Poll: Your stance on monogamy?
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There's actually a whole bunch of biological imperatives that encourage monogamy in humans, particuarly making the male hang around once the kids have been born for the simple reason that offspring raised by 2 parents have (biologically speaking) a better chance of survival. things like Oxytocin, the "cuddle hormone" that is actually released during orgasm and cements strong bonds. And yeah, heaps of animals are monogamous!
Thank you. This is more or less precisely what I wanted to say.Zeromaeus said:
Only I am more of a no-woman/man sort of guy.
I believe that every couple decides what to do. If you are ok with your partner being polygamus, then ok, while the other parties involved also agree. If you start a normal relationship, monogamy is to be expected. In a certain fomr it is like a deal between the ones in a relation. Break it and suffer the consequences. You had them comming.
If you have ever experienced infidelity first hand and have seen what it does to the innocent party, I'm pretty sure you wouldn't cheat again.
Whether it is just because it feels right or you don't want to hurt someone is up to you.
If you want to fool around, then you don't belong in a relationship. Just break up with your partner first, then do whatever you what. It's not fair to them in the least.
Whether it is just because it feels right or you don't want to hurt someone is up to you.
If you want to fool around, then you don't belong in a relationship. Just break up with your partner first, then do whatever you what. It's not fair to them in the least.
I'm so Freudian, (or so says my psychology teacher almost every single class period), what can I say. Dah, now I want to talk about psychology, you silly!Scars Unseen said:
Well, that is why I said that a marriage SHOULD bring out the best in each other, but it is reality that that doesn't always happen. I've been blessed to have parents in which that is the case, and they have one of the best marriages I've ever seen, (not that they don't have their problems), but I know plenty of families, including family members, in which that did not happen, and all of them suffered for it. I was stating what should be, not what always is. I wish it was always the best, but people are flawed.
People gravitate to others that are themselves, regardless of gender. Many women are alike in enough attributes or likes to get along well and enjoy each others company, that they don't share with men, and the same is true for men. I myself have more in common with men, with my love of sharp pointy metal objects, fighting, guns, and sports, (stereotypically), though I like "womanly" things as well, like cooking, sewing, and gardening. One must also take into account that many women feel SAFER with other women, and usually men don't have to worry about being hit on by other men, (I think that may be changing, which if I was a guy, personally, would not please me. It'd be stressful.).
I could just say, "Because God said so!" and go "arrrgh" deep in my throat, but I don't think you'd think that a good answer.Tipsy Giant said:
This may seem kind of odd to some, and get several different tickets thrown at me, but I'll just go ahead and say it. Because humanity could not survive any other way. It makes sense.
I'll get the homosexuality card out of the way. You still needed a man and a woman to have the baby for a homosexual to adopt. I call this card circular reasoning. (Let's not get into adoption statistics. I actually heard a speech on that this morning, and I have to study for exams, [why I'm writing this in the first place, I dunno].)
There was this one man, (I can't remember his name for the life of me), who was on the program Demographic Winter. He is part of a big atheist think tank. Even he, who in no way was promoting Christianity, said that the only system that works and is sustainable, demographically speaking, is Christianity, the Christian worldview. Christianity mandates one man and one woman coming together to make a stable home environment for mutual support and the raising of a family.
Even if you don't believe a jot of what I'm saying, this website, http://www.demographicwinter.com/index.html , is still pretty interesting regardless. I thought it was, anyway.
So, basically, because everything leads me to believe that one man and one woman in a monogamous, (and hopefully harmonious), marriage is the ideal, and dare I say, the only thing that works.
Actually, the entire population of the PLANET can fit into a single county in Florida. There's plenty of room. It's how we're managing the earth that's the problem. Ethiopia alone could feed all of Africa, but the government is horrendous, so it's not being put to good use.crudus said:
And the population rates since the mid 1970's have been below sustainable levels. In Europe, formerly bustling schools are having to be shut down in droves because there are no kids for them. No, the probably isn't inflation, as an economist would said, but deflation.
I see no problem with polygamy as long as neither party are harmed by it. I for one prefer being monogamous, and I would expect my girlfriend to be the same, but a polygamous relationship with the complete happiness of all parties is alright in my book.
I'm the kinda person that can only make one strong bond at a time. And to be truthful I don't think that I could handle more than one person.
I'd say it's ultimately preferable, purely because it tends to work. I get that monogamy is not everybody's thing, but I'd say things like jealousy and other people tend to complicate and threaten relationships, wouldn't you?
Besides that, monogamy and commitment is a safe sexual behaviour. We do live in a world where STDs are fairly prevalent. You want to have full disclosure about what your partner does with their body.
For me, I can only be with one person. That's just my nature. I don't need more people. Frankly, it's hard enough to find one person I gel with enough to get to that place with. I'm not a people person; I don't need that extra complication in my life for the sake of adventure or whatever. But it wouldn't bother me if my partner wanted to be free to see other people, as long as they were honest about it. I'm not jealous. I get that everybody has their own thing, and I'm not going to judge people and tell them what to do with their life.
Besides that, monogamy and commitment is a safe sexual behaviour. We do live in a world where STDs are fairly prevalent. You want to have full disclosure about what your partner does with their body.
For me, I can only be with one person. That's just my nature. I don't need more people. Frankly, it's hard enough to find one person I gel with enough to get to that place with. I'm not a people person; I don't need that extra complication in my life for the sake of adventure or whatever. But it wouldn't bother me if my partner wanted to be free to see other people, as long as they were honest about it. I'm not jealous. I get that everybody has their own thing, and I'm not going to judge people and tell them what to do with their life.
I don't think it's right or wrong, but it's a hell of a lot less complicated with people's tendencies to get jealous.
Have as many partners as you want so long as it isn't forced, I say
Have as many partners as you want so long as it isn't forced, I say