Question about my life...

[ddrfr33k]

So I want to start by saying I've always kind of played it safe. I'm almost 18, but I'm the last of my friends to have never had a girlfriend. I've also never had alcohol, and I'm pretty sure I'm one of the last of my friends to still have their "V-card". Anyway, this is prompted because one of my friends, probably the most well adjust person I know, just told me that she got wasted at a party and had sex with 2 different guys, though she can't remember who they are. And she's one of those overachiever types, already got colleges picked out, 34 on her ACT, like 1500 on her SAT (or something), 4.0 GPA. Yet she still went out and did those things..

See, I kind of always thought it was the dumbass/burnout/stereotypical "stupid kid" who did stuff like that. Not someone with like her. So basically, it's the dumb kids doing it, and the smart ones doing it, and I guess I'm the only one not...I've never been one to give into peer pressure, really I just don't see the fun in getting drunk and doing stupid things like that...but everyone else IS doing it, so is there something to it? Am I missing out? Am I going to look back on my teenage years when I'm older and regret playing it safe all the time?

I know it kinda sounds like a stupid thing to ask, but then, I am only young once...

25yo virgin over here, my gf and I aren't in any rush to tear up our v-cards any time soon. Her siblings didn't exactly follow the same path, and they do feel regret over fucking so flippantly. Tbh, I'm impressed by your insight. Keep up the good work.

 

[kikon9]

You aren't missing out on anything. I know a lot of people whom did the kind of stuff you are talking about. The same people that made fun of me for being a virgin eventually had a child before they hit 20 years old. Whose laughing now?

This. Best possible way of saying it.

 

[Jacynduhh]

i'm in a similar boat, i'm 20 and playing it safe, as you say. apart from the alcohol, i drunk that until earlier this year when i got sick as a dog from it, now i don't drink at all, don't smoke or do any drugs, still got my v-card, never really had a proper boyfriend (had one when i was 14 that my sister's mate hooked me up with, but we only met twice within the year we were 'going out', if you could call it that) etc etc. i have no interest in jumping in bed with anyone or anything like that. i just do what i want, even if it's not what everyone else around me is doing, and as long as you're doing what you want and you're comfortable with it, then f*ck what other people are doing, it's your life, and people around you shouldn't make you doubt yourself. do what you want, at the end of the day it's your life and you're the one that has to live with your decisions, you're not missing out on anything in life if you are enjoying yourself.
everyone likes and dislikes different things, just because you like different thing than other around you doesn't mean you're missing out.

 

[LetalisK]

So I want to start by saying I've always kind of played it safe. I'm almost 18, but I'm the last of my friends to have never had a girlfriend. I've also never had alcohol, and I'm pretty sure I'm one of the last of my friends to still have their "V-card". Anyway, this is prompted because one of my friends, probably the most well adjust person I know, just told me that she got wasted at a party and had sex with 2 different guys, though she can't remember who they are. And she's one of those overachiever types, already got colleges picked out, 34 on her ACT, like 1500 on her SAT (or something), 4.0 GPA. Yet she still went out and did those things..

See, I kind of always thought it was the dumbass/burnout/stereotypical "stupid kid" who did stuff like that. Not someone with like her. So basically, it's the dumb kids doing it, and the smart ones doing it, and I guess I'm the only one not...I've never been one to give into peer pressure, really I just don't see the fun in getting drunk and doing stupid things like that...but everyone else IS doing it, so is there something to it? Am I missing out? Am I going to look back on my teenage years when I'm older and regret playing it safe all the time?

I know it kinda sounds like a stupid thing to ask, but then, I am only young once...

Sounds like she's living and you're not.

If you get a chance, read through either Iron Fist or Solo Command (I forget which, they're both Star Wars books, one after the other). There's a fella in these books by the name of Myn Donos, who is referred to by another character as a 'walking dead man', who does pretty much what you do, plays it safe all the time and never really does anything that takes him out of the background.

....except being a starfighter pilot and sniper for what was basically a black ops unit and then being a pilot for one of the most combat-intensive squadrons in the galaxy. That's a fucking horrible example of someone who "plays it safe". XD

 

[Amethyst Wind]

So I want to start by saying I've always kind of played it safe. I'm almost 18, but I'm the last of my friends to have never had a girlfriend. I've also never had alcohol, and I'm pretty sure I'm one of the last of my friends to still have their "V-card". Anyway, this is prompted because one of my friends, probably the most well adjust person I know, just told me that she got wasted at a party and had sex with 2 different guys, though she can't remember who they are. And she's one of those overachiever types, already got colleges picked out, 34 on her ACT, like 1500 on her SAT (or something), 4.0 GPA. Yet she still went out and did those things..

See, I kind of always thought it was the dumbass/burnout/stereotypical "stupid kid" who did stuff like that. Not someone with like her. So basically, it's the dumb kids doing it, and the smart ones doing it, and I guess I'm the only one not...I've never been one to give into peer pressure, really I just don't see the fun in getting drunk and doing stupid things like that...but everyone else IS doing it, so is there something to it? Am I missing out? Am I going to look back on my teenage years when I'm older and regret playing it safe all the time?

I know it kinda sounds like a stupid thing to ask, but then, I am only young once...

Sounds like she's living and you're not.

If you get a chance, read through either Iron Fist or Solo Command (I forget which, they're both Star Wars books, one after the other). There's a fella in these books by the name of Myn Donos, who is referred to by another character as a 'walking dead man', who does pretty much what you do, plays it safe all the time and never really does anything that takes him out of the background.

