Relationship Stigmas
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Apologies for asking, but how old are you? You see that 'more than 10' is grounds for being a slut? Depending on her age, I wouldn't necessarily say that.
I do agree that bragging about it, to you of all people, is slutty and attention seeking, however.
Don't feel ashamed about being a virgin - if anything, just be glad you haven't given it away to people like her - if you must, save it until you're married, just don't base every relationship you have from hereon out on whether you two will have sex or not.
I do agree that bragging about it, to you of all people, is slutty and attention seeking, however.
Don't feel ashamed about being a virgin - if anything, just be glad you haven't given it away to people like her - if you must, save it until you're married, just don't base every relationship you have from hereon out on whether you two will have sex or not.
Do you actually like this girl as a person? You haven't mentioned anything about whether you like her or not, just that you've got yourself 'a girlfriend' and she's had a lot of previous partners.
Seems to me you don't actually like her and you're just in this relationship for the sake of having a girlfriend/having sex. If that's the case but you really want a close, commited relationship, then you need to find someone you like. If you just want to have sex with her then do it, and move on when you're bored, sounds like that's what she does. Maybe that's what you want but you just feel intimidated or emasculated by the fact that she's a lot more experienced than you?
I'd advise talking to her about it though, see how she feels and all. She might have decided you're the one and wants to stay with you. Maybe all the sex talk is trying to tell you something i.e. 'stop faffing about and put your dick in me now'.
Really, I'm just taking wild stabs in the dark here, there's no way the internet is going to be able to solve your personal problems. You know what you want (I hope) you know the girl, you should be able to work it out for yourself.
Seems to me you don't actually like her and you're just in this relationship for the sake of having a girlfriend/having sex. If that's the case but you really want a close, commited relationship, then you need to find someone you like. If you just want to have sex with her then do it, and move on when you're bored, sounds like that's what she does. Maybe that's what you want but you just feel intimidated or emasculated by the fact that she's a lot more experienced than you?
I'd advise talking to her about it though, see how she feels and all. She might have decided you're the one and wants to stay with you. Maybe all the sex talk is trying to tell you something i.e. 'stop faffing about and put your dick in me now'.
Really, I'm just taking wild stabs in the dark here, there's no way the internet is going to be able to solve your personal problems. You know what you want (I hope) you know the girl, you should be able to work it out for yourself.
Man up. You don't sound like you like this girl, you obviously don't have any respect for her, and you apparently don't share the same values (you know, something like monogamy and tact). You're clinging to her because you don't want to be single and, if I'm guessing correctly, you're getting some, and you don't want to close the only conduit you've got.
Desperation is NOT an attractive scent, dear boy. You already know you should leave her. So do it. Spend some time on yourself, build your confidence, and try for other girls. Get to know some as friends, too. Gaming is not (generally) how you build romantic relationships--you need human contact for that, and you need social skills to get desirable partners. You don't build those in the cool cyclopean glow of your monitor or television.
Go to concerts, clubs (there are some under-21 venues out there), bookstores, cafes, hang-outs, and extracurricular events and organizations. You will meet people.
Most of all, learn to respect yourself. Associating with people you disrespect just shows that you don't value yourself. And if you can't value yourself or respect yourself, you'll never be able to value or respect others. That is the straight road to abusive, codependent, dysfunctional relationships (can I be more clear?).
Desperation is NOT an attractive scent, dear boy. You already know you should leave her. So do it. Spend some time on yourself, build your confidence, and try for other girls. Get to know some as friends, too. Gaming is not (generally) how you build romantic relationships--you need human contact for that, and you need social skills to get desirable partners. You don't build those in the cool cyclopean glow of your monitor or television.
Go to concerts, clubs (there are some under-21 venues out there), bookstores, cafes, hang-outs, and extracurricular events and organizations. You will meet people.
Most of all, learn to respect yourself. Associating with people you disrespect just shows that you don't value yourself. And if you can't value yourself or respect yourself, you'll never be able to value or respect others. That is the straight road to abusive, codependent, dysfunctional relationships (can I be more clear?).
I'm spotting a pattern in your posts. You almost always seem to be somewhere near the top. It's almost as if you're climbing a mountain and that is where you have set up Base camp. ^_^Aunel said:
OT Just do what I do, don't be bothered by sex. It will be nice for me when it's with someone that I am in an intimate relationship with. For me, it should be the culmination of long term affection, not something to do all the time and brag about.
I subscribe to old thought so STDs *****!Monkfish Acc. said:
Egh I hate posting late but here we go. As has been said we havent seen from your post how you actually feel about her. The image im getting is that you only are with her for the sake of having a girlfriend/sexmate, if you would like to think yourself better than that I would leave. If you actually had genuine feelings for this woman then I might suggest otherwise but if you dont leave.
Seems your being influence by peer pressure but let me tell you this, there is a very low chance that no woman over the next couple years will find you attractive and want to have relations with you. Sexual relations. Wait for a girl you want to give your virginity to, because its not like it's killing you or anything.
