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Xanthious

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Woah! Woah! Woah! Hold up there fella. First off if you'd just keep your woman chained to a radiator all Black Snake Moan style you wouldn't be having these issues right now. However, seeing how that isn't the case you need to lay down the law and let her know this isn't up for debate. You need to let her know that you'll be the one telling her what movies she will and will not be seeing and who she will be seeing them with.

Think about it man. The "ladies" trying to take her to this movie are probably man hating feminists trying to brainwash her into believing that she's capable of thinking for herself. If you don't nip this in the bud immediately she might get the misguided idea that she should be able to crazy things like vote and work outside the home pretty soon never mind going to see corrupting movies. Now you go man up take care of this before it's too late!
 

Phasmal

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SmashLovesTitanQuest said:
2) if you earnestly, calmly ask her to do you a favor and she says "LOL NOPE BYE" then that's something both of you need to work on as well.
Eh, I really don't see `don't see this movie because it will upset me` as a favour. Sounds more like controlling behaviour to me.
I mean, I've said before, I get insecurity. But is seeing a movie not legitimately harmless?

This kind of insecurity just poisons a relationship from the inside, and it can be gotten over. (In my opinion, of course).
 

Smeggs

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That's like if a guy with no arms said, "I don't want you to watch baseball because it reminds me I can't wear a catcher's mitt." (Hooray for hyperbole) "I have issues with my own body, so instead of trying to overcome my self-esteem issues I just don't want you to be able to do what you want to do" is ridiculous.

To be insecure over her watching a film is ridiculous. She's her own person and she isn't a child. I can only think that you're paranoid that she'll leave you, which is the number one way to make her want to leave you. Women can smell desperation on you like a bear smells raw meat from miles away.
 

esperandote

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MelasZepheos said:
esperandote said:
Full frontal male nudity? You could be right, guys in tonges, she's is right. I guess she wouldn't like you watching porn, even if you don't want to.

Crazy idea, join a gym, get a new haircut, buy new clothes and boost your selfconfidence.

Change yourself, not other people.
Very curious about why full frontal and clothed make a difference here.
That could be matter of opinion. Some people can be unconfortable with their partner watching people completly nude.
 

Xanthious

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SmashLovesTitanQuest said:
Xanthious said:
Woah! Woah! Woah! Hold up there fella. First off if you'd just keep your woman chained to a radiator all Black Snake Moan style you wouldn't be having these issues right now. However, seeing how that isn't the case you need to lay down the law and let her know this isn't up for debate. You need to let her know that you'll be the one telling her what movies she will and will not be seeing and who she will be seeing them with.

Think about it man. The "ladies" trying to take her to this movie are probably man hating feminists trying to brainwash her into believing that she's capable of thinking for herself. If you don't nip this in the bud immediately she might get the misguided idea that she should be able to crazy things like vote and work outside the home pretty soon never mind going to see corrupting movies. Now you go man up take care of this before it's too late!
Oh ffs. Really now?
Absolutely! Of course by the sound of things it may very well be too late for something as simple as being assertive. What he may need to think about is constructing a subterranean obedience chamber with an aquatic behavior reinforcement tool.

This works best if the OP lives in a house with a basement. However, if he has access to a private outside shed or garage it can work too. All he needs to do is dig a hole in either his basement or other such location about 12' deep. He's going to want to make sure the sides are incredibly smooth with nothing that could be used as a hand or foot hold. If he has the resources I suggest lining the entire thing in concrete so as to discourage digging.

Once he has his obedience chamber constructed he is going to want to get a basket or bucket or bag or other such thing and tie it to a decent length of rope to make sure he has a way of delivering supplies to the bottom of his obedience chamber. A basket will work best.

Next, he is going to want to get his aquatic behavior reinforcement tool working properly. This can be made with a simple garden hose found at any hardware store. Ideally though, if he can afford a hose with a good bit of pressure he will find that will greatly speed up the process. He only need get as long a hose as to reach from the pit to a working water spout.

Once he has his chamber, basket, and obedience tool all ready to go it's time to place his subject inside the chamber. At first he should start with simple requests, for instance placing something innocuous like a bottle of hand lotion inside the basket and lowering it down so that his subject can apply it to herself. If/when the subject refuses he should generously apply water with the behavior reinforcement tool.