....except being a starfighter pilot and sniper for what was basically a black ops unit and then being a pilot for one of the most combat-intensive squadrons in the galaxy. That's a fucking horrible example of someone who "plays it safe". XD

That's his job. We're talking about a person's life here, are you saying that the job is all there is in somebody's life?

Also, was there really any need for the profanity in that sentence? Nobody is impressed by it.

 

[Togs]

"dont knock it till you tried it"

Its an experience- go drinking once and see how you like it, if you dont then you havent lost anything, and if you do then alls good.

 

[LetalisK]

Also, was there really any need for the profanity in that sentence?

Yes.

"dont knock it till you tried it"

Its an experience- go drinking once and see how you like it, if you dont then you havent lost anything, and if you do then alls good.

This, just don't be stupid about it. I've known people who hold it in for so long that when they finally do cut loose they lose their minds and can't maintain. Take a dip, don't jump off of Niagra Falls. Leave that to the professionals.

 

[Amethyst Wind]

Also, was there really any need for the profanity in that sentence?

Yes.

Oh do tell what the need was.

Explain to me in competent terms how that sentence was improved through the use of that profanity.

Try and do it without unnecessary profanity if you can help it.

 

[LetalisK]

Also, was there really any need for the profanity in that sentence?

Yes.

Oh do tell what the need was.

Explain to me in competent terms how that sentence was improved through the use of that profanity.

Try and do it without unnecessary profanity if you can help it.

Nah. I'd rather do something more productive. Like not take the forums so seriously that a single swear word actually matters to me. After all, I don't want to be a walking dead man.

 

[Worr Monger]

Never live your life for other people...

I actually didn't lose my virginity until I was 18.. and I had a gf for about 3 years by then... I look back on it now and wonder how that was actually possible.....

But then again, I'm friggen weird... I don't have the attitudes most guys seem to have towards women and sex... I've never been looking for the highest score of anything.

I was never a big party person, and even now, I'm skeptical when opportunities present themselves, because honestly, I don't enjoy those things as much as other people.

But don't be afraid to try things if you actually WANT to try them.. if you don't want to try them.. then don't.

I tried alcohol because I wanted to, and now I have a slight drinking problem... you win some.. you lose some.

 

[LetalisK]

So I want to start by saying I've always kind of played it safe. I'm almost 18, but I'm the last of my friends to have never had a girlfriend. I've also never had alcohol, and I'm pretty sure I'm one of the last of my friends to still have their "V-card". Anyway, this is prompted because one of my friends, probably the most well adjust person I know, just told me that she got wasted at a party and had sex with 2 different guys, though she can't remember who they are. And she's one of those overachiever types, already got colleges picked out, 34 on her ACT, like 1500 on her SAT (or something), 4.0 GPA. Yet she still went out and did those things..

See, I kind of always thought it was the dumbass/burnout/stereotypical "stupid kid" who did stuff like that. Not someone with like her. So basically, it's the dumb kids doing it, and the smart ones doing it, and I guess I'm the only one not...I've never been one to give into peer pressure, really I just don't see the fun in getting drunk and doing stupid things like that...but everyone else IS doing it, so is there something to it? Am I missing out? Am I going to look back on my teenage years when I'm older and regret playing it safe all the time?

I know it kinda sounds like a stupid thing to ask, but then, I am only young once...

I actually just thought of a good question for you. What exactly is the craziest thing you've done?

 

[Amethyst Wind]

Also, was there really any need for the profanity in that sentence?

Yes.

Oh do tell what the need was.

Explain to me in competent terms how that sentence was improved through the use of that profanity.

Try and do it without unnecessary profanity if you can help it.

Nah. I'd rather do something more productive. Like not take the forums so seriously that a single swear word actually matters to me. After all, I don't want to be a walking dead man.

Interesting that you talk of productivity when you waste your time with unnecessary curse words, also, you responded to my question (evasively) rather than simply doing something productive.

Fascinating how life is full of these little contradictions, no?

 

[JanatUrlich]

To be honest, it's totally up to you. You shouldn't judge people for doing what they want to do. I personally feel that I had a healthy mix of both and I've enjoyed my high school/university career. I think if you feel like you want to try taking a few risks, do it. Maybe start small, have a few beers with some close friends or something. Try going to a party etc. Like I said though, it's your choice.

 

[SilentCom]

Just because other people are engaging activities or behaviors you have not does not mean you have to. You have a choice (many actually) in how you want your life to unfold. Just because your friend can do those kind of things and have good grades doesn't mean you can. Also, for all you know, her grades may drop sometime in the future if she gets too distracted by those activites. There are also many other potential consequences. Best thing to keep in mind is that you are not her. Don't make yourself think you have to live that kind of life. If you want to, then it is your choice, but never forget that the choice will always be yours.

 

[SilentCom]

"dont knock it till you tried it"

Its an experience- go drinking once and see how you like it, if you dont then you havent lost anything, and if you do then alls good.

Frankly, I don't think that advice is very good. There are plenty of things people have done that they will regret til the day they die. Sometimes it is just better to use sound judgment before jumping into something.

Drinking is something fine I suppose when it comes to trying but I guess I'm trying to say, don't use that advice to apply to everything.

 

[Togs]

Frankly, I don't think that advice is very good. There are plenty of things people have done that they will regret til the day they die. Sometimes it is just better to use sound judgment before jumping into something.

Drinking is something fine I suppose when it comes to trying but I guess I'm trying to say, don't use that advice to apply to everything.

Reread my post and kindly point where I said jump in feet first? As I personally cant see it.
Dont go in blindly but dont excuse cowardice by calling it caution, or else you'll miss out on parts of life and may end up regretting it.