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Listen, things change ALL the time phases come and go constantly and you do live three hours away from school so I wouldn't worry about it.
ive become more anti-social too. part of it is that my friends now live far away and i dont have a car, but i think a bigger part of it is that all my real friends graduated and everyone whos left are more people i hang out with at school but are not good enough friends that i would invite them over or hang out outside of work or schoolMaster Steeds said:
You're not a douche (why would you think that anyway?) but I wouldn't really call it a phase either. Due to your situation you're playing on your xbox a lot more, not really a problem.
Seriously, this. If your friends don't understand that you're tired from taking multiple buses to and from college, they're not really fitting the definition of "friends", are they? If they were really your friends, they should at least consider hanging out at your place to play XBox with you. You shouldn't have to remind them that you're not made of money or control time.AssassinJoe said:
Dude I was TOTALLY like this at University. I lived far away, and I had to be up really early to get in for 9am since it was about 1 1/2 hours from home to campus. I couldn't go out at night as I couldn't get home, and as a result I wasn't really "friends" with anyone. 3 years and I went there in the morning and came home in the evening. Once lectures were done I went home.Master Steeds said:
All my friends from nearby had moved away and as such I am in the state I am in now. Alone with basically no one. I'm making new friends now since I finished Uni a few months back.
That whole "Student Lifestyle" experience with going out to bars and clubs with your friends? Nope. Basically I couldn't afford to move out of my parents house, and it wasn't too hard or expensive to get there and back each day.
None of that really bothered me since I'm not that kind of a person (I can't stand clubs and bars), but when I look back I get the feeling I missed out on something.
On the other hand if I went back in time and did things differently chances are I'd be just as broke and miserable as I am now, only with thousands of pounds more debt, and memories of awful nightclubs forcing myself to look like I'm having fun.
EDIT: Woah. I just read that back to myself. Sorry for that it's 2am, and I have had an AWFUL day at work (let's just say it was 12 hours long and ended with me cleaning explosive diarrhoea out of a bathroom stall at 10pm).
Look. If you're not comfortable with it then see what you can to improve the situation. Maybe find a way to have a few nights out without going home first, or having a pit stop at a friend's house. That way you don't have the rigmarole of travelling which is what really put me off going back to the city for a night out.
Either way don't sweat about it.
I've always been somewhat unsociable, which is something I don't see the slightest problem with. It hits me in phases sometimes, so you should be fine. If it really does concern you, think things over. Maybe there's a reason for that lack of motivation to go out.
Being a loner doesn't make you a 'douche'. Besides, they can't fault someone with that shitty of transit for preferring to stay home alone rather than going out and being surrounded by people.
I too find it difficult to meet up with friends now, pretty much the only friends I have now are the people I work with. We work 12 or 13 hours a day, 6 days a week, so our social times are a bit awkward for your 9 to 5 bunch. And by the time we finish work, everyone else has gone to sleep! That, or you're just too tired to go out.
Bottom line for me, there's nothing better than just going home after a long day's work and just unwind with some games.
Bottom line for me, there's nothing better than just going home after a long day's work and just unwind with some games.
It's possible that you may become a douche, but as long as some things end up working smoothly and you get used to your situation, you may yet become more comfortable.
I'm kind of the same way. I picked too many classes this semester, and I spend most of my time not in class either working, napping (I have to nap because my schedule is crazy), eating, etc. I've been out with friends a couple of times, but I can just never find appropriate times any more, especially after labs started up.
My solution is to be a real facebook creep. I have all of these friends on my FB, and since I can hardly ever see them in person I make sure that I always make witty comments on things that they post, so that they know I still exist.
I'm kind of the same way. I picked too many classes this semester, and I spend most of my time not in class either working, napping (I have to nap because my schedule is crazy), eating, etc. I've been out with friends a couple of times, but I can just never find appropriate times any more, especially after labs started up.
My solution is to be a real facebook creep. I have all of these friends on my FB, and since I can hardly ever see them in person I make sure that I always make witty comments on things that they post, so that they know I still exist.
I started not having the time to see my friends and going out when I was a full student. So I lowered down to part time. It's great I have much more time and I'm starting to use it to go out and stuff. I felt slack going part time but for my sanity Im not looking back.
What's the problem?
Some people like people. Others like themselves and to stick to themselves.
I'm very antisocial, have no friends and live inside my head. I'm perfectly fine.
There's nothing wrong with you and there's no reason as to why you should change.
I am fine.
Some people like people. Others like themselves and to stick to themselves.
I'm very antisocial, have no friends and live inside my head. I'm perfectly fine.
There's nothing wrong with you and there's no reason as to why you should change.
I am fine.