Poll: You guys seem good at giving life advice so...

[Logiclul]

Gonna keep this short, I feel like a moron just for posting life questions like this (even generically) on a forum, but my real life friends are useless.

Basically what you need to know is that there are three girls of whom I "like" (yes, we are talking about high school). Two of them "like" me as well to where I could ask them out and they'd say yes.

However, the third girl is someone I recently met, and I think is more interesting than the other two girls, but I don't know her that well so obviously I wouldn't be asking her out for a while.

Another issue arises where I am not feeling like a dick because it is getting painfully obvious that the former girls like me but I don't want to go out with them, so I try not to acknowledge it while being nice. And now I feel like a dick just because of that and because asking someone else out would make them feel bad on some level.

Don't tell me what I should do, tell me what you would do given what you know. I see the first two girls every day, and the third girl less often, only every now and then, but that could change in the future.

 

[MorsePacific]

I dislike that everyone in high school assumes that "going out" instantly means going steady. Feel free to take the other two on dates and still see what happens with the third one. You don't have to make a commitment from the get-go. If you "like" them, then take them out and see what's up with that. You may be crushing on the other girl BECAUSE you don't know her.

Just sayin'.

 

[emeraldrafael]

SEXY BATTLE ROYALE!!!!

Three women enter, one woman leaves.

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oka, seriously, I wouldnt go of a girl because she interests you. It sounds like you're using her as a field study or something. And just cause she interests you doesnt mean youd like her once you found out what its like to be with her.

of course there's the old adage of nothing lost nothing gained. I'd suggest being her firend the way you are the former two and see what you think then.

Just remmeber the long you wait, the more chance A and B may not be there should C be the wrong answer to your problem.

 

[Kavic86]

Ok, so to sum it up two girls "like" you and you "like" a totally different girl you hardly know. Now, honestly here is what I would do. Talk to the two girls that like you and find out why they like you, and why they would want to date you if you went down that path. Girls and women in general have this thing they do, they can show interest in someone and even may seem like they are really into you but they think of you as a family member instead of a friend. Now if they tell me they "like" me "like" then i'd take them on a date or two, and I don't mean movie\dinner date you don't learn anything from people like that. Take them out somewhere type of date, like amusement parks type of stuff. If you can have fun with them then date them. But the first thing you have to ask your self is this... Do you "like" them. If you don't want to be with them or even date them then don't make it seem to them that you may ask them out if you never will.

As for the chick you barely know, I would ask her out for that very reason so I can have a chance to get to know her better and let my intentions known. That being I find her attractive and would like to go on a few dates to see if I also like your personality.

 

[Thaluikhain]

Asking randoms on the net generally isn't a great idea. Admittedly, there is a bias towards young males on the forum, but I'm not sure if that's a good thing in context anyway.

I would say, though, you're in high school, meaning whatever you decide, it's likely not going to be something you'll regret forever if you fuck it up. Just try to be a good person and do what seems right to you.

 

[cheese_wizington]

Not trying to look like an asshole, but there's an advice forum on The Escapist. They'd probably know better as they deal with this sort of thing on a day to day basis. Just trying to help.

As for the actual question really I have no experience with something like that.

 

[Just_A_Glitch]

I dislike that everyone in high school assumes that "going out" instantly means going steady. Feel free to take the other two on dates and still see what happens with the third one. You don't have to make a commitment from the get-go. If you "like" them, then take them out and see what's up with that. You may be crushing on the other girl BECAUSE you don't know her.
Just sayin'.

This, this, a thousand times this. One date or hangout or whatever you wacky kids call it these days does not automatically make the two of you a couple.

Take one of the girls out on a date. Spend some time with her and find out if you two mesh. Then repeat the cycle for the next girl. Find out if one of them suits your personality more. If one of them does, go with her.

And I'm going to agree with who I quoted again here. The new girl is just that: NEW. By all means, ask her out as well and find out if its an actual crush, or just something new.

 

[Logiclul]

I'm confused by this information from the OP. It sounds like you don't like the first two, but are afraid of the third one. Don't think too much into this, it's not like you are proposing for marriage!!

I like the first two as friends, if that clears it up.

Anyway, yes I should have looked at other forums I suppose, I just want input from people. My friends aren't very helpful when it comes to this specific case.

I know that dating in high school means nothing, its more the feelings of everyone who isn't me that I'm worried about. But I can't really date someone, break up with them a few days later, rinse, repeat. That can't be the right thing to do.

 

[Ixnay1111]

dont go for the new one. Pick the better of the two you already have. You're in high school, you aren't going to get married any time soon i hope. Just learn the game while you're young then you'll have the experience when you're older to know what you want.

