Problems you have had to face because of your gender

[MHR]

Well lets seeeee. Um... nah, it's pretty great to be a white guy over here. Well, people keep commenting on what long nails I have for being a guy, but I tell them that's all the better to scratch my balls with, my dear. Whatever problems I have, I know they'd be worse if I was a minority or a woman.

I've never ever even been kicked in the balls. I've got the long end of the stick here... but, um... a short stick so, can't win em all, eh? Man, this has been a fairly uplifting thread for me

[sub]Not to mean that it's good yall's havin' problems.[/sub]

Wait, didn't we just have this same thread a month ago? I'm checking the timestamps like 5 times. I'm going through some deja'vu here cuz I think a couple of you even copypastad your responses lol.

 

[Something Amyss]

There is an advantage to being small in martial arts. (Don't get me wrong, there's certainly also an advantage to being large). Small people though, are harder to hit in a competition setting, and in grappling they're harder to grab and keep hold of.

Yeah, it's a lot harder to do several of the techniques on someone significantly smaller.

Of course, there was the flip side where small people generally can't even get their hands around my wrists.

The down side to that is I never properly learned a couple of techniques. Hakko dori (spelling might be off) is something I simply never got the technique for. I don't particularly anticipate needing it, but....

As far as holding back, It may be hard to overcome that thought process, but in a setting where a real attacker tries to grab you, they certainly won't go easy.

This was probably aimed at Zukhov, but I don't like to hit people at all. Even people who are threatening me. I mean, I will. I have before. But I'm not a fan. Doesn't matter if it's a five nothing girl in rehearsal or some Mark Henry looking asshole charging me. It's one of the reasons I was drawn to Aikido and Jujutsu. They allow me to better control a confrontation on a level I'm psychologically comfortable with.

I did take some Karate courses at Sensei's recommendation, but I was always uncomfortable with 'em.

I've actually felt bad for striking someone who came at me with a knife. I'm not joking.

 

[Lieju]

I did take some Karate courses at Sensei's recommendation, but I was always uncomfortable with 'em.

I've actually felt bad for striking someone who came at me with a knife. I'm not joking.

I dislike hitting and being hit as well. Or grabbed/grabbing people for that matter.
So my martial arts of choice is fencing. It can hurt, but for some reason I'm not bothered by that the same way I'm bothered by something like karate.

And I don't have a problem poking people with sharp objects.

 

[Lieju]

And I don't have a problem poking people with sharp objects.

bow chicka bow wow

I'll just leave this site forever now...

Different folks and different strokes and all that.
Not gonna judge your knitting fetish or anything.

 

[Sigmund Av Volsung]

Getting called a ****** for having long hair/not liking football/not being athletic/being good at school.

Those years were fun(!)

Also getting called a coward by my brother and mother because I prefer to get away from dangerous(or conflicts in general) situations instead of 'resolving them'(through force, if you know what I mean >.>). Those were usually followed by trying to make me feel ashamed by calling me not a true man and shit like that.

 

[Sleepy Sol]

I honestly can't say I've personally experienced problems due to my gender. Have gotten problems from how I look, but those definitely aren't really the same.

I was harassed by a woman once walking around my uni's campus while talking on my phone. Complete stranger hugging me and making me extremely uncomfortable. But I think that comes from being both short/nerdy rather than anything gender-based. Maybe very vaguely gender-based if at all.

 

[sky14kemea]

As one of the only females in my social circles (or mostly one of the only females who's online often) I'm always singled out when someone needs a "girls opinion."

Because I have female genitals that means I know all the secrets of the female mind. We are all one and the same, right?

It annoys me because I'm not feminine at all. I'm gender-fluid and at best the girliest I'll ever get is wearing a dress for a fancy occasion, because the last time I tried to wear a shirt and waistcoat I got called a dyke and had people giving me weird looks all night. (Not by my friends, I feel I have to point it out. But random strangers yelling insults at me is enough to put me off wearing what I want.)

Also another one is being asked out by friends. This doesn't happen as often anymore but there was a time when nearly every one of my male friends on skype had tried to ask me out at some point. It makes me feel like I'm only asked out because I'm online enough and have a vagina. I don't want to be "that chick who's single, so hey, why not?" I just want to be one of the guys. Or even just seen as neutral. I'd take that over being treated like the last resort for those who have nothing to lose.

 

[Weaver]

I'm not supposed to like cute things.
But I fucking love cute things. Fuck the haters, I'm buying one of those alpacas that the gothic lolita japanese fashion girls are into.

 

[Aerevolt]

They also ask me when I'm going to get married and have kids. I don't know when I'm gonna get married, the guy I'm currently seeing has made no mention of it. And as for kids, I tell my coworkers all the time that I'm not interested. And they press me on it like it's what I'm supposed to do.

