Poll: Why are you Single?

[David Bray]

Er, i'm not. When i was younger i didn't really get them because i was weedy and wasn't very good at music and played the non-cool musical instrument spectrum.
I now get them by being accessable and myself. I suppose i'm confident and that works. Generally what i see in others failing to get a partner is an inability to sync with others. Be responsive and you should do well.

 

[BonsaiK]

I'm single because it's awesome and it's working quite well for me right now. The other night I went skinny-dipping at a party with four girls and didn't have to worry about "getting into trouble" with anyone later. Being single has its often-overlooked benefits. Eventually I'll get hooked up again but it's not on the top of my to-do list unless someone completely amazing appears. They have to be worth it.

Having said that, I do detect some angst in this thread so anyone male or female wanting serious assistance with issues revolving around relationships or the lack thereof should post in the following thread and I will do the best I can: http://www.escapistmagazine.com/forums/read/18.117161-Relationship-problem-thread?page=1

 

[Rachel317]

I have one of two theories:

My lack of experience with girlfriends (and by lack, I mean none) causes me to use methods of expressing how you feel that aren't deemed...normal?

My second theory is that because I have no confidence around girls I like (hell, I'm a really confident guy, I can get along with anyone, but if it is a girl I like...I flare up and turn the other way) has hindered me in my efforts to find a significant other, because I end up getting so frustrated by said girl not knowing, I tell her in pathetic ways (facebook, MSN, etc). I'm not afraid to admit it, because I have to change.

I either get into the "friend zone" or make girls avoid me because I've got no idea how to talk to them, and I come off as a creep.

I see from your profile that you're only 15...as admirable as it is that you're aware of your flaws and that you seem very mature, at that age...a "significant other" should be THE last thing on your mind! Haha.
But, ok, in what ways to you mean you express yourself in a not "normal" way?
Because when you meet a girl who appreciates your not "normal" expressions, then you'll know she's for keeps

I haven't really had relationships before now, but I've just recently met a really great guy who...you know, gets me. And that's what you have to wait for, someone who gets the person you are, and still wants to be with you. Obviously, the girls you're chasing are possibly too immature for you, or don't know a good thing when they see it so, I'm afraid to say, you just have to be patient. You might meet your perfect girl next year, it could be in 5 years, or even longer, but when that girl comes along...you'll be complete.

And this "friend zone" thing is a heap of crap. How many women say relationships should be based on friendship first? All of them. Using the friend zone in the context of, "Oh, I think we'd be better as friends" is a woman's cowardly way of hinting that she's not interested. I hate to say it, but women are manipulative, in every sense of the word.
Don't listen to that "friend zone" crap, your partner is MEANT to be your best friend, your confidante...if you didn't have that, then you'd be having a relationship that's completely empty.

 

[StarStruckStrumpets]

I have one of two theories:

My lack of experience with girlfriends (and by lack, I mean none) causes me to use methods of expressing how you feel that aren't deemed...normal?

My second theory is that because I have no confidence around girls I like (hell, I'm a really confident guy, I can get along with anyone, but if it is a girl I like...I flare up and turn the other way) has hindered me in my efforts to find a significant other, because I end up getting so frustrated by said girl not knowing, I tell her in pathetic ways (facebook, MSN, etc). I'm not afraid to admit it, because I have to change.

I either get into the "friend zone" or make girls avoid me because I've got no idea how to talk to them, and I come off as a creep.

I see from your profile that you're only 15...as admirable as it is that you're aware of your flaws and that you seem very mature, at that age...a "significant other" should be THE last thing on your mind! Haha.
But, ok, in what ways to you mean you express yourself in a not "normal" way?
Because when you meet a girl who appreciates your not "normal" expressions, then you'll know she's for keeps

I haven't really had relationships before now, but I've just recently met a really great guy who...you know, gets me. And that's what you have to wait for, someone who gets the person you are, and still wants to be with you. Obviously, the girls you're chasing are possibly too immature for you, or don't know a good thing when they see it so, I'm afraid to say, you just have to be patient. You might meet your perfect girl next year, it could be in 5 years, or even longer, but when that girl comes along...you'll be complete.

And this "friend zone" thing is a heap of crap. How many women say relationships should be based on friendship first? All of them. Using the friend zone in the context of, "Oh, I think we'd be better as friends" is a woman's cowardly way of hinting that she's not interested. I hate to say it, but women are manipulative, in every sense of the word.
Don't listen to that "friend zone" crap, your partner is MEANT to be your best friend, your confidante...if you didn't have that, then you'd be having a relationship that's completely empty.

I totally agree with you and your view on the friendship thing, but hey, I guess it is just an excuse. When I say "significant other", I don't mean it that seriously, I just get sick of using the word 'girlfriend'. Thank you, your words have been very helpful. >.<

 

[GHMonkey]

Because women are bitches who will choose some girly-looking skater kid over someone with any depth 100% of the time.

Sounds like you're looking for all the wrong women.

I am asexual.

ok man, im seeing this term used alot in the couple other similar threads. i think i need a very clear definition of what exactly this term mean.

Asexuality is both having no interest in sex and not being sexually attracted to people.

ok, sure, lets roll with that.

In short, its a mental disorder at worst, and a really, really bad excuse at best. While the goal behind sentience can be whatever you want, the goal of life is simply to create life. Far as I've seen, many times its the result of some trauma, and with some time or counseling (or both) it can be cleared up. Trouble is, most asexual folks don't see it as a problem, which I suppose it isn't in the grand scheme of things, but they're missing out on one of two things that humans can classify as immortality - carrying some of your traits on to the next generation, and being recorded in history.

thank you for the much more clear description. i think the term is being misused a lot in this thread, but whatever.

