Relationship Deal Breakers

[Elementary - Dear Watson]

As a guy with a very, very strict moral code (A personality trait that runs in both my family and line of work) and minor bouts of OCD my list would be flipping huge... anything from the obvious ones like cheating... to ones that are just pertinent to me... like leaving drawers open longer than they are needed... Yes... I am still looking! :S

 

[Realitycrash]

-No mummy issues (or issues with women in general).

But they scare me!

..And wait, since when was women ever mummified?
-Scratches head-

 

[Hagi]

1. Cheating, should be obvious.

2. Smoking, slowly killing yourself whilst smelling horribly isn't cool.

3. Obesity, slowly killing yourself whilst looking horribly isn't cool (note: only talking about actual obesity here. I've no problems whatsoever with being chubby or however you want to call it, on the contrary it can be quite attractive).

4. Passiveness, I expect my partner to show initiative and interest the same as me. I've no taste for having to 'prove' my interest whilst she initiates shit all.

5. No communication, I expect my partner to tell me honestly what's important to her and when something's going on, I can't read minds.

 

[Colour Scientist]

No having fun, of any kind, unless it's with me, doing what I like doing!


Sorry, some of the responses are starting to sound like that.

 

[Mr Fixit]

Hmm deal breakers...

No cheating of course.

No lying, i can't stand a liar. Just tell me the truth I'm a big boy i can take it.

The smoking thing used to be a deal breaker for me, but then I met an awesome girl that smokes. I still think it's a bad habit, but no longer a deal breaker.

This whole "no killing me thing" eh it just keeps thing interesting, I like a woman that can kick my ass.

No hard drugs, weed is fine & booze is okay, hell i drink like a fish so I can't be a hypocrite.\

The only other real deal breaker is if we have absolutely nothing in common, that would just be boring.

 

[disgruntledgamer]

The only other real deal breaker is if we have absolutely nothing in common, that would just be boring.

I think things like boring and intelligence are really more pretense things, since if you find these unattractive about them they're probably not going going to get through the starting gate. Unless they were smart and were kicked in the head by a horse or something.

 

[StormShaun]

Well I think I'm pretty picky...well due to my personality and moral code.

- Cheating, instant break off...I do have a trust problem with those who betray me. (I blame School bulling.)
- Smoking, for some reason I can't like people who like to kill others as well as themselves because of a habit/whatever. (My grandmother smoked and is probably the reason I hated smoking from a early age)
- Drug use, ...nope.
- Drinking a lot, I don't really like alcohol. I can stand a bit but not a whole lot.
- Partying, as in clubbing...I hate it. (My sister does it a lot and it seems I'm the total opposite to her)
- Lying, In general and about big, important things. (Trust issues again)
- Bad health.
- Bad moral. As in that they like to do crime and bad things.
- Super anti religious, I'm religious but I'm calm and cool about it if they ain't...just don't go hating.
- If they want me to change, NOPE never, I am not changing to suit someone better. You may as date someone with your own interest.
- Have nothing in common with me. For some reason...yeah I'm really picky. T_T
- Doesn't want a serious relationship (Marriage and children and stuff). Yeah, I want to have children and get married...it's almost a dream for me. (Due to all these happy stories I like)
- Is controlling.
*Looks up*

Holy crap I am picky...this is why the only hope for me is my dream girl. ;_;

 

[Astoria]

Apart from the obvious, I don't like it when someone is lazy about everything, whether that be in getting a job, working to maintain friendships or even just doing something with their time other than playing games, watching tv, ect. I'm lazy enough as it is and I need someone to encourage me to do things. I also won't get with someone who does drugs regularly, I can understand using every now and then but not all the time.

 

[VeneratedWulfen93]

With the amount of people who hate smoking looks like I'm dying alone as well as young.

So if by divine intervention I find msyelf with a member of the opposite sex who doesn't completely disgust me then I suppose I can find somethings that could make me drop em.
Change: I am me and you are you. Don't try change me. I live my life for me, no-one else.
Cheating: Depends if she was drunk or not. If she was consious then shes out otherwise if she was genuinely sorry then I would consider that. Do it again and I'm out.
Control: I want to have time to myself, my hobbies and my friends. Don't kick off if I don't text back within a minute because I rarely text anyway. I'm pretty sure that they would have hobbies and friends of their own to occupy their time with as well.
Kids: I hate kids and never want them. If anyone wants kids I will not be providing them for them.

Other than this I wouldn't mind. Smoke, drinker whatever. Its their life and they can do what they want. I am shallow enough that looks would have to be a given as well.

Hmmm.... it seems I would be a lame partner for anyone. Good, my plan is working and then the £30 shall be mine!

