Poll: Would you date/marry a bimbo? (Or for women, the male equivalent)
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Having recently broken up with a third long-term partner who was in no way a "bimbo" I say: Sure. Why the hell not.
I'd probably be the male equivalent of Bimbo, so screw it, as long as she's a decent person we probably have a lot in common.
Just because you're a bit dumb doesn't mean you can't be fun to be around or incapable of love and compassion.
I'd probably be the male equivalent of Bimbo, so screw it, as long as she's a decent person we probably have a lot in common.
Just because you're a bit dumb doesn't mean you can't be fun to be around or incapable of love and compassion.
If this is the definition we're going with, then yes. I can take a little dimwittedness if pretty much everything else is perfect.Paragon Fury said:
Would I marry someone who cares too much about their looks, is dumb, but that I find very attractive and has no traits that would turn me off?
A lot of assumptions need to be made for this hypothetical. As relationships require some amount of money to be kept going and that a person of this kind likes to spend money, the first assumption is that my financial situation would be amenable to such a endeavor. The second would be that they would find me attractive enough, in a general sense, to consider a me romantic candidate.
Being overly concerned with one's own appearance is better than not being concerned at all. I assume that, before meeting them, they must have some amount of money to spend on shoes, makeup, clothing, and the inevitable cosmetic procedures they desire and already have. How much of my money will be used to feed this obsession? Can I assume that their manner of dress and appearance is something I would find to my taste? If I can afford it and it is to my liking, it seems reasonable to believe that this is unlikely to impact the relationship negatively. It makes them happy and me finding them attractive makes me happy. I'd call that a win-win.
How dumb are we talking? Did they graduate high school or are they as intelligent as 6 year old? I can deal with a fair amount of stupid. Some basic common sense and a capacity to learn even a little can take even a stupid person quite a ways. I'll assume they some understanding of right and wrong and are articulate enough to hold a simple conversation. As long as they know how to take of themselves and function to an acceptable degree, I see no problem here.
Add in that their personality is such that I would to want to spend an extended period of time with them and I would say that at the very least I would be a fool not to consider a trial relationship of a moderate duration in order to determine the possibility of a long-term partnership.
TLDR: It's worth a shot.
I may have thought to long on this.
Now the question is: Why did you ask?
There is no true male equivalent as 'bimbo' was originally used in the early 20th century to refer to a stupid or foolish man, stemming from the Italian for baby; bambino/bambina. It's also where the stereotypical bimbo name 'Bambi' comes from. Its reference specifically to women is modern at around 30 years. for a short time the female form was 'bimbette.'
I've found that a modern equivalent used in some specific groups is 'bimboy' or 'bimboi.' Though their use of bimbo is perhaps a bit more niche.
Outside of that and for the laymen 'himbo' is sometimes used in reference to male bimbos.
The things I've learned from S&M. Good times.
A lot of assumptions need to be made for this hypothetical. As relationships require some amount of money to be kept going and that a person of this kind likes to spend money, the first assumption is that my financial situation would be amenable to such a endeavor. The second would be that they would find me attractive enough, in a general sense, to consider a me romantic candidate.
Being overly concerned with one's own appearance is better than not being concerned at all. I assume that, before meeting them, they must have some amount of money to spend on shoes, makeup, clothing, and the inevitable cosmetic procedures they desire and already have. How much of my money will be used to feed this obsession? Can I assume that their manner of dress and appearance is something I would find to my taste? If I can afford it and it is to my liking, it seems reasonable to believe that this is unlikely to impact the relationship negatively. It makes them happy and me finding them attractive makes me happy. I'd call that a win-win.
How dumb are we talking? Did they graduate high school or are they as intelligent as 6 year old? I can deal with a fair amount of stupid. Some basic common sense and a capacity to learn even a little can take even a stupid person quite a ways. I'll assume they some understanding of right and wrong and are articulate enough to hold a simple conversation. As long as they know how to take of themselves and function to an acceptable degree, I see no problem here.