 

[Brain_Cleanser]

I've never really tried to get a girlfriend, so it's most likely my fault. Although I am kind of picky when personality and interests are concerned.

Sure, that's it, dude. Whatever you say, I totally believe you.

Anyway, for me it's because so far datings sucked and I choose to stay out of it.
Also, several people seem to have a problem with "I'm breaking up with you, so I'm setting you on fire."

 

[Sarah Kerrigan]

Guys Don't like dating girls who love fictional video game men I suppose :/

You're aiming too high.
Go for an equal, not someone different.

Soo...a guy who likes fictonal girls XD

Basically.
Otakus aren't exactly going to be that picky.

No offence to the otaku's of the world...

the only hot otaku's you see are at anime conventions. They also 3/4 of the time have girlfriends and are usually older than me

 

[Kevlar Eater]

Why should I go out with a woman who will inevitably wanna get knocked up by someone triple my muscle mass during her ovulation period, get tricked into banging her, watch her have a child that wouldn't be mine, and forced to raise it or pay out the ass if I leave? Life's short enough; why spend it with a whore-in-waiting? Men are a hell of a lot more obvious, biologically, as we feel the need to spread our genes over humanity like butter on toast.

I have a slew of reasons why I'm single, besides from reasons 1, 2, and 6. (May as well be blunt at this moment) I have the occasional bout of misanthropy, I don't speak unless spoken to, and my honesty is blunt and unforgiving. Finally, I'd rather suffer alone than for someone to wreck their personality caring about me.

 

[TheGreatCoolEnergy]

Guys Don't like dating girls who love fictional video game men I suppose :/

Depends on what game.

Well, I danced with some girl at a party, which caused my girlfriend to break up with me(don't ask me why, she's dumb as hell I guess.) So that would be the direct cause. Why I am still single? Havn't really found somebody who I like enough to commit to.

Because I want to be single and sleep around. Unfortunately that means turning a few people down

Was that intentionally rhymed? Cause it was pretty good.

yeeah durnkkkkk

have no idea what ouew aYINGGGGG


WOOOOOO

What the hell? Are you implying that I was drunk? Cause I wasn't, I was completely sober...

How can you be poor and be a gamer really, unless you play someone elses/use manabar/are just interested in it

OY: Self esteem i guess

There are a lot of drug addicts

*cough Garrett Spencer *cough*

OT: I don't have a girlfriend because I'm not attracted to any of the girls I have met to this day.

I think I'm going to have to call bullshit. I find it hard to beleive that out of the hundreds of girls at our school, you havn't looked at one and said "Hey, I would tap that"

 

[Threx]

Guys Don't like dating girls who love fictional video game men I suppose :/

Depends on what game.

Well, I danced with some girl at a party, which caused my girlfriend to break up with me(don't ask me why, she's dumb as hell I guess.) So that would be the direct cause. Why I am still single? Havn't really found somebody who I like enough to commit to.

Because I want to be single and sleep around. Unfortunately that means turning a few people down

Was that intentionally rhymed? Cause it was pretty good.

yeeah durnkkkkk

have no idea what ouew aYINGGGGG


WOOOOOO

What the hell? Are you implying that I was drunk? Cause I wasn't, I was completely sober...

How can you be poor and be a gamer really, unless you play someone elses/use manabar/are just interested in it

OY: Self esteem i guess

There are a lot of drug addicts

*cough Garrett Spencer *cough*

OT: I don't have a girlfriend because I'm not attracted to any of the girls I have met to this day.

I think I'm going to have to call bullshit. I find it hard to beleive that out of the hundreds of girls at our school, you havn't looked at one and said "Hey, I would tap that"

One word: Intellect. If you can't talk to her without feeling stupid your in a bad relationship. So there's really no one at school that is even some what attractive and is even ARROGANT ALERT. close to an intellectual as you or I.

 

[Snarky Username]

For some reason, I don't feel attracted to men or women. Or anything else, for that matter

 

[EnzoHonda]

Maybe I shouldn't be in this thread, because I am no longer single (cue Final Fantasy victory music). What I found? When I stopped looking (yeah, I know, you hear that all the time), the right girl found me.

 

[agrandstudent]

Haha I'm not single and haven't been for 4 years w00t w00t. If I was single I would have to say it was because I was to lazy to try and change it. My history teacher used to say if you want to be hit by a train stand on the train tracks.

 

[chromewarriorXIII]

Mostly because I haven't asked anybody and I'm a little shy. I've worked through a lot of problems (got in shape, worked through self-esteem problems) so that I would be able to get a girlfriend. There is one girl who I like and she seems interested in me, but I'm just not sure how to get anything started, so it's sorta been a stalemate for a while.

 

[klakkat]

Mostly, because I don't fucking care.

That may seem odd to some, but I really don't care about getting laid, and actually feel as if a long-term relationship might be a hindrance on my life right now. Not that I'm star material or anything, so it's not like I'm rejecting opportunities left and right; I'm just not seeking them out.

 

[Dwarfman]

In your poll you failed to have 'clueless' as one of your answers.

I swear I'm so freakin' clueless when it come to women in general I wouldn't know if one was asking me out even if she hit me over the head with a club and dragged me off to her cave. Seriously man, freakin' clueless

 

[mrhockey220]

I have absolutely no self confidence when it comes to women. I can along fine with anyone fine but when it comes to women im just not myself and I dont come off as calm cool and collected as I normally am. I think that part of this is because I have low self esteem but thats just my two cents. Ive only had one girlfriend and it took a couple years for me to ask her out but my confidence dwindled after that.