Poll: Would you date a transgendered person?

[Vern]

No. I'm a heterosexual male, and I'm fine with gay, lesbian, or bisexual people. That's accepting yourself for who you are. Transgendered, on the other hand, seems like a mental condition. When you're transgendered you don't accept who you are, and that's fine if you want to change your gender, it's your choice. Just don't expect me to be attracted to it. It would also carry a whole host of mental issues about your personality, your body, your place in society, whether justified or not. I wouldn't do it. More power to transgendered folks if they want to change gender, I just wouldn't date one. The mental challenges they face would be too much to deal with. Well, plus the fact that I like women who didn't have cocks.

 

[Kl4pp5tuhl]

Beats masturbation.

If the transgendered person in question would look hot enough, maybe. If it's looking obviously like a man, then no.

Edit: What poiumty said.

 

[orangeban]

No, but because I wouldn't date anyone, I'm aromantic, so dating isn't really something I'm interested in. However, if I weren't aromantic, then yes, since I am trans myself, saying no would seem a little hypocritical.

It always strikes me as a bit odd when people claim that if they date someone without knowing they are trans, they've somehow been tricked, like it's the transpersons moral duty to reveal something very private and personal about themselves just to ensure they don't offend the person they're dating.

A friend once pointed out that a better system would be for people to instead state whether or not they are trans-friendly, rather than the trans person "warning" everyone about their transness.

 

[Soods]

Sure, if she (or he? [or it?]) is attractive and nice and vegetarian and atheist and gamer and smart. I should consider lowering my standards one day...

 

[Lawllerskater]

No. I wouldn't even consider it.
I honestly don't mean to be mean or offend anyone, but the whole concept disturbs me.
I've never been into the concept of people enhancing their bodies through surgical measures, and this freaks me out the most.
It comes across to me as a weird psychological issue with one's self that drives them to want to remove and replace a body part...with something entirely different that won't function properly.
It makes me think of someone who wants to be a horse, so they cut off their arm and attach a synthetic, semi-functioning horse leg.

 

[zxvcasdfqwerzxcv]

No as I'm (more or less with the occasional man crush) exclusively attracted to women.
Even if a MTF looked very much like a woman I would still likely think of him as a man. Particularly when it comes to sexual relations.

 

[thehorror2]

Given the conditions you stated, I'd say yes. I've met some damn hot transgirls, to the point where the "trans" prefix would only be necessary if one enquired as to why she had no natural children. (and with the way medicine is advancing these days, that might not even be an issue)

 

[370999]

No I wouldn't. I think it is a flaw of mine but I simply couldn't, I will just feel too uncomfortable and I couldn't imagine ever being attracted to someone like that.

 

[Arakasi]

I am a heterosexual male, and therefore would not want to have relations with a male, even if they had been changed to resemble a female, hell, even if their entire anatomy was changed to female through medical procedure.

Mainly because of one thing: I still wouldn't be attracted to them.

I also find it odd how much people throw around 'xphobic' just because it doesn't appeal to someone.
A homosexual person can look at a straight couple kissing and say 'ewww', this does not make them heterophobic, and likewise a heterosexual person can look at a homosexual couple kissing and say 'ewww', this does not make them homophobic.
It's a matter of individual taste.

 

[LiL'Tic]

lol @ ppl saying they never would, think back to all those drunken times you rubbed up against some "chick" at the club, how many of their faces did you actually see



point being there are a lot more transgender ppl in this world than we realize and its not rly a big deal

 

[SonOfVoorhees]

No I wouldn't. Because regardless if you had an operation to become a female I will still consider you a male. You have the operation, live your life the way you want to - if it makes you happy then i am happy for you. You want to be a woman, that's fine and I can treat you like one - as a friend. But when it comes to dating and relationships, I will see you as the male you was. Its the body you were born with and the operation doesn't change that any more than painting myself black makes me an African. We all have our preferences - and those should be respected.


This reminds me of something i saw on another site - doctors do a good job.

10 Handsome men (that were born female) http://www.oddee.com/item_98038.aspx
10 Gorgeous woman (that were born male) http://www.oddee.com/item_98035.aspx

 

[JasonKaotic]

Not really. It wouldn't feel right. To me a transgender is still the gender they were before, just with a changed body. So either way I'd be dating a guy with a mutilated dick, or a woman with a dick. Not meaning to sound transphobic. I just wouldn't date them.

 

[QtheMuse]

Nope, if a person can't decide what sex they are they have more issues just bubbling beneath the surface which would lead to a horrible relationship in general.

 

[OctoH]

Male, and yes I would. As long as I knew about it when we started dating. I don't want to find that sort of surprise when I take someone to bed.

 

[gmaverick019_v1legacy]

This is one of those cases of "You want to be X, go right ahead, but it's in no way something I'd want to be a part of".

100% agree

i have no problem with someone being what they want to be, more power to them!...but i think i'd lose my chubb at the speed of light if i knew the girl i might have a thing for was transgender.

 

[Spy_Guy]

Not in a million years.

If someone told me they were previously male, I would never work up a romantic interest for them.
If someone I was dating told me they were male, then I'd break up with them, because our relationship would be based on a lie.

If we had sexual contact, I would break up, get very angry, then report them for sexual harassment. I had consent based on the belief that they were born female, rather than a restructured male.

The thought is appalling to me, and therefore, I vote no.

...I sincerely doubt any respectable court would accept that claim of sexual harassment. The sexual advances made were not understood to be unwelcome, consent to sex with this person was given regardless of your perception of your partner, and by all indications the act would be better interpreted as second thoughts after the fact rather than any real legal violation. It's closer to a frivalous lawsuit than anything else.

I actually looked it up.

There are legal precedents where people have been charged with sexual harassment for obtaining consent via false means. For instance, impersonating someone's lover and obtaining consent for sexual activities would get you charged.

Despite the fact that it'd possibly be interpreted as second thoughts after the fact, no?

So, obtaining consent on false grounds could get you charged with harassment.
Personally, I'd rather avoid the problem outright by imposing laws that reconstructed genitals must be marked with a tattoo, or similar.
In my opinion, if you end up in a position where you are showing off your genitals to someone else, chances are that the person in question deserves to know whether or not they were man-made, so to speak.

If the partner in question didn't mind carrying out romantic acts with a reconstructed person, then all is well and nobody has to do anything they regret.

I personally believe that relationships should be based upon honesty and if someone would hide such a thing about themselves, then they're not honest or good people.

If you take something a bit different, like HIV. Would you feel alright if someone neglected to inform you of that condition before having sex with you?
Chances are you wouldn't.

...and if you would, then you're clearly a better person than I am.