By the way why does your profile say your a girl?
Asturiel said:
They're not all diseases, though. Some are parasites. Crabs, for instance.
Hence why they changed it.
possibly because she is one?
EDIT: WHAT NO I NEVER SAID ANYTHING INACCURATE NOPE
MOVE ALONG NOTHING TO SEE HERE
I do care for her, much more than I should. Seeing pictures of her can make my heart melt, I smile whenever I see her and etc. Although I cannot seem to determine how she feels about me.
But the whole slut thing is the one bit I can't seem to get over. It may seem shallow and judgemental as other have pointed out, but it just seems written in me.
Also I just chose a girl for the profile to be different, everything else is true cept the year of birth
But the whole slut thing is the one bit I can't seem to get over. It may seem shallow and judgemental as other have pointed out, but it just seems written in me.
Also I just chose a girl for the profile to be different, everything else is true cept the year of birth
I still stand by my saying STDs. Also Pluto is a planet.Monkfish Acc. said:
I dont know, the post's seem to make me believe that that person has a Y chromosome. *Shrugs*
See I was right! Also please change it to male just makes things simpler to people visiting your profile.Zeetchmen said:Also I just chose a girl for the profile to be different, everything else is true cept the year of birth
Okay, so you really like her...hmm, in that case you're probably jealous at the thought of all those other guys boning her. As long as she doesn't cheat on you I'd stay in that case. Also, tell her you don't really want to hear about all her previous boyfriends, if it's not being shoved in your face every 10 seconds you'll probably forget about it.Zeetchmen said:I do care for her, much more than I should. Seeing pictures of her can make my heart melt, I smile whenever I see her and etc
But the whole slut thing is the one bit I can't seem to get over. It may seem shallow and judgemental as other have pointed out, but it just seems written in me.
Also I just chose a girl for the profile to be different, everything else is true cept the year of birth
In my experience, being nice makes you a good friend. Nothing more.Aunel said:
Really though, get shot of her. Slutiness, in men and women, yes it can apply to dudes too, absolutely disgusts me. I mean, I have to be realistic in accepting people will have slept with more than one person, but my God, that is no way to behave.
Believe it or not you will actually have other chances to have sex in your lifetime. It just always feels impossible and annoyingly far away until it happens with someone and you realize there is at least one person on Earth who will sleep with you (let's ignore hookers and the like for now) and thumbs up to you if they/you both actually enjoyed some of it. Then it leads to the realization that "this can happen again, probably with other people" which for most people, is very true, even if it's not something happening all the time.
Personally, I wouldn't want to stick around when I couldn't tell quite how the other person felt about me and when they were constantly seeking sources of attention (sex, as you're pointing out) with an array of other people, not doing anything of the sort with me and then informing me of every last thing they do. Doesn't sound like much fun, or a fair part to be expected to be stuck in.
Personally I don't expect perfect monogamy when I get into an actual relationship but that's because I don't generally believe it's the best way to go for two men in an early relationship. Maybe later, once they're both more interested in one another as a regular, fixed interest (regardless of some other things they do here and there) and are less interested in being with other people, but at the start, eh, probably not. At least for me.
TL;DR - I'd probably leave and try to find someone else better, that lets you know how they feel, actually does things with you (even if it's not sex right away) and blah-de-blah-blah. Though finding someone new might not be right away, you'd want to be okay with that. At least use a rubber if you sleep with her, god knows you wouldn't want to catch any disease she's brimming with (given her wide promiscuity) or accidentally create a spawn.
Personally, I wouldn't want to stick around when I couldn't tell quite how the other person felt about me and when they were constantly seeking sources of attention (sex, as you're pointing out) with an array of other people, not doing anything of the sort with me and then informing me of every last thing they do. Doesn't sound like much fun, or a fair part to be expected to be stuck in.
Personally I don't expect perfect monogamy when I get into an actual relationship but that's because I don't generally believe it's the best way to go for two men in an early relationship. Maybe later, once they're both more interested in one another as a regular, fixed interest (regardless of some other things they do here and there) and are less interested in being with other people, but at the start, eh, probably not. At least for me.
TL;DR - I'd probably leave and try to find someone else better, that lets you know how they feel, actually does things with you (even if it's not sex right away) and blah-de-blah-blah. Though finding someone new might not be right away, you'd want to be okay with that. At least use a rubber if you sleep with her, god knows you wouldn't want to catch any disease she's brimming with (given her wide promiscuity) or accidentally create a spawn.
You should dump her bloke. A relationship is not suppost is not all about sticking your knob in her glory hole. (now that you say how slutty she is it sounds like sex may be simular to throwing a hotdog down a hallway). seeing how me and my girl have been together for 2 years now and were doing great, i can speak from experience. the girl i was with b4 her was not a slut, but we were sure we wern't going any where i was crushed for a whole 8-9 months b4 i got back in the game. i made this promise i would pray for her every day and i still do though after 4 years even though i have moved on.