Relationship Scares?

[TheAceTheOne]

Okay, so last night, I thought I was going to lose someone very dear to me. I won't give details, but let's just say it involved me being kind of dependent and assuming that she was okay with it. Of course, she didn't leave (if she did, I'd be... well, I won't say.), and things worked out.

But it got me thinking, have any of you had a relationship-related scare where you thought you'd lose someone close to you because of something you did but didn't realize you'd done, or because of something you'd done intentionally?

 

[BonsaiK]

I've had that a few times with one girl. Eventually I got bored of it and left her instead. Beat 'em to the punch, I say. No regrets, one of the smartest things I ever did.

 

[SovietSecrets]

Nope. I make it clear what I do and how I do it in the very beginning and if they have issues then were not dating. Example of this would be me and skating. Girl I was with in the past wanted me to quit skating and I wasn't going to and she learned how to put up with it. If its unintentional I shrug it off because I am very good at getting people to forgive me and I extend the same to them.

 

[DefunctTheory]

Scares? No.

When people leave me, they leave me for good. And often.

More a sign of my bad taste in women then anything else.

For the most part. Not all parts.

I've had that a few times with one girl. Eventually I got bored of it and left her instead. Beat 'em to the punch, I say. No regrets, one of the smartest things I ever did.

 

[Vault101]

ehhh Im not good with the whole "relationship" thing

In my extreme limited experience its really just emotional black mail and...

"I buy you all thease nice things....why wont you love me??"

"look PLEASE stop getting me gifts...its nice and all but you really dont have too...and you know Im broke and cant repay any of it..."

 

[Somatsu]

I make a point of never hanging out with anyone who isn't willing to come out and tell me when they don't like how I'm acting. So no, I can't say I understand.

 

[BENZOOKA]

Doesn't every girlfriend at times blame you for something you didn't realize doing, or not doing...

But yeah, sure. Most times I've got there first to break up, if it's been something happening between us.

 

[EdwardOrchard]

To the OP:

A: Everybody who has so far responded to you in this thread strikes me as extremely insecure. Just saying, judging by their responses.

B: I strongly suggest you re-examine your own situation and the whole, "She was ok with it, she didn't leave," thing. In other words, don't look so surprised in two weeks when she dumps you. Sorry.

 

[InfiniteSingularity]

It happens whenever there's been a long time since the last message from my girlfriend - I always wonder if I did something wrong or something

 

[latenightapplepie]

Nope. I've never been in a romantic relationship serious enough to be have any "scares".

As for platonic/friend relationships, yes, it has happened. I am currently having such a "scare" [http://www.escapistmagazine.com/forums/read/538.275024-Repairing-friendships-Being-forgiven#10655532].

 

[NinjaDeathSlap]

Once I'm actually in a relationship I find that I often do ok, where I fall down is constantly ruining the potential for relationships before they can get off the ground by acting like an idiot.

 

[TheAceTheOne]

Okay, so last night, I thought I was going to lose someone very dear to me. I won't give details, but let's just say it involved me being kind of dependent and assuming that she was okay with it. Of course, she didn't leave (if she did, I'd be... well, I won't say.), and things worked out.

But it got me thinking, have any of you had a relationship-related scare where you thought you'd lose someone close to you because of something you did but didn't realize you'd done, or because of something you'd done intentionally?

What a delightfully vague story about how your bird nearly pissed off cos you were clingy.

Personally I once had a guy claim he was my father. But that was impossible because my father was called Anakin and this guy had killed him.

You know why it's vague? Because I really don't want to take the time to give every single little detail about my personal life on a forum. You could have messaged me for details, if you'd so desired.

 

[ChicagoTed]

2 pregnancy scares w/ my current gf and now she's looking at engagement rings so yeah pretty scared at the moment.

 

[similar.squirrel]

Example of this would be me and skating. Girl I was with in the past wanted me to quit skating and I wasn't going to and she learned how to put up with it.

Was she worried about you injuring yourself on a skateboard, or doubtful of your sexuality because of figure-skating?

OT: My last relationship was chock-full of these incidents, because I was quite needy and she was unsure of her sexuality. Still a wonderful two years, though.

Edit: Oh, and two preposterous pregnancy-scares.

 

[Dogstile]

Well, i've been horrifically scared that someone I like as a friend but find horrifically unattractive fancied me. It turns out she did so I became very not talkative. I hate it when people assume you want a relationship when you want a friend

 

[SovietSecrets]

Example of this would be me and skating. Girl I was with in the past wanted me to quit skating and I wasn't going to and she learned how to put up with it.

Was she worried about you injuring yourself on a skateboard, or doubtful of your sexuality because of figure-skating?

OT: My last relationship was chock-full of these incidents, because I was quite needy and she was unsure of her sexuality. Still a wonderful two years, though.

Edit: Oh, and two preposterous pregnancy-scares.

Injuring myself on a skateboard. Would have been awesome if it was the figure skating one.

 

[owyndevaldeck]

Havent thought i was going to lose someone but i sure as hell dropped my ex when she asked if she could sleep with another guy "just a few times to see what its like"

 

[tjs09]

Havent thought i was going to lose someone but i sure as hell dropped my ex when she asked if she could sleep with another guy "just a few times to see what its like"

I hope you don't mind, but I find this hilarious.

 

[owyndevaldeck]

Havent thought i was going to lose someone but i sure as hell dropped my ex when she asked if she could sleep with another guy "just a few times to see what its like"

I hope you don't mind, but I find this hilarious.

Dont worry, in hindsight that whole relationship was hilarious bullshit. Dpnt know how i lasted as long as I did...