Poll: Would you date a transgendered person?

[Goodbye.Kitty]

I am male, and would date a m2f transgendered person without reservation. (and have in the past) I'm afraid that I don't have time to write a deep and detailed explanation of my reasoning, except to say that I fully support the right of people to decide 'who' they are and how they wish to present themselves to the world. I don't consider myself gay, but then again, I don't consider m2f persons "male" even pre-op. It's what's on the inside that counts.

 

[Slayer_2]

I wouldn't want to be with someone so insecure and shallow that they feel the need to undergo hideous mutilations and lengthy hormone "treatments" to attempt a sex change. Instead they just come off across as a grotesque mix of two genders. If I craved dick, I'd go gay. Since I prefer vag, I'll stick with (and in) that as long as it keeps working for me. I'm not being transphobic, I'm judging your personality based off of your actions, which is completely fair and reasonable. Be happy with the body you have, unless you have some mutation or crippling injury, in which case, my sympathy.

 

[DudeistBelieve]

No. I would not. A "mTf" transgender is just a man with an unfortunate gender confusion who, instead of being given psychiatric help by his society was set lose to surgically mutilate himself.

Transgender is a different thing from homosexuality or bisexuality entirely despite what political correctness would have you believe. The only negative effects of sexual orientation are those stigmas created by bigoted members of society. For that reason, though they are abnormal (statistically out of the ordinary) mental states, they are in no way mental disorders, hurt nobody, and should be accepted. However, transgender is an abnormal mental state which causes the sufferer to hire a person to physically mutilate them. Ultimately, yes, it is their choice and if we took no actions to hinder people's choices: sure. However, a person suffering from documented depression is not allowed to purchase firearms because society has taken it upon themselves to stop them from doing what they want to do (end their life). Why would it be so wrong for society to stop transgenders from doing what they want (mutilate themselves irreparably)?

However, I guess this is a bit of a digression from the exact topic at hand but before I get back into a concise answer I will say this: I don't dislike transgender people. They have an unfortunate condition and I feel sorry for them.

However, first of all, an "mTf" is just a man who had his dick and balls lopped off and as a heterosexual male I would not be with another man, and second, I have dealt with too many mentally unstable people in my life up to this point. Not taking on another one.

I normally would not touch a post like this with a 40 foot pole, wwwwaaayyyyy to many opportunities for me to get in trouble so I won't outright argue with you about how I feel your viewpoint is incorrect...

That said, I just sincerely need to know the answer to this, because this is the sole reason I found your particular post so interesting... You do realize to a self-accepting trans-person the most inflammatory thing you said was "I feel sorry for them.", right?

in all serious, not flame bait, I probably won't even respond to your reply, but I gots to know this.

 

[llubtoille]

heh "desperately lonely" I must be, but not "anyone who would have me",
there's got to be a reasonable level of attraction and compatibility / friendliness.
I don't think it would be a deal breaker if someone was transgender however.

 

[Reggie Rock]

I wouldn't want to be with someone so insecure and shallow that they feel the need to undergo hideous mutilations and lengthy hormone "treatments" to attempt a sex change. Instead they just come off across as a grotesque mix of two genders. If I craved dick, I'd go gay. Since I prefer vag, I'll stick with (and in) that as long as it keeps working for me. I'm not being transphobic, I'm judging your personality based off of your actions, which is completely fair and reasonable. Be happy with the body you have, unless you have some mutation or crippling injury, in which case, my sympathy.

Being trans isn't rooted in insecurity. It's a misalignment of physical body and your brains gender. If being happy with your body was how everyone lived, then people wouldn't undergo weight-loss surgery, lift weights (extensively), have other plastic surgeries, etc... many people are not trans undergo surgery to "correct" issues they have with themselves.

The diet industry is a billion (probably multi-billion) dollar a year industry. People are most definitely NOT content with their bodies... even people in shape are not completely, look at the fitness industry... another HUGE industry.

Life and existence is not so black and white as many people make it out to be, it would be nice if it were, but alas it is not.

Your brains gender? That's ridiculous. You either have a Y chromosome or you don't. You can feel whatever gender you like, but your brain has no gender just as it has no race nor sexuality.An FTM is still a female and nothing can currently change that. To me, a gender is definite.

Dont get me wrong, if i meet anyone who happens to be transgender, i'll treat them the same as anyone else. They're people. I'll call them their preferred gender, but i'll never agree with it, Nor will i ever be attracted to them.

I will get so much shit for saying this, but sexuality absolutely 100% is a choice.
Regardless of what anyone may have you believe, you aren't born with a sexuality. You develop a sexuality through experience and depending on how you review those experiences, you choose which path feels right to you.

 

[Rayne870]

no i would not, the issue isn't who they are or how they look or what gender they formerly were, none of that really matters to me. the issue for me is that they would not be able to bear my children, and the only reason i have to date, or more accurately have my fiance is so that we can one day combine our DNA and make two children.

so wait, you are with your SO so you can procreate? not because you love one another? What if you found out one of you was sterile? would you leave and find someone else?

No, im with this particular SO because i love her, i chose to have a SO so i could procreate. if either of us is sterile we go into alternative forms of procreation if possible, or we consider adoption, but only because we have an emotional investment, i would not begin a relationship with someone that was sterile.

