Alright since my previous post about relationships got a couple hundred views shy of 5000 and a round 600 votes on it, I'm assuming at least some people will recognize my name from that. So basically today I was skyping with my girlfriend who I have been in a long distance (NYC & Suburb of DC) relationship with for about 4 months. During our skype video call she seemed slightly distracted at times, and when I say that I mean at some times she would be like looking at the computer screen and just kind of mindlessly responding to what I was saying for a few seconds. She was obviously messaging someone on facebook, and she even told me she was.
Basically she is doing a college class at UMD for 3 weeks and she is actually staying at the dorms with a roommate etc. So here is where I turn into a terrible boyfriend. After she signs off I go on her facebook page to just like make sure she wasn't talking to some guy she just met about like meeting in some secret places to have more than just friend's relationships. I am truly in love with this girl which may sound naive at 17 but our connection I feel is very deep, and I truly believe she feels the same as me. When she says she loves me I believe her.
So I'm looking at this conversation and some things are said by her like little joking sexual things such as "yeah im hyper...in my pants", but then she would always say "harhar i make funny joke" or something to that affect. Now sexual jokes are her sense of humor, and she has always told me she connected with guys as friends better than girls mostly. Next the guy basically says "so do you guys want to come visit our room for a little bit" and my girlfriend says no, but then says "oh but we haven't seen your room". This obviously implies she had the guy she was talking to and some other friends she's told me about in her room. Now I'm positive this was just a time where they needed somewhere that wasn't 97º to hang out.
Next she says "oh you're just jealous i mean more to joey than you ;P" with the winky face that made me nervous just because again that implies something. Joey is referring to yet another friend she has just met at this course.
Basically I'm looking for advice on how I should be reacting to this situation and how I should go about solving it. I truly love this girl and I absolutely trust her and I'm sure nothing is going on and she's just being herself, but I still can't help but worry. I am probably going to call her about this tomorrow, not to say "oh don't talk to these people anymore" but to basically keep our promise to be honest to each other and to tell her what I was doing and that I actually feel terrible about it. Anyone have any different advice?
(Yes I am fully aware I am going to get the comments of "Oh well this forum isn't exactly the best place for relationship advice now is it?", so please just try to avoid those)
I really appreciate any help I get on this matter.
Basically she is doing a college class at UMD for 3 weeks and she is actually staying at the dorms with a roommate etc. So here is where I turn into a terrible boyfriend. After she signs off I go on her facebook page to just like make sure she wasn't talking to some guy she just met about like meeting in some secret places to have more than just friend's relationships. I am truly in love with this girl which may sound naive at 17 but our connection I feel is very deep, and I truly believe she feels the same as me. When she says she loves me I believe her.
So I'm looking at this conversation and some things are said by her like little joking sexual things such as "yeah im hyper...in my pants", but then she would always say "harhar i make funny joke" or something to that affect. Now sexual jokes are her sense of humor, and she has always told me she connected with guys as friends better than girls mostly. Next the guy basically says "so do you guys want to come visit our room for a little bit" and my girlfriend says no, but then says "oh but we haven't seen your room". This obviously implies she had the guy she was talking to and some other friends she's told me about in her room. Now I'm positive this was just a time where they needed somewhere that wasn't 97º to hang out.
Next she says "oh you're just jealous i mean more to joey than you ;P" with the winky face that made me nervous just because again that implies something. Joey is referring to yet another friend she has just met at this course.
Basically I'm looking for advice on how I should be reacting to this situation and how I should go about solving it. I truly love this girl and I absolutely trust her and I'm sure nothing is going on and she's just being herself, but I still can't help but worry. I am probably going to call her about this tomorrow, not to say "oh don't talk to these people anymore" but to basically keep our promise to be honest to each other and to tell her what I was doing and that I actually feel terrible about it. Anyone have any different advice?
(Yes I am fully aware I am going to get the comments of "Oh well this forum isn't exactly the best place for relationship advice now is it?", so please just try to avoid those)
I really appreciate any help I get on this matter.