Once the subject is complying with simple tasks like applying lotion he should gradually work his way up to more difficult tasks. Each time punishing refusal with the behavior reinforcement tool. This method should fix his problems as long as he sticks with it and follows instructions accurately.
 

Trivun

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Aarowbeatsdragon said:
So my girlfriend and her friends are going to see the film magic mike which is just about these guys stripping. now i have huge insecuritys about my body and everything and the fact that shes ging to see this film of course have a problem with this so now we are in a huge fight and she just cant get why i care so much even though she knows the way i am and she says its just a bit of fun. Also before people ask i dont look at other girls in that way even celebrities and i sure as hell wouldnt pay money to go see a film about the "hottest girls in the world" stripping. So my question is, who do you think is in the right here?
She is. You know, I actually saw the trailer for that film, and it looks like a pretty decent film on it's own, a decent comedy-drama with a good cast. Stripping is just a tiny part of the film, with a proper plot instead of nothing but female fanservice. My brother, who is pretty damn straight (I'm bi for the record, but prefer the ladies mostly), also thought it looked like a decent film, and he'd normally shy away from anything like men stripping. At the end of the day, you have insecurities, and that's fine, but you can't expect other people to be ruled by them. And besides, seeing other people on screen or stage naked or half naked is nothing like cheating. You may have a moral high horse here, but that's no excuse. I'd understand your concern if she wanted to go a male strip club, but seeing men stripping in a film is just the same as seeing characters in a film or TV show having sex - chances are they'll be naked, and they're fictional characters anyway so no harm done either way.
 

Trivun

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Xanthious said:
SmashLovesTitanQuest said:
Xanthious said:
It's time to stop posting.
No wait. Just one more. I think I have a Human Centipede reference in me but I just need a little bit of time.
SmashLovesTitanQuest said:
Xanthious said:
It's time to stop posting.
That was actually pretty hilarious. Dude's like a cross between Josef Fritzl and Kenji from Katawa Shoujo, but unbelievably more mental! xD
 

Hjalmar Fryklund

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Dark humor comment removed. I'm finding myself wondering/worrying if the guy was actually serious, and it was in poor taste anyway.
 

Xanthious

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Hjalmar Fryklund said:
Xanthious said:
Once he has his chamber, basket, and obedience tool all ready to go it's time to place his subject inside the chamber. At first he should start with simple requests, for instance placing something innocuous like a bottle of hand lotion inside the basket and lowering it down so that his subject can apply it to herself. If/when the subject refuses he should generously apply water with the behavior reinforcement tool.
Hmm...couldn't the subject simply disobey enough for the water penalty to be applied enough to the point where she could simply "swim" out of the disobedience chamber?



CAPTCHA: ginned up

An idea to work with perhaps?
You see this is why a high pressure hose is best. There will be a much larger incentive to obey commands if your reinforcement tool has a good amount of pressure behind it. As long as your reinforcement tool is adequately pressurized it should alleviate the need to worry about water building up. Barring that you can also install a simple drain into your obedience chamber as to prevent the build up of water all together.

Of course if you must use a low pressure hose and don't have the plumbing know how to install a drain you could always look towards applying an anchoring device to your subject's ankles so as to make a build up of water something extremely undesirable. This has the additional benefit of providing the subject another incentive to follow the commands in a proper manner.
 

Hjalmar Fryklund

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Dark humor comment removed. I'm finding myself wondering/worrying if the guy was actually serious, and it was in poor taste anyway.
 

Watcheroftrends

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If you were going with your friends to see a movie about females strippers, I can almost guarantee you that she'd be insecure.

Thing is, if you act like you don't care that she's looking at other "attractive" men, you make yourself appear like a higher value male. It's a silly thing, but being indifferent will translate to her as you being confident and secure - despite how you really feel - and likely make her more attracted to you.

I'd also recommend working out and eating better if your appearance is an issue. It's a great hobby, relieves stress, and will show her commitment if you follow through. Looking better never hurts.
 

eternal-chaplain

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The 'right' thing to do is to step and be confident. Know that you're better than any naked guy she sees on the silver screen, because it is probably true.
 

TWRule

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You're both wrong.

What value can she possibly extract from a movie like that? Maybe cheap giggles with the girls; is that worth possibly jeopardizing your mutual expectations for the relationship? No.

Your insecurities are understandable but ill-conceived. You're right to question why she'd even be interested in going to such a film, but definitely not to take it as a personal blow to your self-image.