Poll: Who's in the wrong here?

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Goofguy

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If he is habitually late then he should be the one accommodating others, not vice versa. He is supposed to meet you at 1 but tends to show up 2 hours later? Ok, then the onus is on him to plan his meetings two hours earlier than scheduled.

I'd have a hard time preventing myself from losing it on my 'friend' if he constantly did that to me. Would you be 2 hours late for a job interview? To see your family? To a dental appointment? No? Then why the fuck would you do that to your friends?

The people who do this kind of thing tend to assume that their friends will be willing to put up with it because they're buddies and that's what buddies do for each other. While that may be true initially, they'll find that they won't have many friends left if they keep pulling that shit.
 

lacktheknack

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If someone's more than fifteen minutes late, I start guilt-spamming them with my phone.

It's pretty much the only thing use it for.

OT: His fault. Next time, show up two hours late yourself. If he arrives earlier than normal, and asks why you're late, say "I thought this was the scheduled time - two hours after what we pretend to agree to."
 
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lacktheknack said:
If someone's more than fifteen minutes late, I start guilt-spamming them with my phone.

It's pretty much the only thing use it for.

OT: His fault. Next time, show up two hours late yourself. If he arrives earlier than normal, and asks why you're late, say "I thought this was the scheduled time - two hours after what we pretend to agree to."
I second this, if someone completely doesn't care about being late for something they really can't complain if you turn up late. I'd say you're well within your rights to reciprocate the action
 

SlaveNumber23

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How could you possibly conceive that you might be in the wrong here, its clearly him. Struggling to fathom how the 'me' option in the poll has any votes at all.
 

CrazyBlaze

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He is. If hes going to be late he needs to text you. If something is holding him up then ok. He should text you and let you know hes going to be late. If hes just lazy and decided not to get ready or the descion to be there late, well then he is an asshole.
 

King of Asgaard

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Assuming that there was nothing more to him being late, i.e he's always late, he's definitely wrong.
 

GrimTuesday

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He is wrong, there is no no other option. I mean, sure you could have drawn on your past dealings with and know that he is apparently kind of a dick who doesn't take into consideration how his extreme lack of punctuality adversely effects his friends, but the fact is that the two of you agreed on a time and he failed to live up to his agreement.

If my friends are more than 15 minutes late (without a good excuse), it royally pisses me off.
 

Danoloto

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He's in the wrong for not showing up at the time you agreed upon.
I do however, have to deduct some points from you as well for even having to ask.
 

manic_depressive13

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Your friend's a jerk. He should at the very lest have called or sent you a message to inform you he would be late and by how much. Anyway, I've been in that situation before. Feels bad man.
 

Twilight_guy

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He's in the wrong because if he knew he'd be late (because he rolls like that) then he should have given you a more accurate time or noted that he could be late. You're i the wrong because if he does this all the time you should have expected it. He's more in the wrong though so, you win I guess?
 

CCountZero

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Aarowbeatsdragon said:
So today i was to meet up with a friend, we were to meet up at 1 and he did not show up untill 3. So basically i spent 2 hours alone in a shopping mall with no credit waiting for him to show up. Now before anyone says "you should have gone home" i live really far away with only two busses a day so...yeah. Well what i want to know is, him and friends said after i was VERY pissed off "its okay because he does it all the time"...this is true that he does it all the time....but that does NOT make it okay...so i want to know, is he in the wrong for being that late or am i in the wrong for getting mad when i should expect it?
A friend does his best to show up on time. If he can't show up on time, he gives a good reason, as soon as he find out himself. Maybe he even cancels, and suggests a re-meet.

Has he done this repeatedly? If so, ditch his sorry ass. He sounds like a butt-head.
 

LackofCertainty

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He's in the wrong, because he's late.

OP is in the wrong for making this a poll and pretending to ask a question instead of just saying "Here is a rant thread about how my friend is a jerk."

I'm in the wrong for posting in this thread.

You, in front of the computer screen, are in the wrong for reading this post.
 

Guffe

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Of course he is in the wrong.
I mean I have a few friends that are exactly like this and if I plan something with them it's either so that I also pick a few other friends that understand the meaning of a time schedule so I have someone to hang out with while waiting for said friends OR then I am the picking him up because that way he can't flee from me!
 

Aarowbeatsdragon

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LackofCertainty said:
He's in the wrong, because he's late.

OP is in the wrong for making this a poll and pretending to ask a question instead of just saying "Here is a rant thread about how my friend is a jerk."

I'm in the wrong for posting in this thread.

You, in front of the computer screen, are in the wrong for reading this post.
Thing is i didnt post this for a rant, i genuinely want to know peoples thoughts as a few people i know seem to think that because he does it all the time it makes him right.
 

Artina89

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He's in the wrong. If you both agreed to meet at 1 O'Clock and he couldn't be bothered to keep his end of the bargain with no viable reason as to why he is 2 hours late then you have every right to be annoyed. At the very least he could have called you to say he would be late. It's called common courtesy.
 

JimB

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SlaveNumber23 said:
How could you possibly conceive that you might be in the wrong here?
I'll admit I'm a tad suspicious of the honesty of someone whose reaction to this situation is to take an online poll asking for validation. It reeks not so gently of the ulterior.

Anyway, of the story provided, the late dude is wrong.
 

Mr F.

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Is your friend Italian or Spanish?

Cause in either case, you are wrong for making the assumption that he would turn up on time.

Not racism, true facts, go read Homage to Catalonia before someone calls me out on this.