Add in that their personality is such that I would to want to spend an extended period of time with them and I would say that at the very least I would be a fool not to consider a trial relationship of a moderate duration in order to determine the possibility of a long-term partnership.
TLDR: It's worth a shot.
I may have thought to long on this.
Now the question is: Why did you ask?
In having moved around in several BDSM circles of many flavors, I actually know this.Paragon Fury said:
There is no true male equivalent as 'bimbo' was originally used in the early 20th century to refer to a stupid or foolish man, stemming from the Italian for baby; bambino/bambina. It's also where the stereotypical bimbo name 'Bambi' comes from. Its reference specifically to women is modern at around 30 years. for a short time the female form was 'bimbette.'
I've found that a modern equivalent used in some specific groups is 'bimboy' or 'bimboi.' Though their use of bimbo is perhaps a bit more niche.
Outside of that and for the laymen 'himbo' is sometimes used in reference to male bimbos.
The things I've learned from S&M. Good times.
I'd go and say that intelligence is not a quotient by which to measure how happy you would be with someone. More importantly, is emotional stability, independence, and basically someone you can reason with and isn't a sociopath. Sounds weird, like you'd imagine that would encompass most of the human race, but from my experience, no. I've dated a girl based on looks and although she wasn't "dumb" by any accounts, she was a fucking handful. So I'd take the looks OR intelligence out of the equation, and say AS LONG AS "they're not an asshole, etc." I'm down.
There are a whole lot of other possible drawbacks of dating someone very hot, not from personal but just saying some would feel insecure in themselves (how they look), insecure of others (checking out/hitting on your girl/guy), shallowness of relationship, attraction drying up.
My vote? I would not date one, though I did, they weren't great. Goddamn trainwreck if I'm honest, but that was due to other factors listed above (manic possessiveness, psychotic jealousy, no, not on my part) - nothing to do with intelligence or "bimbo" factor in and itself. I'm not that insecure or demanding that a girl needs to be as intelligent, or can't be a hell lot more intelligent than me. If she's smarter that's great, as long as she's not arrogant about it (can't stand that), and if she's not as smart then I don't care as long as she's kind and reasonable.
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There are a whole lot of other possible drawbacks of dating someone very hot, not from personal but just saying some would feel insecure in themselves (how they look), insecure of others (checking out/hitting on your girl/guy), shallowness of relationship, attraction drying up.
My vote? I would not date one, though I did, they weren't great. Goddamn trainwreck if I'm honest, but that was due to other factors listed above (manic possessiveness, psychotic jealousy, no, not on my part) - nothing to do with intelligence or "bimbo" factor in and itself. I'm not that insecure or demanding that a girl needs to be as intelligent, or can't be a hell lot more intelligent than me. If she's smarter that's great, as long as she's not arrogant about it (can't stand that), and if she's not as smart then I don't care as long as she's kind and reasonable.
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Totes in the scenario you provided. I do focus a lot on personality, but I don't really equate intelligence into that too much. So long as she can discuss serious matters in a decent way, I'm fine. Hell, I'm somewhat of an airhead/dummy myself.
Eh... I haven't dated anyone yet, so I have no scale to judge and/or to be judged on... except if they start making fun of the fact that I am their first [romantic] relationship... That shit will not stand with me!
Other than that, I could totally pull off the bimbo vibe... Just ask my best friend... He knows... (He knows...)
Other than that, I could totally pull off the bimbo vibe... Just ask my best friend... He knows... (He knows...)
Initially, was gonna say no because I thought you were gonna suggest the stereotypical "dumb-as-a-post" blonde. But "a little ditzy, not mentally handicapped, just not overly smart"? Yea, I would date this hypothetical her. If she is a sweetheart, I would marry her. You don't have to be super intelligent to have a unique insight on things or be a nice and interesting person (though it helps).
