Public Displays of Affection

[BlueFishie]

Small things are fine to me, like holding hands or little kisses or something. I find more than that a little bit annoying.

...And in my world PDA means "Personal Digital Assistant"...

 

[ZydrateDealer]

What right do I have to complain. If I object I shan't perv on them like a creepy bitter weirdo. As it goes I couldn't give a tiny rats arse about what other people do unless it directly effects me or harms the world.

 

[Craorach]

Minor physical contact and the odd kiss is fine as far as I'm concerned, so long as it's tasteful.

I've been married for six years, we get people commenting that we seem like newly weds because we hold hands everywhere, or lock arms, or walk with our arms around one another's waists. We share the odd kiss, especially if we're going our separate ways for one reason or another.

We try not to upset people however... except that one incident with a bi female friend of ours when we all decided to shock some church folk who were being obnoxious >.>

Tasteful affection is fine, crawling all over one another.. get a room.

 

[aei_haruko]

Earlier today there was a conversation on Facebook between two female friends of mine on public displays of affection (PDAs). At first girl number one was complaining about seeing a young couple holding hands and how bitter she was over it, she meant it as a joke initially.

Then girl number two responded more seriously stating that she was "massively anti-PDAs" and that "if people are all over each other in public I will ask them to stop" but her idea of being "all over each other" also included hand-holding. It then descending into an all out ***** about couples in general.

So, how does The Escapist feel about public displays of affection? Should a couple's intimacy be hidden in public and does that extend to hand-holding? Are you entitled to ask/tell a couple to stop showing their affection in public simply because it bothers you?


Personally, I'm not a huge fan of anything beyond hand-holding and maybe a hello/goodbye peck in public within my own relationship, I like to keep most of our intimacy private. Sometimes couples who are too... hand-sy in public makes me cringe but I'd never actually ask them to stop. Each couple obviously has their own preferences but sometimes too much can come across as though they have something to prove.

Well... considering that I have a long distance realationship, I'm all for it, because it's kinda the only affection we can give physically

 

[New Frontiersman]

Public displays of affection annoy me, even just holding hands, especially holding hands actually. It all just bugs me. Something about seeing too people get even slightly intimate just really bothers me.

 

[IamQ]

I never care. It's not like I am affected by them hugging, kissing or making out. I don't go all: "I saw a couple making out yesterday, didn't like it at all, and today when I woke up, I had leprosy. "

 

[xXBanisherXx]

If it doesn't violate a "decency law" then I don't wanna watch. Ramp it up to second base at least, ya prudes!

And this is why you will never be getting to actually experience any of it.

Public displays of affection annoy me, even just holding hands, especially holding hands actually. It all just bugs me. Something about seeing too people get even slightly intimate just really bothers me.

How is holding hands intimate? It's just saying they're together and showing they care about each other.

My opinion on it (being a virgin):

Hand holding; fine.
Hugging; fine.
Kissing; depends how much. Anything lasing longer than 3 seconds is too much.
Anything more; get a room.

 

[Salad Is Murder]

This is the best PDA out there. You little boys might want to keep this song in mind as a handy tool to keep around, if you know what I mean. If you don't know...eh, give it a few years. -Salad out

 

[Amberella]

I show my fiancé public displays of affection when we're out and about. I just can't help it, and when other couples do it it doesn't bother me. I've only witnessed kissing and nothing beyond that. I'm also addicted to showing my love affection overall, so yeah, it doesn't bother me. Lol.

 

[Mad1Cow]

Holding hands is fine, in fact, it tells me the woman is clearly taken. What I do object to is the face sucking, thing for ages in a completely public place...or more importantly, in my vision that I can't look away from (one such scenario, in the cinema, so I either don't see the film or watch it with two people directly in front of me having a face sucking contest).

I reckon the things I don't like in public are displays of erotic affection. The all-out, french-kiss, snog, I deem a display of erotic affection. The hug, I deem emotional. Erotic affection is fine behind closed doors, emotional is fine anywhere. It basically boils down to that for me...

 

[Sandernista]

If it doesn't violate decency laws, it doesn't bother me. If I don't want to see it, I can always stop looking.

This exactly.

If it's bothering you, just look the other way.

(Me and my girlfriend will kiss in public, and maybe make really quick gropes. That is, my girlfriend will just grab my butt all the time.)

 

[Shock and Awe]

As long as their not sucking each other's faces and everyone's clothes stay on I see no problem.

 

[Sacman]

I don't really mind anything... they should just know that I'm inclined to watch...<.<

 

[SeriousIssues]

If you aren't James Bond don't make out in public, you aren't cool enough to pull it off.

 

[The Unworthy Gentleman]

And sometimes I like to kiss him on the cheek or touch the back of his head or give him a handie or whatever.

I would say handies are definitely over the top for public displays of affection. That is if we're thinking of the same kind of handies, of course.

OT: I don't really have any beef with public displays of affection of any magnitude really, what I take issue with is when people have no sense of decorum. I won't harass you for getting off with your girlfriend in public but if it isn't appropriate for the situation and you show no care for common decency and go over the top then we have a problem.

A problem in the sense that I'll mutter something passive aggressive to myself and continue to ignore you.

 

[Esotera]

Nothing really wrong with hands and kissing, there is a point where it gets irritating though. But that's when you should look away - if you don't like it, don't watch. People should be able to do pretty much whatever in public, as long as it's not a sexual act.

I was at a Dream Theater concert on Sunday, and the couple next to me started fucking, and at one point were leaning on me. That pissed me off. Not the fucking, but the leaning.

I guess what I'm trying to say is shit only bothers me if it actually interferes with me. Or society as a whole. Which "PDA"'s don't.

How the hell do you get away with fucking at a gig?

 

[Kanatatsu]

I will never understand why people showing affection for one another causes others to be upset. It's weird to me. I am much more uncomfortable seeing people fighting or being mean.

 

[Vault Citizen]

I generally go as far as making out and not very frequent quick gropes in public, if people don't like it they can avert their gaze, its not like complaining to me will actually get me to stop.

I never care. It's not like I am affected by them hugging, kissing or making out. I don't go all: "I saw a couple making out yesterday, didn't like it at all, and today when I woke up, I had leprosy. "

You Sir/Madam/Other have damn fine comedic taste.

 

[Mandalore_15]

I was at a Dream Theater concert on Sunday, and the couple next to me started fucking, and at one point were leaning on me. That pissed me off. Not the fucking, but the leaning.

If a guy had done that to me I'd have punched him in the back of the fucking head! I got in a fight with a guy during Slipknot at Download '09 because he was fingering his girlfriend right next to me. There's some shit you just shouldn't have to put up with in public...