Poll: Would you date/sleep with a person that has a Physical handicap ?

[krazykidd]

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Okay , i will adress someone the things you said. Firstly i am a firm believe in casual sex , no love or feeling needed, though you have the right to not like the thought or not indulge in it , you have no right to say that people shouldn't have sex if they aren't in love , you can choose not to , but other can choose to if they like. Secondly love and sex are two things and don't forcefully include the other . Meaning a person can have sex without love AND a person can love without having sex , they dont ncessarily need to go together . Thirdly my question wasn't just about sex , if you read the title or my opening post , i said date , for people like you who are against loveless sex. And said sleep with for people who doesn't mind hooking up wih people .

About your argument about 250 pound women , there are guys , believe it or not that like big women . Beauty is in the eye of the beholder , the way you make it look in your post is they , disabled people are disgusting and fat people are disgusting and choosing between the two is like choosing the less of two evils , like which one is less disgusting , which is very offensive. Never in my post did a belittle the beauty of a disabled person.

My question was merely to find out if , a person being disables would be a major turnoff for people or if it didn't matter . I meant no ill will .

 

[krazykidd]

Not everyone is closed minded. And BTW, what would you if our partner of 20 years would suddenly become disabled? How would you feel if you did?

I've dated a blind girl. It really didn't make much different in the relationship or in bed.

I also dated a girl in a wheelchair. The chair made things more difficult getting around, but otherwise didn't cause relationship or sex problems (although the sex was modified somewhat to be M dom positions only)

If you read the original post , i clearly said you had to meet the person after they were disabled , for certain if i was with my partner for quite some time i wouldn't leave her ( nor could i even if i wanted to because that would make me look like a heartless bastard). But in all honesty , if i was to one day have an accident and end up disabled i would end it . I would not want to be a burden on her.

 

[Danglybits]

If I'm into them and they are willing to be patient with me learning how they would like to be touched. Same with transpersons. I don't think its too unreasonable since I expect to listen to what I like as well. Sexuality isn't a 'one size fits all' kind of thing so there are going to be some questions and mistakes.

 

[Dreiko_v1legacy]

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Okay , i will adress someone the things you said. Firstly i am a firm believe in casual sex , no love or feeling needed, though you have the right to not like the thought or not indulge in it , you have no right to say that people shouldn't have sex if they aren't in love , you can choose not to , but other can choose to if they like. Secondly love and sex are two things and don't forcefully include the other . Meaning a person can have sex without love AND a person can love without having sex , they dont ncessarily need to go together . Thirdly my question wasn't just about sex , if you read the title or my opening post , i said date , for people like you who are against loveless sex. And said sleep with for people who doesn't mind hooking up wih people .

About your argument about 250 pound women , there are guys , believe it or not that like big women . Beauty is in the eye of the beholder , the way you make it look in your post is they , disabled people are disgusting and fat people are disgusting and choosing between the two is like choosing the less of two evils , like which one is less disgusting , which is very offensive. Never in my post did a belittle the beauty of a disabled person.

My question was merely to find out if , a person being disables would be a major turnoff for people or if it didn't matter . I meant no ill will .

You didn't address the issue of casual sex being pretty much elaborate masturbation though, which was my main point against it. Simply put, due to it being that, I don't find it worth the trouble, risks and emotional numbness it entails, those are the topics you should focus on if you wish to defend casual sex.


You seem completely confused on your second point, I was describing what your question would lead to, I wasn't expressing my own views, in fact the part of the post talking about cattle should have shown you whether or not I agree with the other parts or not. It's not about beauty, it's about comparing imperfections.

On the matter of beauty, fetishes and normal attractiveness are two holly separate things. Just because someone may date someone else with a fetish for their specific configuration of features it may not necessarily mean that that person feels attractive themselves.

 

[Uber Evil]

It might be a bit shallow, but the only physical disability that wouldn't affect my choice would be blindness. Deaf or mute would impede communication too much, and missing limbs are something which I find unattractive and would make me feel uncomfortable.

 

[D-Ray]

Deaf: yes
Mute: yes
Blind: yes
Lost control of limb: yes
Lost ENTIRE limb: no

I can't see myself with someone who has lost their legs or arms. It creeps me out.
(being honest)

However, I'm attracted mostly to a person's personality and combatability with mine. Sure a pretty face is fine, but not only that. So, if the person is deaf, blind, or mute, it doesn't bother me.