Poll: Would you date an asexual person?

[Kroxile]

I was married to an asexual person once.

Didn't stay married for long. When I stop gettin some I lose interest. Call me what you will, but sex is a very important part of a long term relationship and without it... well... things can get frustrating to say the least

 

[FoolKiller]

No. Dating for me is a sexual thing. Otherwise, it's called friendship.

 

[jawakiller]

I wouldn't even consider it. Whats the point of going with someone I can't fuck? I have plenty of friends. All I see it as is a chick telling me I can't have sex with anyone, not even her. Wow, fuck that. And you definitely can't marry someone like that. What the hell are you gonna do on your honeymoon? Play golf?

 

[Axelhander]

Let's say you meet an asexual guy/girl who is heteromantic/homoromantic (Depending on your gender/sexual orientation). The two of you get along great and develop feelings for each other, do you think you could engage in a long term relationship with someone even if the two of you will probably never have sex?

Are you from SRK?

 

[Chainsaws_of_War_2]

I AM an asexual person.
I see that working out better for me than dating anyone else.

I would totally go and do that if I wasn't also aromantic.

I'm a little confused by this, does this mean you don't get any arousal at all or passion for others? Don't mean to pry, I've just never met someone I know that doesn't have these common feelings.

 

[Kragg]

No. Dating for me is a sexual thing. Otherwise, it's called friendship.

wouldnt go as far as to say its a sexual thing, but i agree though, why "date" when you could just be friends anyway, difference between my closest female friends and girls ive been with is just the physical part. i kinda understand asexuality, i dont understand asexual dating at all

Well, I currently am dating an asexual, so there's that.

A relationship doesn't hinge on sexual activity. It's about how well you get on with that person and how much you love them.
Basing a relationship entirely on sex is just ridiculous.

Sex is nice in a relationship, but it can ruin things just as easily.
Simply put, if you love someone, it doesn't matter how much or how little you have sex.

Odd that I'm currently listening to a song called Love Addict right now which only talks about fucking >.>

it took mister asexual himself 5 pages to reply, i am amazed haha

 

[Wereduck]

Nope. I could live with physical intimacy but no actual penetration, however I love kids. I want to have at least one and I definitely want to pass along my genes - see if me & my honey can do better than our parents did with the same material.

 

[Custard_Angel]

God no...

Without any sort of sexualised activity/desire I don't understand how a relationship can be considered anything beyond a friendship.

Romance is nothing without words, but without physical intimacy to back it up, it seems kind of empty.

A smile is great, but a passionate kiss is far better.

Eh... I don't understand you people claiming* to be asexual. What killed your sex drive? Sex is the most natural thing. Ever. It's an essential life process.

You wouldn't be here without it. No one would.

Whatever... Do your own thing. I'll just go on living my life filled with academia, music, literature, films, sports and sex and you can live your life filled with academia, music, literature, films and sports.

* I fully accept the existance of people to whom sex is not a life goal, but the numbers I see on the internet can't possibly be real.

 

[dkyros]

Possibly, but it is contingent on the person.

 

[TheLaofKazi]

I just don't think that way. I believe that femininity and masculinity are traits independent of your actual gender. So a more feminine male or a more masculine female isn't strange to me. Its just varying levels of individuality. Same goes for sexual orientation, everyone is attracted to the human form it just varies how much attraction goes to what traits. I don't understand the need for such black and white labels. It oversimplifies a very complicated subject.

Not to disrespect your stance on the matter, but I have always thought of myself relatively equally attracted to certain male and female partners. That didn't rule out anything else in the slightest. I thought that was just bisexual. Have I using the wrong label for myself in the context of those labels?

I absolutely agree with you and also identify as bisexual, or perhaps pansexual myself. All of those masculine and feminine traits only seem like that because people associate "masculine" things with men, and "feminine" things with girls. Sexuality is incredibly complex and beautiful, and orientation labels and other labels only try to make communication simpler. Some labels get into more detail, like I guess I would be considered more hetereosexual then homosexual, but almost more homoromantic then hetereomantic. But then again, that shit fluctuates all of the time and I still don't really know anything about myself.

 

[Hectix777]

The Asari are asexual right? Yeah, I could go into a long term relationship with an immortal blue chick from space, and I'll be able to say,"FIRSTIES!!!," after doing what nerds have dreamed of doing ever since Star Trek aired. Giggedy-giggedy-giggedy-giggedy-goo!

 

[Monkfish Acc.]

I'm a little confused by this, does this mean you don't get any arousal at all or passion for others? Don't mean to pry, I've just never met someone I know that doesn't have these common feelings.

Er, I get platonically attracted to people sometimes. It's different, though. I don't really want to have sex with them or get into a relationship or anything, it's just sort of like an innocent crush. Think of it as a bit like what a child would have, only with less hair pulling and namecalling.

It is usually a passing thing, though. I don't hang out with any girls or dudes and form crushes, that would require an emotional connection I refuse to be capable of. It's more like, I see a girl blush and think it's cute.

That's as far as I go. I don't know that I'm a good example, however. I imagine other aromantics aren't interested in relationships just because. I'm not interested because I'm like this huge dick with PROBLEMS who can't handle difficult and scary things like affection.

 

[hurfdurp]

Unlikely, I need to get jiggy with it.

 

[natster43]

Possibly. It would depend on how I felt about the person. If I loved them then yes. But if I only liked them as a friend then no.

 

[Sporky111]

No, I really couldn't do it. Sex is a very important part of a relationship for me and I wouldn't be able to fully commit to someone without it.

 

[StevieG]

Can't have sex when you're deployed, so sure, it'd be great to know there's someone who's in it for the intellectual stimulation, not simply a physical thing, and they won't cheat while you're off on the line.

 

[Sonic Doctor]

Let's say you meet an asexual guy/girl who is heteromantic/homoromantic (Depending on your gender/sexual orientation). The two of you get along great and develop feelings for each other, do you think you could engage in a long term relationship with someone even if the two of you will probably never have sex?

Nope, I want to have kids of my own some day, and I'm not having some test-tube baby because the girl thinks sex is icky.

I don't know what all asexuals think, but the ones I have heard on the Net, they tend not to like or want to have kids.

 

[thylasos]

Got to say, as well, this sounds like it's just a friendship which would make it impossible for me to fuck anyone.

 

[GotMalkAvian]

For the right person I'd certainly be willing to give it a shot. My libido isn't exactly huge, so I don't really need sex on a regular basis. However, my asexual partner would have to understand that I may need to release sexual tension every now and again, even if it's by myself. Also, I think this would be an interesting beginning point for an open relationship, since I would only be seeking something that I couldn't get from my partner.

 

[Lissa-QUON]

Wow, all the folks on here who seem to think a relationship = sex. Just wow.

Anyway as per the question, I don't really know. I might. I've not dated much though so I really don't know what I want out of a relationship. But if I get along with them amazingly well sure.

Also from my understanding of asexuals, its not that they are incapable of sex, it's just not something that drives them.

I've heard that in romantic relationships they can/might/will have intercourse and might even enjoy it. If it's important to their significant other they'll try to fulfill that need.