Possibly the first of these threads in a long time

[WickedSkin]

Your lady is avoiding you because you're being a big ol' creepy fuck and she doesn't know how to let you down lightly. She does not like you at all, and the fact that you're so clearly infatuated with her when nothing has ever happened between you is not only very unattractive, it's unsettling - she's being lavished with attention that she wants nothing to do with.

This sounds harsh, but it needs to be said: nothing will ever, ever happen between you two. She's just not interested. Maybe she would have been before you got so emotionally invested in her, but it's too late for that. What you need to do is take her ignoring you as a blessing, cut her out of your life as much as you can, and move on, having learned a lesson.

I will quote this for truth.

 

[Joe_Fitzsimmons]

Think you should man up, confront her and ask for a straight answer rather than dancing around the subject.

What've you got to lose that's important?

is right man, just straight up ask her on a date if she says yes, your sorted, if she says no fuck her, shes not worth your time or thoughts, move on, meet another girl

 

[D0WNT0WN]

You know I have the (well I wouldnt call it a talent) ability to move between groups of friends really easily. It is not commitment issues you just became infatuated with her when nothing has ever happened between the 2 of you. Bottom line it is damn creepy but dont worry it has happened to all of us so the best thing you can do is move on, delete her from MSN and learn you lesson.

Being Idolized is very creepy so dont do it to someone who doesnt have feelings for you.

 

[Neonbob]

This thread will be more helpful for you.

And for anyone else thinking of making a relationship thread?
Don't.
We've had our monthly fill.

And Duke?
Sorry if it feels like I'm shitting on your head.
I understand you aren't at your best right now, but so many of these threads could have been avoided if you'd searched a bit.
Okay, now that the idealist in me is out of the way...
Just go tell this to BonsaiK.
He'll give you much better advice than 98% of the forum members here.

Okay, seriously, we've had this argument before. It's not at all helpful to be presented with other people's problems as a stop-gap solution to your own. If I have some turmoil going on, I don't just want a link to a previous thread of other people's discussions on somewhat similar problems, I want actual answers from people who thought about mine.

And that thread is not made to read for similar cases.
From what I understand, we have a member of the Escapist who is qualified to give decent advice on this kind of thing.
He made that thread so that people would stop making tons of relationship issue threads.

If you don't like reading relationship threads don't read them. If all you can contribute to the discussion is "we've already had relationship discussions, and someone probably had a similar question before, so use the search bar". That's just petulant.

If that's how you see my little blurb, so be it.
But again, I'm not saying that he needs to look for similar circumstances.

 

[US Crash Fire]

Back off! If you come on too strong with it your only going to get yourself in trouble and hurt yourself more. Now that she knows how you feel, ball is in her court now. Its not your move. and if you want proof that she is avoiding you and doesn't want to be close, then don't talk to her. Wait for her to contact you. If she doesn't after a week or two, move on because she doesn't feel the same.

 

[WickedSkin]

Your lady is avoiding you because you're being a big ol' creepy fuck and she doesn't know how to let you down lightly. She does not like you at all, and the fact that you're so clearly infatuated with her when nothing has ever happened between you is not only very unattractive, it's unsettling - she's being lavished with attention that she wants nothing to do with.

This sounds harsh, but it needs to be said: nothing will ever, ever happen between you two. She's just not interested. Maybe she would have been before you got so emotionally invested in her, but it's too late for that. What you need to do is take her ignoring you as a blessing, cut her out of your life as much as you can, and move on, having learned a lesson.

I will quote this for truth.

 

[BonsaiK]

Your lady is avoiding you because you're being a big ol' creepy fuck and she doesn't know how to let you down lightly. She does not like you at all, and the fact that you're so clearly infatuated with her when nothing has ever happened between you is not only very unattractive, it's unsettling - she's being lavished with attention that she wants nothing to do with.

This sounds harsh, but it needs to be said: nothing will ever, ever happen between you two. She's just not interested. Maybe she would have been before you got so emotionally invested in her, but it's too late for that. What you need to do is take her ignoring you as a blessing, cut her out of your life as much as you can, and move on, having learned a lesson.

This is pretty much the "raw, no sugar" version of what I said in my thread. I agree with this person.

 

[Seldon2639]

~snip~

*nods* I did understand your post, and even what BonsaiK seeks to do with his thread (though, as he has said, he put it up as an option not the be all and end all of relationship threads). If I sounded a bit strident, I apologize.

No, this isn;t the first of these threads in awhile, these are a dime a dozen on the Escapist, unfortunately.

I am assuming you are still in school if you are asking for relationship advice. Follow her around everywhere she goes, and always try and talk to her, then she will know you are a keeper.

Dude, don't be a troll. Or, if you're going to be a troll, you need to get in on the ground floor. If you wait until other people have given good advice, giving silly advice doesn't have the same kind of impact.

 

[teisjm]

If she doesn't like people getting close to her the she doesn't like people getting close to her.
You can't change that (nor should you try to change her as to fit your needs)

Get over her, it's easier than it sounds.

 

[Neonbob]

~snip~

*nods* I did understand your post, and even what BonsaiK seeks to do with his thread (though, as he has said, he put it up as an option not the be all and end all of relationship threads). If I sounded a bit strident, I apologize.

It's all good.
I'll try to explain my reasoning for the original post in your other thread.

 

[Worgen]

do the moonwalk

 

[GrinningManiac]

do the moonwalk

Yea.........wh...th....

Sorry, I'm hypnotised by your avatar. If anyone reads this, look up Worgen now and find his avatar...just, so....I cannot stop giggling...


But yeah

OT: What is WITH these threads? Is there a kind of libido-disease going around, or is this every autumn and I don't notice

I had the same problem, even asked her out in Belgium (CHRIST was that awkward). In my experiences, it later turns out to be teenage infatuation. Seriously, when you look back in a few years, you'll realise it was just a minor crush, but it seemed huge at the time

 

[Amnestic]

Think you should man up, confront her and ask for a straight answer rather than dancing around the subject.

What've you got to lose that's important?

Maybe his pride? Not that I would know, I think its worthless.

He gets rejected, he gets over it. Live goes on. He's not going to lose his pride (assuming he has any. The fact that he's asking a video game internet forum for relationship advice says that perhaps he doesn't.), it'll just hit it for a while (maybe a day at most) and then if he took my advice he'll do the aforementioned manning up and move on to someone/thing else.

Your lady is avoiding you because you're being a big ol' creepy fuck and she doesn't know how to let you down lightly. She does not like you at all, and the fact that you're so clearly infatuated with her when nothing has ever happened between you is not only very unattractive, it's unsettling - she's being lavished with attention that she wants nothing to do with.

This sounds harsh, but it needs to be said: nothing will ever, ever happen between you two. She's just not interested. Maybe she would have been before you got so emotionally invested in her, but it's too late for that. What you need to do is take her ignoring you as a blessing, cut her out of your life as much as you can, and move on, having learned a lesson.

This guy? You should listen to him. He knows what he's talking about.