I'd say it's more about who you're saying it to and their reaction - but I see what you're saying.coxafloppin said:I believe that if you didnt intend to offend, its not racism.
I once said "what up n*gger?" to a white friend (quoting Jackie Chan in Rush Hour) and my black mate walked in right behind me as soon as I said it.
A nervous laugh and an apology and I made it out alright - he knows I'm not racist.