Relationship help

[dex-dex]

People who preform in plays especially in major parts, the audience may want the chance to talk to the actors and actresses.

I say go for it but if they do that, just be prepared to give a mobile number.

 

[quiet_samurai]

Lol.... demand an answer, seriously. Women really like it when you make demands right from the start.

 

[BonsaiK]

So, I plan on asking this girl out right after she is done performing as the lead in one of the university's plays. What I want to know is whether I should demand an answer up front OR tell her to promise me that she will think about it and tell me later?

What do you escapists think I should do?

I think that would be a bad time. Why not just go up and compliment her on her performance instead? Then, next time you see her around at Uni, go up and talk to her. Don't be all "will you go out with me?", just have a conversation, see if you hit it off, and if you do, maybe latch onto some common interest you both have and take it from there. Better to play it casual and fun rather than serious and intense.

In fact, you sound like you're being a bit intense about this generally speaking. Girls don't dig being "demanded" anything, especially by someone they don't know, and they're not going to promise you anything either if they don't know you. Even in a bona-fide relationship such things aren't necessarily a good idea. Intense vibes will sink your chances quickly, if you want to stand any chance at all you need to build a rapport, not an intense dramatic situation.

 

[dmase]

First off great name and avatar.

Second I don't think you should demand anybody to do anything, unless of course thats your thing then you might wanna get that out in the open early on.

Now the advice part just ask her casually on a "get together" there you go you can put it off until you know how your gonna be when your alone with her and you have the goodnight part kiss to say what you want.

 

[Carlan]

Just to stress this important point: DO NOT DEMAND ANYTHING!!

Ask her out. If she says yes, awesome. If she says no, go on with life. If she doesn't give a yes or no give her your number and let her figure it out on her own time. Don't fret over it, though. If there's no immediate answer there's nothing wrong with looking elsewhere in the meantime. You're in college, you'll never have an easier time getting opportunities for relationships and other more salacious pursuits.

 

[quiet_samurai]

Lol.... demand an answer, seriously. Women really like it when you make demands right from the start.

Some women might, but I'd like to think more dislike it then like it. Especially given the circumstances. If he knew her better, I may see it differently.

I was more along the lines of well, this....

Him - Hey would you like go out sometime?

Her - Well I'm not sure, I like you but I don't know.

Him - What do you mean?

Her - I might need to think about it.

Him - Answer me now!!!

Not really the same as making demands later on in the relationship, or if you are a new couple and the demands are playful in nature. It just sounded really selfish and needy.