 

[Phisi]

Depends on whether you like the third girl a lot or are merely infatuated with here because she interests you. Get to know here then decide but in the meantime there is no reason you can't go out with the other girls

 

[Logiclul]

Depends on whether you like the third girl a lot or are merely infatuated with here because she interests you. Get to know here then decide but in the meantime there is no reason you can't go out with the other girls

I don't really think she's that interested in me (we've hardly met), but I am the one that finds her very interesting.

Anyway, I think the general consensus has been to just ask one of them out and see how it goes, not what I was planning on doing, but perhaps what I will do.

 

[Alade]

I'd ask out the hottest of the three. But then again, I'm quite shallow. Maybe I could offer some better (hopefully sinister) advice, if I knew more details, but since I don't, that is all.

EDIT: Bleh, I actually do have some real advice. If you're interested in a long relationship, find out about their relationships with their fathers. If any of them seems completely normal but has medium-a lot daddy issues, she's a ticking time bomb.

 

[SwagLordYoloson]

Dude you sound too familiar, one of my friends is in the exact same situation..... Maybe its just common for teenagers and such... Wish some of that luck would come my way

But anyways, take my advice and 'trial' or what ever you wanna call it, all three of them, then ease the two you don't want to be your girlfriend, to mearly friends and then have sexy times with the one you do like.

(note I just realised how bad my English is :/)

 

[MorsePacific]

This, this, a thousand times this. One date or hangout or whatever you wacky kids call it these days does not automatically make the two of you a couple.

I hated having to pull the "old coot" card out, since I only just started university a month or so ago, but it's true. Nothing wrong with ACTUALLY getting to know someone before deciding you're ready for something long term.

I know that dating in high school means nothing, its more the feelings of everyone who isn't me that I'm worried about. But I can't really date someone, break up with them a few days later, rinse, repeat. That can't be the right thing to do.

Dating in high school means plenty. I'm still with my girlfriend from high school and I'd like to be for a long time in the future. It's just that putting all this effort into deciding who to "date" (as if that makes you mutually exclusive to them) is silly. Make your relationships mean something, but don't let media stereotypes push you into this "hey, we went on a date, we're going steady!" mindset that I see around so much. Make it clear to each of them that you want to get to know them and then see what happens.

 

[Seraph68]

I agree with everyone else, probably best not to get tied up with the new girl. Intrigue and charm will wear out as you get to know her and eventually she may become just as interesting and attractive as your current friends.

If I were in your shoes, I'd try to stay cool about it and be friends for now (not necessarily "friendzone"). go hang out with the three of them when ever possible, like take a group of friends to a movie, mini-golf, or just hang out somewhere. when I'd get some quiet time with one of the girls, I spend that time getting to know her, what she likes, dislikes, interests, hobbies, goals, etc. similar to that I would try to get to know myself better. for example, I don't like country music (which sucks because 95% of the girls I've met here in Arizona LOVE country music), so getting serious with a country music fan is difficult. also be clear on definitions, I dated a "Geek" once except that she was a "Theater/Biology geek" where I'm a "Videogame/Anime/Computers geek." be clear I'm not saying it needs to be an exact match but a compatible one. she also once told me she didn't like shooters, which happen to be my favorite.

One last thing, don't rely too much on your gut feeling, those are always shifting and may get you to do or say something you'll regret later. Trust me, I have said things to a girl I really wish I hadn't. Don't abandon it either, but if it is leading you to do something unreasonable and illogical, then step back and chill out until your head is on straight.

 

[Tselis]

Weeelllll, ...
If I were you, and I'm not, I would pursue the third person and keep the other two as friends. don't settle for someone because they're there, or are easy to get. Pursue someone you find genuinely interesting. Also, keeping friends of the opposite sex is never a bad idea. Finally, don't feel bad for the other two girls for two reasons. 1) They need to lead their own lives, you can't be responsible for them happiness. 2) High school is a good time to learn proper social interaction. What that means is that they will use this as a learning experience that they will be able to apply to later situations in life.
I'm not advocating being a dick to people around you, but I'm also not advocating pandering. Just look after yourself, and have fun.

 

[teisjm]

I'd probably just end up doing as i've done my whole life when it comes to girls, just roll with it, and whatever happens happens, so i'd probably just hook up with the first one, who made that kind of approach.
Or more depending on the situation (this is the over-thinking part) if i wanted a realtionship, i'd go for one of those already up for it, since i would think they wanted the same, if i just wanted to fool around, i'd go for whichever of the girls seemed to be up for that, despite the knowledge that it wasn't going to be a long-term thing, so you don't hurt any of them.