All humans are expected to reproduce. In terms of biology, that is the sole reason we exist. Some people just don't want to have children and people that have had children or are planning to just can't get past the idea. Myself, i don't care for children, nor would i want any in the future. We also don't need more humans on this planet to destroy it faster.

More specifically, "all women wan't babies". Is the comment that upsets me the most, whenjoy we get into this conversation. I can't stand to be around babies and I don't think kids are really interesting until they're old enough to hold a conversation.
But yeah, gender stereotypes really puss me off.

 

[Areloch]

The experience for me that springs to mind was the only car crash I've been in(where I was driving, anyways).

I was the third car stopped at a light, light went green but no one moved ( apparently due to the front car having people arguing over something, I found out later ), so we're stopped at a green light.

A girl proceeded to ram into my van at 45 mph - apparently she saw the green light and decided to not need to pay attention beyond that.

So I was rear-ended, and pushed into the SUV in front of me.

No one was really hurt, but obviously the police need to take statements. So when the police arrived, both were women. As was the girl that hit me, the lady I was pushed into, and the 2 girls that were having their argument at the stop light.

I was the only guy there. So it went that I was told to stand off to the side, the police talked to everyone but me, and in the end gave me a ticket. I don't know that the girl that hit me was charged with anything. She may have, but I do know she was apparently driving without her license at the time.

Since they didn't even ask for a statement from me, and I hadn't actually done anything wrong, we challenged it in traffic court. I talked to the lady I got pushed into and her story matched up with mine, so we went to the court date, where the officers decided to drop the charges against me because it was obviously wrong. I didn't even have to make a statement or anything.

So yeah, not a big deal, but it was pretty obvious I was singled out in that situation because I was the only guy there.

 

[Spacemonkey430]

I can't bring myself to go to the gym anymore because I'm a guy and can't lift very much. I also don't have a lot of experience at 19 (*gasp* why weren't you starting weight training at age 12?). So even though I like exercising and lifting weights, I rarely do anymore because of all the judgement I get. Sad days. My life sucks. blah blah blah.

 

[Skatologist]

Not too many big problems on my end. As for gender, I'm probably one of those weird, overly complicated ones you see on Tumblr, but I'm still generally okay being treated as a cishet male.

I'm about average in terms of height, 5 foot 9 inches, but I'm like REALLY thin, about 100 pounds. Every person I come across makes this apparent to me to gain weight to be more of a man or whatever. It's not the "not healthy" aspect, it's the gain muscle side.

I mostly keep to myself, so people think I'm up to nefarious purposes when online, mostly sexual. It's definitely not like that.

I'm kind of expected to view women in this kind of weird way by a lot of people as this "other", but I never really got it, I don't think I understand either of the 2 genders that well, despite being treated like one.

I'm still supposed to like violence, generally don't, like, at all.

I'm still afraid to go out in a dress and not get the crap beaten out of me.

I'm sure there are other things, but I guess they'll have to come to mind as I think about them.

 

[Guy_of_wonder]

I can't bring myself to go to the gym anymore because I'm a guy and can't lift very much. I also don't have a lot of experience at 19 (*gasp* why weren't you starting weight training at age 12?). So even though I like exercising and lifting weights, I rarely do anymore because of all the judgement I get. Sad days. My life sucks. blah blah blah.

I have found that if you really want to improve your body health and you enjoy working out, you need to stop caring about anything anyone may or may not be thinking about you. Go to the gym for yourself because you want to and damn anyone that stands in your way. It may not be easy sometimes, but you have to ignore these people and focus on yourself. Do whatever you need to to get into that state of mind.

Even then, not all people at gyms are assholes. Some people would be happy to help others learn how to work out correctly. If at last resort, you can always use the internet to learn techniques correctly.

When I really started working out around 2 years ago and I could barely bench press 85lbs and now i can bench press 185lbs.

Don't stop just because some asshole made fun of you or you feel self-conscious about not being to lift really heavy weight, work out and get better. Just think positive and keep going.

 

[sageoftruth]

Being male and trying to ride a bicycle without very thick bike shorts. The pain doesn't go away for quite some time.

 

[sageoftruth]

I'm not supposed to like cute things.
But I fucking love cute things. Fuck the haters, I'm buying one of those alpacas that the gothic lolita japanese fashion girls are into.

Kanji Tatsumi? Is that you?

 

[Weaver]

I'm not supposed to like cute things.
But I fucking love cute things. Fuck the haters, I'm buying one of those alpacas that the gothic lolita japanese fashion girls are into.

Kanji Tatsumi? Is that you?

No, I'm just a lone man with a dream of owning a cute alpaca stuffed animal.