Heck, the only real problem I would have is thinking they're out of my league or worry that I would not put enough effort in my own appearance to appear with her.
So yea, put me down as yea.
Heck, the only real problem I would have is thinking they're out of my league or worry that I would not put enough effort in my own appearance to appear with her.
So yea, put me down as yea.
Perhaps. it depends on her personality and how much i would have to put up with. If the lack of intelligence would be making a silly remark sometimes its no big deal, if it is getting me into a car accident every month - nope outa here.
Isn't she the woman that Krillin dated once? The one that was basically a gold digger and the one that called Chi-Chi and Bulma "grannies.aegix drakan said:
EDIT: Hold on. Is that a gender-swapped Remi from Street Fighter III?!
OT: Sure I would. As long as she has a good heart, can function in a real world and we feel good together.
Besides, I would probably be able to show her a thing or two, if she is interested. Just as she would be able to (maybe) teach me something I did not knew.
Intelligence is subjective.
Just because a person isn't intelligent in the way we want them to be, doesn't mean they're dim witted.
A person who is a stereotypical "bimbo", for this purpose I'm going to define as "A person who cares a lot about their appearance, but doesn't care to engage in political discussion, math, or other conventionally "smart" topics", is still smart in their own way, for example, they're probably far above and beyond more socially adapt than my awkward ass.
If I want to know for example how to appeal to strangers be if for a date, job interview, or anything that involves making a good first impression, these people are a wealth of knowledge and information. It's selling someone short to label them as a "bimbo" because they choose to invest their mental energy in other subjects.
That being said, it is perfectly valid IMO to refuse to date a person that I can't have a conversation with, because our interests are too different. I enjoy a good political conversation, I couldn't see myself long term dating or marrying such an individual who doesn't also enjoy these things. We could still be great friends though.
Just because a person isn't intelligent in the way we want them to be, doesn't mean they're dim witted.
A person who is a stereotypical "bimbo", for this purpose I'm going to define as "A person who cares a lot about their appearance, but doesn't care to engage in political discussion, math, or other conventionally "smart" topics", is still smart in their own way, for example, they're probably far above and beyond more socially adapt than my awkward ass.
If I want to know for example how to appeal to strangers be if for a date, job interview, or anything that involves making a good first impression, these people are a wealth of knowledge and information. It's selling someone short to label them as a "bimbo" because they choose to invest their mental energy in other subjects.
That being said, it is perfectly valid IMO to refuse to date a person that I can't have a conversation with, because our interests are too different. I enjoy a good political conversation, I couldn't see myself long term dating or marrying such an individual who doesn't also enjoy these things. We could still be great friends though.
Yeah, probably, now that I think about.
Y'know, assuming I enjoyed her company and I was attracted to her and she felt something similar for me and so on and so forth.
Although I've never actually been attracted to anyone I considered notably less intelligent than myself. But if it happened then yeah, I'd give it a go. Why not?
Y'know, assuming I enjoyed her company and I was attracted to her and she felt something similar for me and so on and so forth.
Although I've never actually been attracted to anyone I considered notably less intelligent than myself. But if it happened then yeah, I'd give it a go. Why not?
Yeah, 'cause it means that she'll probably appreciate dirty jokes and, when it comes to the sex life, it's likely to be high in both quality AND quantity. 
Considering how often I get frustrated by the stupidity of other people these days, I'd see it as unlikely. However, if the chemistry did work and our interests matched and they had at least some degree of personality, I wouldn't rule it out completely.
Nope, not my type probably. Assuming we're talking about someone who, in the end, is really superficial and doesn't like to think much about anything. Whether you call that dumb I don't know.
The whole caring-about-their-appearance thing is fine by me. Hell I'm pretty vain too so I can relate. But I'm too into 'smart' topics (silly label, but eh roll with the game I guess) like international politics, art somewhat, culture, and social justice topics to not be bored by a dating prospect who doesn't give a damn about any of that. Hell, even more trivial topics I approach really intensely. I love to look at games, movies and shows with a real critical eye and I love thinking and talking vividly about that.
