There were times when I felt guilty about almost everything which means I always blamed myself for not making a different choices and then maybe things would have been different and with that better. But... I learned and changed a lot since then, and now I just let life be and take whatever course it wants. By that I mean no, I do not regret things anymore. My motto for that is: smile to everything (and everyone) that comes and goes.
Regrets anyone?
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There were times when I felt guilty about almost everything which means I always blamed myself for not making a different choices and then maybe things would have been different and with that better. But... I learned and changed a lot since then, and now I just let life be and take whatever course it wants. By that I mean no, I do not regret things anymore. My motto for that is: smile to everything (and everyone) that comes and goes.
I don't regret anything I've done, because those mistakes have made me who I am.
What I do regret, is the things I haven't. I was/still am a boring twat. Most people my age (15), go out drinking, have tried drugs, all that jazz. Way back when, I considered myself "above" all of that. Looking back, I was just so far up my own arse that I couldn't be open minded about anything. Sure, now I don't condemn them like I used to, but I've become so accustomed to what I used to believe, I can't have more than one beer without feeling like I should stop.
The way I see it, being a teenager is about learning what not to do, and I sure fucked that one up by being "sensible".
What I do regret, is the things I haven't. I was/still am a boring twat. Most people my age (15), go out drinking, have tried drugs, all that jazz. Way back when, I considered myself "above" all of that. Looking back, I was just so far up my own arse that I couldn't be open minded about anything. Sure, now I don't condemn them like I used to, but I've become so accustomed to what I used to believe, I can't have more than one beer without feeling like I should stop.
The way I see it, being a teenager is about learning what not to do, and I sure fucked that one up by being "sensible".
well, lets do this in reverse order shal we?Astoria said:
ergo, nubmer 2 first.
2:How do you stop these mistakes bothering you?
by accepting everything you do, and their concequenses. you dont have to LIKE them. all you have to do is accept that your human, your YOU and you did this or that.
for, acceptance, is also the first step to un-doing wrongs etc.
in your case, not changing schools, is something which, might seem like something stupid to DO, but you cant realy blame yourself for not doing something for yourself.
i mean, you cant have known for SURE that the other option was better.
becaus EVERYTHING wold have been different, and you now have, for one, probably a better grasp of yourself, and how to deal with meh-ness then if you would have hadd happy-go-luck from day 1.
hope im clear enough, do give a shout if you need more clear info.
now on to number 1: stuff i regret.
i reget well. having been like i was in the first few months in the relationship with my girlfriend.
nothing i could have done about it though, because i did deal with it.. it just took time.
( and there wasent a problem when she was not there yet so.. jeah, its more regretting something that could not having beend done any other way XD
sorry for the wall of lines people!
"We dont regret the things we do, but the things we dont"
This kinda affects me, as I didnt ask someone something early on, which is technically me regretting not asking earlier
and I generally end up depressed, I have a mindfuck condition anyway so alot of the time im upset. Its just alot worse now than ever.
This kinda affects me, as I didnt ask someone something early on, which is technically me regretting not asking earlier
and I generally end up depressed, I have a mindfuck condition anyway so alot of the time im upset. Its just alot worse now than ever.
I don't. I can always ponder about things like what if's and did or didn't, but I'll never know the alternative outcome of it (and maybe even those could result in regret). That and I always keep in mind that I think things trough with what I know about the situation before my do's and dont's. The result isn't always in my hands.
I find it's easier to regret the things you have done, rather than the things you haven't. In other words it sucks regretting that you never got to do something, when you know you could have. In most cases I think it's way better regretting something you actually did, even though it turned out to be a mistake.
My last three major regrets are/were:
1. My ex-girlfriend
2. Taking up smoking
3. Asking out a friend of many years only to be shot down in flames.
I coped with them by, in order:
1. Got the fuck out of that relationship and nuked the bridge from orbit.
2. Giving up cold-turkey after a few months after realising how much I stank of cigarettes.
3. Asked if we could ignore that it ever took place and if we could staty friends. We've been closer ever since.
Anyway, to combat the regrets, just grab them by the balls and tackle them head on in the most efficient fashion.
1. My ex-girlfriend
2. Taking up smoking
3. Asking out a friend of many years only to be shot down in flames.
I coped with them by, in order:
1. Got the fuck out of that relationship and nuked the bridge from orbit.
2. Giving up cold-turkey after a few months after realising how much I stank of cigarettes.
3. Asked if we could ignore that it ever took place and if we could staty friends. We've been closer ever since.
Anyway, to combat the regrets, just grab them by the balls and tackle them head on in the most efficient fashion.
1. Yes. It isn't so much regret as it just has been coming back to haunt me for two or three straight years now.Astoria said:
2. I don't. I try to run. I hang out with friends. I work. I get drunk. In the end I sit in my room, in the dark at 1 am thinking about it. My advice is to move on. It just sounds like you had a bad day. If that is the worst your regret has done then you really should just forget about it.
Honestly the more I try to not dwell on such things, the more I dwell on such things. So I just go with the flow and move on eventually.
I regret nothing because at one point in my life I wanted it and liked it
Even if it seems like a shit thing to do now...
Even if it seems like a shit thing to do now...