Really bad day. Any advice?

[EcHoFiiVe]

As the name of the thread suggests I have had a ludicrously bad day. A few months ago an uncle of mine was diagnosed with inoperable melanoma, and today we got news that it is progressing faster than initially expected, so his time has been cut down marginally. I got basically zero sleep last night and only around an hour in total today so I feel like shit physically. And I think a girl who I really like and is a really good friend of mine hates me, and she will not pick up the phone or respond to IMs so I cannot ask her what's wrong. Any advice on how to like clear my mind or something. I ran to the bridge near my house and that is roughly 3 miles both directions, I played soccer for a few hours, and I tried playing video games both alone and with my friends. Any ideas? Any help is greatly appreciated. I know some people might come onto this thread thinking "Oh look just more high school teen angst", which I will not be offended by, but still.

 

[Icarion (aka Stockholm)]

If I were you I would try to take a nap. Or read a book. Books are nice. Or watch TV. Something non interactive. I t might help. I recommend sleep highest though. Maybe read until you fall asleep?

 

[EcHoFiiVe]

If I were you I would try to take a nap. Or read a book. Books are nice. Or watch TV. Something non interactive. I t might help. I recommend sleep highest though. Maybe read until you fall asleep?

Yeah I might do that. Hopefully when I eventually do fall asleep I can stay asleep without thinking about how crappy my day was.

 

[HerbertTheHamster]

How 'bout play video games.

That's kinda what this forum does, isn't it?

 

[lewism247]

I'd recommend sleeping, maybe listen to some of your favourite songs, just stuff that normally puts you in a good mood.

Or have a wank, that helps with stress.

 

[El Poncho]

Read a book, one that you think you will get lost in for most of the day.

 

[finecrazydud]

take five minutes to sit down and clear your head. talk to yourself for a little bit listen to music and just relax.( deeply sorry for the uncle)

 

[BENZOOKA]

Take a hot bath/shower, eat a bit too much and get some sleep.

 

[Motiv_]

If you're a decent artist, paint the person you despise onto a burlap bag, and stuff it full of anything that resembles human flesh. Repeatedly punch this until your knuckles split or you get tired. Swear while doing so. Take 15 minute break. Rinse and repeat until you feel better.

You'll be amazed how effective this is, and you'll probably be even more amazed that I'm being completely serious. Give it a shot.

 

[Ranchcroutons]

When I get depressed I find I cant enjoy gaming at all, what does work for me is listening to music I can emphasize with whether it be sad or angry. Kinda emo answer I guess but it does work on this end

 

[Michelle Weiss]

bad days happen or bad weeks, whatever, just take it one problem at a time let me handle problems one at a time
1) spend as much time with your uncle as possible even if you have to cut back on video games time with friends etc. they'll be there tomorrow your uncle may not
2) sleep silly, your body needs that to function even if you have to cut back on video games time with friends etc. it's better than falling asleep in the middle of class(trust me I know)
3)now this ones hard if you ask one of her friends to talk to her she will wonder why you don't man up and ask her yourself what I'd do is wait she'll come back eventually I know this sounds stupid but if you don't push trying to get in contact with her just wait she'll talk to you when she's ready

hope this helps good luck and breathe it'll all get better eventually
and lastly sorry about your uncle felling like you can't do anything to help a family member is tough (lost my favorite grampa to liver disease last year) the little things matter

 

[MasterOfWorlds]

Wow, I actually know how you feel. XD

Yesterday, I watched my mom pass away when the cancer she was fighting for months finally took her. Although I have a gf who's been wonderfully supportive, I have a few good friends of mine that have been distancing themselves from me lately.

Just try to do things to take your mind off of it, like browse the forums, play games, read, and other stuff you usually enjoy doing. Spend time with your uncle and let him know that you love and care for him. That's the only thing you can really do. I was by my mom's side she was diagnosed with cancer, and I don't regret a single moment. I know that she was at home with family, which is what she wanted most of all. I think that the reason I'm not as torn up about her passing as I could be is because I was there for her since she was diagnosed.

Speaking as someone who just went through what you're going through, you'll make it out OK. Just give your friend some time and space. I think that a lot of times, our friends don't know what to do or say when a friend of theirs is going through a rough patch in their life. I know that a lot of my friends seem to not have the words to say.

For what it's worth, even though I don't know you, I'll keep you in my thoughts and prayers.

 

[s0p0g]

i'd sleep; you know, switch your(conscious)self off for as long as possible, give your head some time to work out all the shit going on, so it doesn't hit you with full force while you are thinking about awake (although you might already have suffered the hefty first impact (better word?) of those pretty bad news)

 

[AceAngel]

Take a hot shower to relax those muscles, set your room to a mildly-room high temperature and wear some sweats (or easy, big, clothes in cotton or something like that). Dim the lights (or set a lamp from the distance) put on some music at low levels, something that doesn't make you excited or anything, just ambiance at really low levels.

Read a book, or put on a show you might enjoy, but once again, nothing that will excite your brain too much. Also, I suggest making taking a couple of pill for the headache, something that causes a mild level of drowsiness.

Either two things will happen. You fall asleep, or your brain and muscles chill out for a couple of hours/minutes.

 

[DesiPrinceX09]

Well whenever I have a crappy day I just sit, think, analyze my situation, and calm myself down. But I am a bottler, I stomach all my emotions and suppress them so that my mind and heart can conquer them. It's very hard to tell what I am feeling, I could have just lost my whole family or be dying of cancer and you couldn't tell. Everyone says it's unhealthy to suppress emotions but I say differently since not only do I suppress them but I weaken their hold on me and conquer them psychologically (or at least give my self the feeling that they have been conquered).

But anyways, I know that it obviously doesn't work for a lot of people since Psychiatrists and psychologists both tell me I am unusually strong in that sense (dealing with emotions and controlling myself). With past events in my life, they said the stress and trauma should have killed me or drove me to the nut house; but here I am fit as a fiddle (or so I think).

But still, try to confront all your negative feelings and weaken them so that you might conquer them. Or...just sleep...yeah...

 

[The Afrodactyl]

As the rest of the posters said, just get some sleep. You're body's working overtime, you're stressed and worried and a whole mess of other stuff.

Get some sleep, and things should be clearer for you when you come round.

 

[BlueberryMUNCH]

Listen to some music you love, and believe me when I say tomorrow will be better.

I promise:].
MUNCHPROMISE.

 

[EcHoFiiVe]

This is all fantastic advice. And for those whose responses made me laugh whether purposeful or not, thank you. Humor is a staple in my life usually. I am always trying to make every situation funny in some way. I will pick up Catch 22 and listen to a play list that I'm about to make. Might also call my friend who I have know for 6 years and talk to her. If Zeus is merciful one of these things will help.

 

[smearyllama]

I'd read a book, as others said, or play games.
Maybe you should get lost in a fake world for a little while, to calm yourself.

There's a free download of Daggerfall, which is great for doing just that...

http://theelderscrolls.wiwiland.net/?title=Daggerfall_:_DaggerfallSetup_EN

Just to be clear, free download doesn't mean piracy, here, but that it's freeware.

 

[nunqual]

Just get a little rest. Don't bother the girl either. If she wanted to talk, she would have responded. There's always tomorrow man.