So I doubt it'd work in a relationship. I bet I could be friends though, I can be friends with most people. But having the intense kind of personal contact you'd have in a relationship with someone I pretty much can't talk to? Nah, that won't work.
The whole caring-about-their-appearance thing is fine by me. Hell I'm pretty vain too so I can relate. But I'm too into 'smart' topics (silly label, but eh roll with the game I guess) like international politics, art somewhat, culture, and social justice topics to not be bored by a dating prospect who doesn't give a damn about any of that. Hell, even more trivial topics I approach really intensely. I love to look at games, movies and shows with a real critical eye and I love thinking and talking vividly about that.
So I doubt it'd work in a relationship. I bet I could be friends though, I can be friends with most people. But having the intense kind of personal contact you'd have in a relationship with someone I pretty much can't talk to? Nah, that won't work.
I think the assumption in this scenario is that she can't or at least doesn't want to.Elfgore said:
Yeah...I would. And I did. In my wild and younger single days I ran with some local PUAs (Google it) and I wanted to see if all that nonsense worked.
I made a play for the hottest girl in the place and, to my surprise, scored a date. But it was clear from the onset she wasn't the sharpest knife in the drawer. It was worth it for awhile. The physical stuff was fun. And having all the heads turn whenever we went somewhere was a great ego boost.
It didn't last long, though. We had zero in common and she knew could get any guy she wanted, so I was constantly jumping through metaphorical hoops.
In the end, she dumped me. And I was never more relieved.
I made a play for the hottest girl in the place and, to my surprise, scored a date. But it was clear from the onset she wasn't the sharpest knife in the drawer. It was worth it for awhile. The physical stuff was fun. And having all the heads turn whenever we went somewhere was a great ego boost.
It didn't last long, though. We had zero in common and she knew could get any guy she wanted, so I was constantly jumping through metaphorical hoops.
In the end, she dumped me. And I was never more relieved.
I'm an intellectual through and through; so, no, I could not date/marry a 'bimbo'. I can make friends with people less intelligent or less educated than me, but I can't reach the level of intimacy with them that's required for dating. I just can't relate well enough and the common interest aspect takes a nose dive pretty quick since most of my activities are done from an intellectual perspective.
Yeah, it sounds kind of pompous, but it is what is. I need a balanced relationship with an equal.
Yeah, it sounds kind of pompous, but it is what is. I need a balanced relationship with an equal.
pretty much this.Frankster said:
it's such a broad and subjective way to say "bimbo", and when you add the second part (but she doesn't have any other negative qualities otherwise) then that becomes even more subjective in the eye of the beholder.
Intelligence is important to me, but that typically goes hand in hand with many other qualities I find endearing, so if she had nothing but great qualities besides having the intelligence of a 6th grader, I'd probably date her to be honest... being physically attracted to my partner is a big thing, otherwise they are just a best friend at that point, and not like I'm some alpha prick, but as long as I made the adult decisions (financial and such) then yeah, that'd probably be awesome to be honest, I'd have a video game/anime mate to have sex with in my free time, and I wouldn't have to worry about her cheating/lying/etc...
well that's the subjective part of this, the OP said bimbo but then he said that she doesn't have any negatives otherwise, so if you consider superficial a negative, then she wouldn't be that way.Cowabungaa said:
my grandpa was somewhat of an early tech guy, but his brain has certainly taken a turn for the worst in the past decade, so he *actively enjoys* listening to me talk about computer and technology stuff with him, but he almost always has the same questions every time I come over and just cannot for the life of him connect dots together for problems he has (full on, I have 20 sticky notes for detailed step by step instructions for him to follow when he wants to do something, and he still manages to mess that up sometimes). My point of that ramble was that some people physically can't follow/keep up, even if they do like something, and I'm assuming that *no negative qualities otherwise* would be similar to the example I just said.