Also both of us are very much capable of having children and i find "what if" questions to be a little simple. What if either of us gets hit by a rogue meteor, well i hope the surviving member finds another life mate.

 

[floppylobster]

As much as I'm okay with anybody being anybody if it doesn't do it for me, it never will.

I mean, if I fell in love then maybe, but the older I get, the less I feel love.

I'm the same with food (not to trivialize a person's gender). But if I know there are baked beans in anything I eat, I cannot enjoy it, no matter how much I like the look of it.

I blame my brain, it has some deep-seated preferences and phobias that I inherited but don't fully understand. One of which is a fear of buttons, so go figure. I can't explain it, but I know what I like. And I know what works for me. Transgender just does not 'float my boat', but more power to people being who they are despite the pressures of others to be what they're suppose to.

 

[ElPatron]

You could equally "cure" someone's fantasy that they were a dog by doing surgery to make them more dog like and calling them a dog. You would however not have made them a dog, nor would you have fixed the screwed up part of their brain that made them think they were a dog. In fact, rather than help them, you have reinforced their illness and just hidden the symptoms.

Except the part where the person really has a dog brain and trying to mess around with what a person is is just wrong.

 

[Erana]

If they're right for me as a person, then fine. After all, I'm not looking to be getting into anyone's pants as it is. I just want someone I can enjoy as a person and who will do right by me and my family.

I don't like identifying people by their genders much, anyway.

 

[Slayer_2]

I wouldn't want to be with someone so insecure and shallow that they feel the need to undergo hideous mutilations and lengthy hormone "treatments" to attempt a sex change. Instead they just come off across as a grotesque mix of two genders. If I craved dick, I'd go gay. Since I prefer vag, I'll stick with (and in) that as long as it keeps working for me. I'm not being transphobic, I'm judging your personality based off of your actions, which is completely fair and reasonable. Be happy with the body you have, unless you have some mutation or crippling injury, in which case, my sympathy.

Being trans isn't rooted in insecurity. It's a misalignment of physical body and your brains gender. If being happy with your body was how everyone lived, then people wouldn't undergo weight-loss surgery, lift weights (extensively), have other plastic surgeries, etc... many people are not trans undergo surgery to "correct" issues they have with themselves.

The diet industry is a billion (probably multi-billion) dollar a year industry. People are most definitely NOT content with their bodies... even people in shape are not completely, look at the fitness industry... another HUGE industry.

Life and existence is not so black and white as many people make it out to be, it would be nice if it were, but alas it is not.

There is a difference between being happy with your body as it is, and being fit. Now, I'm not saying you need to be super jacked, but at least keeping off too many extra pounds is good for your health in many ways. In our sedentary (and generally lazy) society, gyms prosper because people need to find a way to slow down the process of gaining weight. Lately, I've started to gain a few pounds (I blame swapping my daily bike commute for a daily drive commute), and I increased my exercise so I could avoid potential health issues. This does not compare at all to undergoing painful experimental surgery to have your genitalia changed.

If I woke up in a female body tomorrow (assuming no one noticed the switch), I'd be like "Oh, shit, what happened?" Then I'd get up and continue on with my day as usual, after a quick stop in front of the full-size mirror, of course, hahaha. Later that night, you'd find me at a lesbian bar or some such. Life goes on.

 

[StBishop]

The most resounding no I could possibly give.

Without being a massive "bro, dude" guy, never in a million years.

I don't mean to be offensive, I really don't, but I'm just not that open minded and I never will be.

irregardless

That's not a word. Regardless is a word. Irregardless is not a word. If it were, it would mean "Not regardless" as in, "taking in to regard".

It's the opposite of what you're trying to say and it's not a word.

So yeah.

[sub]I may have just fallen for a clever troll.[/sub]

 

[Panayjon]

I admit I chose the "I'm desperately lonely and would date anyone who would have me" option because its the 'funny' choice but also probably true. If I can't tell at a glance that the person is transgendered, I really wouldn't mind.

A long-term relationship? That's another thread entirely.

 

[AnarchistFish]

I have no personal issue with transgenders, so although I've never been put into this particular position, I see no reason why I'd say no.

 

[somonels]

Pre-op - no.
Post-op - Not. A. [modbot]. Chance.

irregardless

That's not a word. Regardless is a word. Irregardless is not a word. If it were, it would mean "Not regardless" as in, "taking in to regard".

It's the opposite of what you're trying to say and it's not a word.

So yeah.

[sub]I may have just fallen for a clever troll.[/sub]

Disregardless, as in 'disregard this reply'. No need to be so elaborate with not correcting a wrong negative prefix while making your own mistakes.

 

[PotluckBrigand]

At the risk of sounding totally gauche here, as long as they understand that nothing is...well.. I guess there's no delicate way to say it. Nothing is going inside me. Not a moral issue, just not interested. Beyond that, hell if they're a cool guy/girl and they like me and I like them back, I see no reason to let something like plumbing get in the way. The sink in my kitchen doesn't work, but I still live here, I just have to do my dishes in the bathroom. There's an analogy in there somewhere. Help yourselves.

 

[Fenris Frost]

Yup. Absolutely. Any gender, trans either way, I'm open for anything. What a waste of time to work in gender and sexuality binaries. There are more important traits, and traits more important by far than which gender they believe themselves to be, disparate from their physical bodies. I can't believe people even care about this stuff anymore.