Poll: Would you date a transgendered person?

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217not237

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Well, my philosophy is "Why not?" Transgendered people, as human beings, deserve equal rights as a non-transgendered person, and, as such, deserve equal oppurtunity to have a relationship with another person. Transgendered people tend to go through a sex change because they don't feel comfortable as a man/woman, which isn't a choice. It seems to me like asking a white man in pre-civil rights movement America if he would date a black woman. While the answer would likely be "No," the answer would likely change in the future when black people, or, in this case, transgendered people, become more accepted.
 

Jake the Snake

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I think I'd be able to see past the whole "I was a dude and now I'm not" thing with time. But it's the lack of being able to reproduce that would tear it for me. I want to have a family when I'm older. It would be too painful to be with someone, I knew right from the start, would never be able to give me that. (Granted I don't know if the same thing could be said if I married a woman who ended up being sterile...hm this issue is a big moral grey area for me...)
 

nekoali

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There is always adoption of course. I can understand what you mean though. The inability to have children of my own is an issue of depression for me. But such is life. Were I ever to adopt or have a partner who already had children, I would love them as much as if they were of my own flesh and blood.
 

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I'm not gonna lie and say that it wouldn't bug me (might not be the best word choice), it definitely would. But I'd like to think that I have an open mind about stuff, and if it turned out that the person I was dating was oh by the way... I don't know. I think I'd be able to come to terms with that.

I don't think I'd be able to look at someone who I knew was TG and start dating them. That's probably hypocritical, but I think it's hard to take something that is initially a physical attraction and through in something that's just uncommon. Even if there's nothing wrong with it (the characteristic - not the person), just the idea that it's "strange" or "abnormal" can be unsettling. I think if the relationship and the personal connection were there before hand though, that the anatomy wouldn't matter - at least for me.
 

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Da_Vane said:
It's clear that you come from a subjective standpoint, what defines man and woman is biology, it's genetic. Currently there is no way to fix that for people who feel they aren't the right one. It's not transphobic or even unsupportive to know that.
 

mlooshka

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I'm a female, and I have dated both FTMs and MTFs. There's no poll option for both, though. Why is that?
 

Batou667

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Melanie McGreevey said:
We are getting derailed a bit, but i have had friends who heard that (t-word) yelled at them, right before being assaulted.
I'm going to stick my neck out here and venture that the real problem is the physical assualt, not the politically-incorrect language. I always thought "tranny" was acceptable shorthand, used by transvestites themselves more often than not. If the trans community has convened and solemnly decided that it's now unspeakably offensive, then I'm afraid I never got the memo.

(Well, I suppose I have now, but please, a heads-up next time somebody decides to move the goalposts?)
 

nekoali

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Batou667 said:
Melanie McGreevey said:
We are getting derailed a bit, but i have had friends who heard that (t-word) yelled at them, right before being assaulted.
I'm going to stick my neck out here and venture that the real problem is the physical assualt, not the politically-incorrect language. I always thought "tranny" was acceptable shorthand, used by transvestites themselves more often than not. If the trans community has convened and solemnly decided that it's now unspeakably offensive, then I'm afraid I never got the memo.

(Well, I suppose I have now, but please, a heads-up next time somebody decides to move the goalposts?)
It is kind of like black people using the n-word. It started off as an offensive phrase used to belittle people. Some use it to describe themselves or others in an effort to 'take back' the word, where as others find it offensive.

For me, it is all about the intention behind the word. Used in a joking, playful way I don't find 'tranny' offensive. I've been known to use it to describe myself as a joke, or friends I was really close to and know they won't be offended. On the other hand, some people use it as a mean-spirited insult. I take it as intended in those cases. And I never use the word to describe someone for whom I don't know that well because some people are offended by it.

People want to say that words only have the power we give them. This is not true. Words have power, they always did. For people who are bullied and insulted on a regular basis, words certainly do have power, the power that is behind them emotionally, physically even legally. And honestly, dealing with insulting words is more difficult and deals more damage than someone throwing a punch. If you get told on a daily basis that you are something horrible... You start to believe it.
 

Skratt

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Post-op is the only way I would consider it, and even then, likely not. I'd like to say I'm not shallow, but that would be a lie. Friends, yes, dating, not so much. Sorry. :(
 

Cheery Lunatic

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HEY GUYS.

Yeah, tell me again that transsexuals can't be attractive. I remember there being a NeoGaf thread over this haha. I'm not sure if anyone posted her pic yet though, so someone please yell at me if otherwise.

OT: Yeah probably. I mean, I suppose it's easier for a female to look like a male than the other way around (not so much for genitalia though) so I'm guess I have a better selection that those that are attracted to girls.
I do find it a little funny though that according to the poll chicks are more likely to date a transsexual/gender person than the guys are. I mean, I'm sure it's party because there's just more guys on this site than girls, but proportionally speaking, it is rather amusing.
 

nekoali

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And a good singer too. Starting early, especially if you can get on hormone blockers before puberty really helps with feminine appearance.
 

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I would and more or less have. :p

Though, difference from the OP assumption is that she was pre-op.

And she frequents The Escapist.

This place has one hell of a way of bringing people together, doesn't it?

EDIT: Voted for would date MtF, but really, if there was an option for date both and I wasn't so retardedly blind that I couldn't see the last result, I would have chose that.
 

AusGamer44

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I'm female,& gosh,I really don't know.Whilst I know several male to female transgenders,many of whom are extremely attractive,lovely people,to my knowledge I've yet to meet a female to male transitioner.Whilst I can easily see how a guy could fall in love with many of these newly minted,gorgeous females,the only F to M ones I've seen have been on the telly,and none of them looked either terribly convincing or handsome.
Example:you guys get Bond model Caroline 'Tula' Cossey:



We get Chaz Bono:
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Don't get me wrong,Chaz seems a sweet guy who I wish all the happiness in the world,but to date? No.I don't require movie star looks,but so far I've yet to see a F to M trangender that I felt attracted to.I'd happily liked to be proved wrong 'cos I don't like having preconceptions about this sort of thing.

Also:penis.Or lack there of.None of the fake willies look very convincing,nor do they seem to actually work.I gotta admit I'd miss that.
(Insert archaic 'easier to make a hole than a pole' joke here.::Sigh::)
 

Tiger Sora

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No. I just don't think I could go with it. What other people do is their business. But I with that knowledge would just say not interested, and would leave. I'm Bi, and thats my limit.
 

Dendio

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Nope, I share a dorm with a male gay couple. Ive had a gay roommate and gay friends. But theres no way im dating a transgendered person. I like women and find men pretty ugly when compared to women. I rarely even consider men in that capacity, but if I force myself all I see is distorted woman
 

Beretta

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To the threat topic: Yes.
It'd be the kind of thing I'd have to warm up to, but I'd be at least willing to try.
 

MartianWarMachine

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LegendaryGamer0 said:
This place has one hell of a way of bringing people together, doesn't it?
I know, right!? =^-^=
[sub][sub][sub][sub]Without it, I probably wouldn't have told my "not-into-guys-at-all" friend that I had "more-than-just-friendly" feelings for her... Oh, and if I find out she's reading this, I'm screwed. In fact, she introduced me to the Escapist in the first place! But this is not on-topic at all, so my apologies, please disrgard this >.>[/sub][/sub][/sub][/sub]