Psycho family members

[TheRightToArmBears]

Eh, my family is pretty tame, if a little quirky (my dad's family are a bit nutty religious- 'there are no dinosaurs because they didn't make it onto the ark', one of his brothers has a hook because they made explosives once).

That said, one of my uncles on my mum's side is pretty well disliked by everyone. Basically, he had a massive midlife crisis, cheated on his wife (who is a ridiculously nice person, my mum is still good friends with her), started acting weirdly (wasting loads of money on expensive clothes, making new friends) and eventually left his wife for this woman when she confronted him about a text. Originally he didn't invite my mum to his second wedding (because she still talks to his ex-wife), but my nan made him. Apparently everyone there was under the illusion he used to be in the military and other such lies. What really pisses me off is what it's done to my cousins- they're a few years younger than me and the boy and my uncle were very close, and now they don't see him too often.

So no, not exactly psycho, just a near dictionary-definition of pathetic.

Actually, my grandad on my mum's side suffered from dementia pretty badly in the year or so before he died. I never actually saw him in that time, but it sounded horrible- Imagine if your father or your husband of over 50 years didn't recognize you?

 

[Neonbob]

kersnip

Please do yourself a favor and move out of that house. You probably don't realize but he has you wrapped ALL up in his business. I have personal experience with this kind of thing and the only thing you can do is cut the person out until they change their worst behaviors. That means moving out and not being a part of his bullshit. I know times are tough and we don't always have the financial freedom to do everything we want to but please, do something, work more hours, get a higher paying job, get roommates, anything to get out of that terrible situation.

You will feel so free afterwards. You will let go of stress you didn't even realize you were carrying with you, 24/7, no matter what. It can be scary but think about it, make a plan, then execute. You'll thank yourself.

We are working on getting the hell out of there, but it's going to be a month at the least before we have enough of a deposit saved up to get an apartment. So now it's just a matter of getting through the days.
Thanks for the encouragement, though!

 

[Vicarious Reality]

Reading this thread makes me realize how amazingly lucky i am to only have a mildly alcoholic cranky dad or lazy weird mom that rudely speaks behind peoples back that offend her in any way and has nearly no manners