on regarding touchy subjects. With my family I can rant and rage unhindered about whatever without them looking upon me any different. Ofcourse I'm not going to divulge into any sexual aspects to my life, but then who does unless it's something life changing/threatening.
No one, only my own head knows who I truly am. I just act in accordance to the situation at the time.
Like Prince Schneizel says "A man who has not mastered the use of the mask can never prevail". And in my job, showing who you really are can be a sentence to never getting any peace.
Like Prince Schneizel says "A man who has not mastered the use of the mask can never prevail". And in my job, showing who you really are can be a sentence to never getting any peace.
I don't have many secrets to hide, so generally I present myself to the world as I am, with one exception:
I'm a nice guy in general, but I tend to be far more polite to strangers, just out of common courtesy. Sometimes people appreciate formality, and it's always a good idea to make a positive first impression. Once someone starts to like me, then I'll start coming out of my shell a bit. I read this comment somewhere--I can't remember where--that sums it up fairly well: "People who don't know me think that I'm quiet. People who do know me wish that I was."
Aside from varying levels of politeness, I'm entirely myself at all times.
I'm a nice guy in general, but I tend to be far more polite to strangers, just out of common courtesy. Sometimes people appreciate formality, and it's always a good idea to make a positive first impression. Once someone starts to like me, then I'll start coming out of my shell a bit. I read this comment somewhere--I can't remember where--that sums it up fairly well: "People who don't know me think that I'm quiet. People who do know me wish that I was."
Aside from varying levels of politeness, I'm entirely myself at all times.
My very close friends and internet friends
I want to be more open to my family, but I just can't view them in the same way as the above.
As for coworkers, no no no no nope.
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Do I know who I truly am? Eh I'm still figuring it out, but I'm happy with the direction it's going.
I want to be more open to my family, but I just can't view them in the same way as the above.
As for coworkers, no no no no nope.
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Do I know who I truly am? Eh I'm still figuring it out, but I'm happy with the direction it's going.
Obligatory. I could have gone with The Who, but it was a little on the nose.
I'm not even 100% sure who I "truly" am.
So you're the evil that lurks in the hearts of men?Queen Michael said:
Nah. I'm secretive, private, reclusive, etc. I perform in real life because it's easier than actually explaining how and what I really am. I do so less online. How I really am is something I feel I've lost contact with though. My identity has been consumed by school and a bit of depression for so long I don't remember what it's like to just be me anymore.
I know who I am at my core, but outside of that?
No one else does. Not my parents. Not my family. Not my exes. No. One. I don't trust anyone like that to let them know that much about me. Everyone can guess, everyone can make assumptions and, in the end, it all comes down to whatever someone paints me as in their mind's eye...and they can do it without input from me, the most disgusting anyone can do to someone else.
No one else does. Not my parents. Not my family. Not my exes. No. One. I don't trust anyone like that to let them know that much about me. Everyone can guess, everyone can make assumptions and, in the end, it all comes down to whatever someone paints me as in their mind's eye...and they can do it without input from me, the most disgusting anyone can do to someone else.
We are all, at one point, strangers to each other. And sometimes, ourselves.
Other than the family, my best friend definitely knows me the most, with my girlfriend coming in close second (feelings and touchy subjects make her weep).
As for engaging with others on the subject of "ME", it's something I'm always able to do comfortably. Could be because i've just gotten so used to talking to people on a very personal level that I could care less about what they TRULY think of me, just as long as they accept the real me for who I am. That and i'm incredibly down to earth and humorous about my shady past and current self.
Also this plays in my head when I do:
Real talks about myself are hype.
As for engaging with others on the subject of "ME", it's something I'm always able to do comfortably. Could be because i've just gotten so used to talking to people on a very personal level that I could care less about what they TRULY think of me, just as long as they accept the real me for who I am. That and i'm incredibly down to earth and humorous about my shady past and current self.
Also this plays in my head when I do:
Real talks about myself are hype.