 

[Vault101]

Eh, I'll sign up on all the ones mentioned in the OP (except the Beiber one, I don't care what you listen to).
Here's one of my own:

1: Not having any issues.
No, seriously. I can't relate to you if you are a happy-go-lucky, everything-is-swell, my-parents-love-me, Ihave-no-disorders-and-life-is-just-peachy kind of girl.
If you have not experienced trauma, regret, pain or angst, and I can't tell that you are at last partly struggling (even though you still manage it very well), I can't relate.

thats.....bizare.....

EVERYONE has issues in some for or another

 

[A.A.K]

1. Cheating. That's the number 1, don't ever cheat on me in anyway, under any circumstance. I will refuse to associate with you from that point onwards.
2. Naive/"Police Officers are Superheroes and the Law in their weapon!" people. I can't stand those sorts of people, and if I was ever to 'meet' someone like that, most of my friends would leave me at that stage as well.

Otherwise, I'm not too fussed.
Looking at the OP's post, I'm not sure what to say.
I couldn't care if you gamed, and if you gamed 'too much' than we wouldn't be able to hold a relationship anyway.
Mates have pulled knives on me as a joke, so I really couldn't care if you tried to punch me - so long as you expect retaliation.
I smoke occasionally, with a good cigar.
Musical tastes don't affect me unless they force me to listen to it, if you stole then the relationship would never get off the ground in the first place, so I'm not fussed about that one, and massive weight gain - eh, you'll run yourself into the ground anyway. So either you'll destroy yourself or I'll get fed up with you. Though that one is an eventual thing, not directly a 'deal breaker'.
STD's nd shit, so long as you're clean when we get together, not a problem.

 

[Vault101]

Good in the sack- Making love has too feel good and not like bending a steel pipe. I could go into details, but some vegan femminist would probably call me degrading to women.

Much love.

vegan feminiist?....dear god

that would depend on weather or not your being reasonable reasonable

 

[Colour Scientist]

Other than this I wouldn't mind. Smoke, drinker whatever. Its their life and they can do what they want. I am shallow enough that looks would have to be a given

One of the best answers in the thread, really.

I find it funny when people are like no drinking, partying or staying out late and then add controlling to the end of thir list.

 

[Realitycrash]

Eh, I'll sign up on all the ones mentioned in the OP (except the Beiber one, I don't care what you listen to).
Here's one of my own:

1: Not having any issues.
No, seriously. I can't relate to you if you are a happy-go-lucky, everything-is-swell, my-parents-love-me, Ihave-no-disorders-and-life-is-just-peachy kind of girl.
If you have not experienced trauma, regret, pain or angst, and I can't tell that you are at last partly struggling (even though you still manage it very well), I can't relate.

thats.....bizare.....

EVERYONE has issues in some for or another

Nope. I've met some very nice ladies that do not meet my criteria of having issues. Because I don't count "Oh my God I don't have a job and I'll never fulfill my dream of being a fashion-designer" as having issues.

 

[Vault101]

Nope. I've met some very nice ladies that do not meet my criteria of having issues. Because I don't count "Oh my God I don't have a job and I'll never fulfill my dream of being a fashion-designer" as having issues.

still pretty bizare if you ask me

 

[Realitycrash]

Nope. I've met some very nice ladies that do not meet my criteria of having issues. Because I don't count "Oh my God I don't have a job and I'll never fulfill my dream of being a fashion-designer" as having issues.

still pretty bizare if you ask me

What exactly is?

 

[disgruntledgamer]

I find it funny when people are like no drinking, partying or staying out late and then add controlling to the end of thir list.

I think most people are ok with that, I just don't like smoking because for starters it effects my health, it makes you smell and makes kissing you taste like licking an ashtray.

 

[Vault101]

What exactly is?

having "issues" as a pre-requisite..mabye I can understnad the logic and the need to certain traits in a person but...well its just bizare to me

 

[krazykidd]

1) Being under 200lbs . No skinny bitches for me thanks . I would MAYBE sleep with a skinny girl , but never date one .

2) Must not be black . I'm black , but have zero attraction to black girls . Everything else is fair game .

3) Must be willing go give and recieve oral sex . Do i have to explain this one?

4) Must NOT be athiest . I don't care which god you believe in , as long as you believe in something . Do not quote me on this , i refuse to discuss this on a forum .

5) Must not be on welfare . Been there , done that , never again .

 

[Realitycrash]

What exactly is?

having "issues" as a pre-requisite..mabye I can understnad the logic and the need to certain traits in a person but...well its just bizare to me

Because I can't relate otherwise. I have issues myself. And that's all there is too it.